I guess I always knew the story would be the same with him!
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Well he says its rhymes and rap and that he is good at it. He made the words rhyme but half the time things didn't make sense and there was not always a solid meaning throughout the rhyme. It seems its become his preferred method of communication and expressing himself, so weird that he wasn't doing it in the first 2 weeks of our texting though.
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I don't care how many likes I get
Can't be many!
Only have friends and family
Here
Another beer
Wie ein Stier ♉
I don't think I'll ever let it be
Or go. Enjoy
My f.. flow
Ich muss noch nicht Mal auf Cloh
Oh no
Das nimmt kein Ende
Vielleicht werde ich dich noch Mal ne Legende
Ich brauche keine Maschine gewähre
Und hab auf jeden Fall immer noch meine Ehre
Das ist eine Lehre
Ich bin auf ner Fähre
Fraser Island
All I need now is a band
Do you understand
Soon I lay on the strand, enjoy the sand
I speak 2 languages
In between I eat sandwiches
Swisch swish the sound of my basketball
Thru the net
Ja mein Freund der Schweiß is fett
Und ganz nett
If you want just clap
Or not
I don't stop
Here's another mess from him:
Nice
Toby
Or
Not
2be!
People need to open there eyes
They can't see
And are cold as ice
Surprise
Or not?
I know my rhymes are hot
And rock
I don't even want to stop
All the way to the top
And that was just freestyle English
Don't get me started in German
You still learnin
Dann gets los
Mit all mein flows
Anstoß
Fußball Deutschland Ole Ole
Kein ooh ne Oh nee
Nä
Schnee!
Ja man
Schau doch Mal hin was ich machen kann
Run
Because I'm fun
Shine brighter than the sun
Alles andere ist nur lahm
gelegt die Erde gebt
Earthquake
Are you going to take the bate?
Where is the faith
I got no hate
TBC
2
Be continued
Salute
Nun gut
Zieh dein Hut
Gute Nacht
Good night
No fight
Das wäre doch gelacht.
Here is one he sent me a couple weeks before he ended things:
No rush. It's just a minute lol. To be precise. I love that you keep fighting for us! Do your thing hun. No pressure just pleasure 😉. I know right? I'm sure you will feel tight and better then just right. Get back to me when ever you like, I'm in no hurry, let's go and eat mc flurry. Ice cream. Yes you are my dream. Things will be better than they seem. It's ok I believe you, and together we can make everything come true. I know this is more than romantic should show this rhyme to him. All good and just fine. I'm sure he'll like rap music, at my words are booming harder than boom box, yes hun I'm still wearing my socks. Hope my words one day mean something? All for you and then I think, you are amazing can't wait to be with you better then just a fling 🥰😉💋😘😎💚
Like WTF, can you see what I was dealing with?
umm. hmm. I won't comment on the rhyming attempts!
I have to ask though, when he is sending you this, why did you stick around? I mean I get sticking around in a bad situation, heck I've done it. But this is above and beyond. This is real mental instability.
Did you think somehow you could help him or you felt guilt or hoping he would straighten out?
I think Noelaus hit the nail on the head:
I have to ask though, when he is sending you this, why did you stick around? I mean I get sticking around in a bad situation, heck I've done it. But this is above and beyond. This is real mental instability.
Did you think somehow you could help him or you felt guilt or hoping he would straighten out?
I think Noelaus hit the nail on the head:
In psychology we call it clang
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umm. hmm. I won't comment on the rhyming attempts!
I have to ask though, when he is sending you this, why did you stick around? I mean I get sticking around in a bad situation, heck I've done it. But this is above and beyond. This is real mental instability.
Did you think somehow you could help him or you felt guilt or hoping he would straighten out?
I think Noelaus hit the nail on the head:
I have to ask though, when he is sending you this, why did you stick around? I mean I get sticking around in a bad situation, heck I've done it. But this is above and beyond. This is real mental instability.
Did you think somehow you could help him or you felt guilt or hoping he would straighten out?
I think Noelaus hit the nail on the head:
I asked his ex (mother of his kids) yesterday if he was still sending her rhymes when communicating or whether perhaps he stopped since our bust up and she said she was still getting the raps and rhymes so he hasn't stopped with those it seems.
It sounds like there is much more going on with him, but who can say.
This is something worth looking at really. A person who is addicted, or heck even just has a serious over-drinking problem (or weed) is who they are. Sober (for a day) or high, they are one person.
Separating the person from their issues, be that abuse, addiction, whatever the case is a guarantee that you will soon have a problem. He is one person, perhaps a kind of nice guy, but a guy with serious issues. If you focus on the times he is nice or caring or "normal" and hope and wish the others away (again, the "potential"), that's not really the truth.
He is both, sometimes nice guy, sometimes alcoholic rhyming and acting strange that is him.
If you chose to be in a relationship with a person (alcoholic or not) you get the whole package! I think the most important question to ask is, can I be ok with this. Can I accept his excessive drinking and drunken behaviour? If you can, then ask yourself why.
I don't know if there is any history of alcoholism or other addiction in your family, but that can be a root cause for having a high tolerance for abnormal (even abusive) behaviour.
I honestly thought it was just behavior coming out in him because he was under the influence of alcohol and weed
Separating the person from their issues, be that abuse, addiction, whatever the case is a guarantee that you will soon have a problem. He is one person, perhaps a kind of nice guy, but a guy with serious issues. If you focus on the times he is nice or caring or "normal" and hope and wish the others away (again, the "potential"), that's not really the truth.
He is both, sometimes nice guy, sometimes alcoholic rhyming and acting strange that is him.
If you chose to be in a relationship with a person (alcoholic or not) you get the whole package! I think the most important question to ask is, can I be ok with this. Can I accept his excessive drinking and drunken behaviour? If you can, then ask yourself why.
I don't know if there is any history of alcoholism or other addiction in your family, but that can be a root cause for having a high tolerance for abnormal (even abusive) behaviour.
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It sounds like there is much more going on with him, but who can say.
This is something worth looking at really. A person who is addicted, or heck even just has a serious over-drinking problem (or weed) is who they are. Sober (for a day) or high, they are one person.
Separating the person from their issues, be that abuse, addiction, whatever the case is a guarantee that you will soon have a problem. He is one person, perhaps a kind of nice guy, but a guy with serious issues. If you focus on the times he is nice or caring or "normal" and hope and wish the others away (again, the "potential"), that's not really the truth.
He is both, sometimes nice guy, sometimes alcoholic rhyming and acting strange that is him.
If you chose to be in a relationship with a person (alcoholic or not) you get the whole package! I think the most important question to ask is, can I be ok with this. Can I accept his excessive drinking and drunken behaviour? If you can, then ask yourself why.
I don't know if there is any history of alcoholism or other addiction in your family, but that can be a root cause for having a high tolerance for abnormal (even abusive) behaviour.
This is something worth looking at really. A person who is addicted, or heck even just has a serious over-drinking problem (or weed) is who they are. Sober (for a day) or high, they are one person.
Separating the person from their issues, be that abuse, addiction, whatever the case is a guarantee that you will soon have a problem. He is one person, perhaps a kind of nice guy, but a guy with serious issues. If you focus on the times he is nice or caring or "normal" and hope and wish the others away (again, the "potential"), that's not really the truth.
He is both, sometimes nice guy, sometimes alcoholic rhyming and acting strange that is him.
If you chose to be in a relationship with a person (alcoholic or not) you get the whole package! I think the most important question to ask is, can I be ok with this. Can I accept his excessive drinking and drunken behaviour? If you can, then ask yourself why.
I don't know if there is any history of alcoholism or other addiction in your family, but that can be a root cause for having a high tolerance for abnormal (even abusive) behaviour.
I blocked him so that I'm never in a position where he might unblock me and be back sending me a message which quite frankly I don't want to be in a position to have to deal with given our history and that I do care about him because I'm a good person and ignoring a message from him or just leaving him on read would make me feel like a right bitch, its definitely not out of spite or pettiness but as a necessity to my moving on..
No one in my family had addictions just to answer that question.
Thankyou for all your input, so appreciated.
LouLou, I really think you have made a wise decision. There is nothing but hurt to be found with him and you are well out of it.
Good for you for seeing all of that, it can be really difficult sometimes, we can want to jump in and help - which is a waste of our time and energy and emotion.
Don't be surprised if he shows up somehow. There is a poster in the friends and family section whose ex has now appeared at her place twice. Just stand strong, you already know how to handle this.
This is the other thread I'm referring to:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-up-again.html (Showed up again…)
Good for you for seeing all of that, it can be really difficult sometimes, we can want to jump in and help - which is a waste of our time and energy and emotion.
Don't be surprised if he shows up somehow. There is a poster in the friends and family section whose ex has now appeared at her place twice. Just stand strong, you already know how to handle this.
This is the other thread I'm referring to:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-up-again.html (Showed up again…)
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You may be hurting because you cared about him and you saw some hope.
But he showed you who he really is, and that's a good thing.
You're better moving on. He's not interested in changing, so your future with him would be like more of what you've been getting, and I don't think you want that.
Grieve and mourn, but also be thankful that you've had an opportunity to see who he is.
Grieve and mourn, but move on to the next chapter in your life.
But he showed you who he really is, and that's a good thing.
You're better moving on. He's not interested in changing, so your future with him would be like more of what you've been getting, and I don't think you want that.
Grieve and mourn, but also be thankful that you've had an opportunity to see who he is.
Grieve and mourn, but move on to the next chapter in your life.
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LouLou, I really think you have made a wise decision. There is nothing but hurt to be found with him and you are well out of it.
Good for you for seeing all of that, it can be really difficult sometimes, we can want to jump in and help - which is a waste of our time and energy and emotion.
Don't be surprised if he shows up somehow. There is a poster in the friends and family section whose ex has now appeared at her place twice. Just stand strong, you already know how to handle this.
This is the other thread I'm referring to:
Good for you for seeing all of that, it can be really difficult sometimes, we can want to jump in and help - which is a waste of our time and energy and emotion.
Don't be surprised if he shows up somehow. There is a poster in the friends and family section whose ex has now appeared at her place twice. Just stand strong, you already know how to handle this.
This is the other thread I'm referring to:
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You may be hurting because you cared about him and you saw some hope.
But he showed you who he really is, and that's a good thing.
You're better moving on. He's not interested in changing, so your future with him would be like more of what you've been getting, and I don't think you want that.
Grieve and mourn, but also be thankful that you've had an opportunity to see who he is.
Grieve and mourn, but move on to the next chapter in your life.
But he showed you who he really is, and that's a good thing.
You're better moving on. He's not interested in changing, so your future with him would be like more of what you've been getting, and I don't think you want that.
Grieve and mourn, but also be thankful that you've had an opportunity to see who he is.
Grieve and mourn, but move on to the next chapter in your life.
These posts, to me, show more about you than him.
I'd hope if he ever stumbled upon this forum (which stays at the top of Google search engine) he'd never see this post.
At the least this stuff should be moved to the Family and Friend Alcoholism forum where it's more acceptable. Isn't it breaking some rules about not posting personal info? Direct copy/pastes of others emails and facebook posts?
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I think you should be "sadder" for yourself. Why all the copy/pastes of his personal stuff? For all your "kindness" that you say you are, you surely aren't showing that here.
These posts, to me, show more about you than him.
I'd hope if he ever stumbled upon this forum (which stays at the top of Google search engine) he'd never see this post.
At the least this stuff should be moved to the Family and Friend Alcoholism forum where it's more acceptable. Isn't it breaking some rules about not posting personal info? Direct copy/pastes of others emails and facebook posts?
These posts, to me, show more about you than him.
I'd hope if he ever stumbled upon this forum (which stays at the top of Google search engine) he'd never see this post.
At the least this stuff should be moved to the Family and Friend Alcoholism forum where it's more acceptable. Isn't it breaking some rules about not posting personal info? Direct copy/pastes of others emails and facebook posts?
Thanks for your feedback though
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I haven't read it but definitely sounds interesting so I will try and source it.
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