AJ143143

We were only together 2 months. He was starting to be extremely critical and harsh towards me. So I told him how I felt and he pretty much went off on me… told me my fear of him leaving me just came true cause I pushed him away. I can’t stop crying.

AJ143143

Today I’m going to stay in bed all day. I’m not going to distract myself . I’m not going to workout. I’m just literally staying in bed

RunningScared

Breaking up is excruciatingly painful. It gets better with time, but it's hard to comprehend that. Taking care of yourself is great. Nothing wrong with staying in bed for a day!

sugarbear1

You don't deserve harshness or criticisms. Take care of you. Stay stopped and keep moving forward!

Anna

Breakups are hard. Take the time you need to get over this so you can feel better and move on.

Cityboy

AJ, not turning back to the wine or whatever for coping is really the most important thing right now. Being treated harshly with criticism is not healthy. The going off on you was probably just the mentality of not having things open for disagreement. Sounds like you are better off. You'll get through this without drinking and will be healthier and stronger.

Zencat

(((AJ))) sending healing vibes your way. Drinking will only cause more suffering that you don't need.


That is abusive behavior! RED FLAG

Dee74

Breakups are never easy but it sounds to me like this may have been for the best, AJ.

Once I got sober the toxic people in my life fell away and I began to find supportive kind people came into my life instead.

Don’t beat yourself up.

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Alpine

AJ, take time for yourself during this hard time. You deserve the very best and not the abuse. I have been working on setting boundaries which has helped me.

mns1

Sorry to hear AJ. Take care of yourself.

Jillian2563

Breakups can be tough. It may have been for a good reason however. I hope you have had a good day to yourself. Sometimes we just need to sit and feel the emotions. The days ahead WILL get better. Just don’t drink, it won’t help - trust me on that one.

AJ143143

Thank you everyone. I didn’t drink today. I’m actually ok. After a few people that know the details of the how he was treating me validated that it was not ok how he was talking to me, I’m glad I’m out of it now. I’m sure I will be sad. But today I didn’t drink. I did binge watch cheesy shows.

AJ143143

Thank you everyone. I didn’t drink today. I’m actually ok. After a few people that know the details of the how he was treating me validated that it was not ok how he was talking to me, I’m glad I’m out of it now. I’m sure I will be sad. But today I didn’t drink. I did binge watch cheesy shows.

DriGuy

I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds almost callous just hearing myself say that, but all of us experience this form of grief from loss, and looking back on it sometime down the road, it will just be "one of those things" that happened to you. It's good that you didn't drink. These are the kinds of trial that makes us stronger, unless of course you drink over it. Then it's a double loss.

Mizz

It sounds like this break up is for the better. These things do hurt. We want to be around people who respect us and treat us with kindness, love, and compassion. You are doing well. Keep doing that. No one should be tearing anyone down.

VikingGF

Break ups are never easy, even when they are for the best, as yours sounds it is- give yourself time to find a new balance- you'll be better in a short time. Good work on your sobriety! Be proud of that and look for people who appreciate you- not who try to change you or speak harshly to you- the good ones are out there and that's what you DESERVE.