AJ143143

Feeling lonely. Realized the breakup I just went through was with a narcissist… I had a gut feeling but it was confirmed through the grapevine of his past relationships. Just 2 women that I know of said the same (and no not in a bashing way) one women said she was traumatized another had to seek out therapy due to being abused by him. I’m glad I’m out but my mind is still really sad sometimes about it all. Then mad at myself for even being sad. And it circles until I feel like drinking. It happened the last 2 days and I didn’t give in but a lot of tears have been shed for sure. Just sharing where I’m at as a wiggle my way emotionally into staying a non drinker and manage my emotions with this breakup. Thank you all again.

Dee74

Break ups are hard, even sometimes with people who are no good for us.
Drinking wont make anything better tho. and it might make you feel worse about yourself.

Embrace things that help you grow, not the things that diminish you

D

least

I know it might be hard to believe now, but if he was a narcissist, you're much better off without him. My dad once told me, It's better to be alone than to be treated badly.

AL48

Like Dee said AJ drinking won't make it better. It makes nothing better. I wish i could say something to make it easier but unfortunately its true that time will heal this one eventually. Stay strong AJ.

Cityboy

AJ, glad you checked in.

Time will keep taking the edge off those hurt feelings and eventually they won't be so bad. Then you will be better able to look forward in a positive and productive way.

Alpine

AJ, I am happy to see you are still here with us and very sorry about how you are feeling. These feelings will go away with time. Drinking will only compound your feelings on many levels. Don't give up or give in, don't let your feelings..the AV tell you otherwise.

fishkiller

As much as it sucks we Must feel those feelings.
Like others said they will ease up after a while.
Stay focused on yourself and your sobriety. Do what makes you feel good about you.
Others don't matter as much as we think.

We must love ourselves first.

Drinking takes that away from us.

You're doing just fine. Never give up. Be kind to yourself and brush that idiot to the side forever.

advbike

I hope you're doing alright, AJ.