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I'm doing alright Dee, all things considered. Mentally ill daughter, mother guilt, and benzo paws are not a good mix. It has been very difficult. I don't regret a single step.
Realised for the first time yesterday, that I was not to blame. Revolutionary stuff lol
I've come to take from posts on Friends and Family, that say we did not cause it, and we can't cure it......
My daughter's mental illness is her mental illness, and she needs to own it, if there is to be any way forward for her. I cannot do it for her no matter how much I would like.
I've asked for, and applied no contact. I need to take care of myself. Seems like a reasonable ask.
Realised for the first time yesterday, that I was not to blame. Revolutionary stuff lol
I've come to take from posts on Friends and Family, that say we did not cause it, and we can't cure it......
My daughter's mental illness is her mental illness, and she needs to own it, if there is to be any way forward for her. I cannot do it for her no matter how much I would like.
I've asked for, and applied no contact. I need to take care of myself. Seems like a reasonable ask.
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Hi Steely. Benzo paws as you probably recall is my issue too. Have you heard the term BIND? Benzo induced neurological disorder. I am almost 2 years out from alcohol and benzos( that I took as prescribed ) and I still have the rocking boaty dizziness and anhedonia also some inner vibrations in my right foot. Anyway, I hope you are having some improvement in your symptoms. Take care. 😊
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Yes, CB, I'm 41 months out Valium, and still partially derealised. 👀 Lots of stuff. I think I'm Protracted. Improving still.
Your symptoms will improve. I had the stuff you are describing at two years, too. Some of us seem to take longer. PAWS, and Protracted withdrawal are living hell. But there's light. And I want to sit in it on my own. Now.
I don't really know much about BIND. 'Neurological disorder' sounds right though.
I'm healing, and that's what I think we all do if we hold the line.
Find a line. Lol
Your symptoms will improve. I had the stuff you are describing at two years, too. Some of us seem to take longer. PAWS, and Protracted withdrawal are living hell. But there's light.
And I want to sit in it on my own. Now.I don't really know much about BIND. 'Neurological disorder' sounds right though.
I'm healing, and that's what I think we all do if we hold the line.
Find a line. Lol
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Good to see you working through it steely
It's easy to blame ourselves for everything. We did not make the best decisions while actively addicted so it Has to be our fault right?
No
Freewill. Others make their own choices and sometimes the universe just makes them for us.
Either way freeing yourself of misplaced guilt is good.
Instead of blaming yourself for the bad things take a little credit for the good things you do and have done.
Be kind to yourself
It's easy to blame ourselves for everything. We did not make the best decisions while actively addicted so it Has to be our fault right?
No
Freewill. Others make their own choices and sometimes the universe just makes them for us.
Either way freeing yourself of misplaced guilt is good.
Instead of blaming yourself for the bad things take a little credit for the good things you do and have done.
Be kind to yourself
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