FOMO at Weekends? Weekenders 19 - 22 August 2022
Magsie
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FOMO at Weekends? Weekenders 19 - 22 August 2022
FOMO at Weekends?
Weekenders 19 - 22 August 2022
FOMO ~ Fear Of Missing Out
Do you feel like you’re missing out not drinking? Your friends out drinking perhaps and you at home staying sober.
When I stopped drinking I realised I had to keep away from anything or anyone that I thought would tempt me to drink. I hadn’t enough sober muscles yet.
I recall one Christmas when 6 months sober a few work colleagues went out for drinks, I really wanted to go but I feared I would have a drink forced on me and not be able to say no, so I decided not to go.
For days after at work they talked of their Christmas “do”, which spread into the evening. I really felt like I’d missed out on a good night and felt isolated at work.
When I put things into perspective I realised I was still sober, I wasn’t hung over all weekend as I heard the stories unfold and I could hold my head up. If I had gone there’d have been stories of how drunk I had gotten and probably made a fool of myself, I’d have been embarrassed yet again.
Phew, I didn’t miss out after all!
I had a clear conscience, had a sober and productive weekend, maybe considered boring by others but for me, I kept my promise to myself, to stay sober.
Nowadays I wouldn’t want to go on a boozy night out at any cost. I wasn’t good company drunk. Always worried about the next few days what would be said at work how I’d made a fool of myself and that I regretted later.
FOMO? No chance!
JOMO? You bet!
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
Weekenders 19 - 22 August 2022
FOMO ~ Fear Of Missing Out
Do you feel like you’re missing out not drinking? Your friends out drinking perhaps and you at home staying sober.
When I stopped drinking I realised I had to keep away from anything or anyone that I thought would tempt me to drink. I hadn’t enough sober muscles yet.
I recall one Christmas when 6 months sober a few work colleagues went out for drinks, I really wanted to go but I feared I would have a drink forced on me and not be able to say no, so I decided not to go.
For days after at work they talked of their Christmas “do”, which spread into the evening. I really felt like I’d missed out on a good night and felt isolated at work.
When I put things into perspective I realised I was still sober, I wasn’t hung over all weekend as I heard the stories unfold and I could hold my head up. If I had gone there’d have been stories of how drunk I had gotten and probably made a fool of myself, I’d have been embarrassed yet again.
Phew, I didn’t miss out after all!
I had a clear conscience, had a sober and productive weekend, maybe considered boring by others but for me, I kept my promise to myself, to stay sober.
Nowadays I wouldn’t want to go on a boozy night out at any cost. I wasn’t good company drunk. Always worried about the next few days what would be said at work how I’d made a fool of myself and that I regretted later.
FOMO? No chance!
JOMO? You bet!
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
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Thanks Mags.
I think I suffer more from SIMO, sorry I missed out on so much in my life due to alcohol.
When I was still working I never socialised with my colleagues because I knew without doubt I would get hopelessly drunk. This would lead to a complete personality change and totally inappropriate behaviour. I was well respected there, I couldn't risk it.
Friends were dispensable, jobs weren't.
I think I suffer more from SIMO, sorry I missed out on so much in my life due to alcohol.
When I was still working I never socialised with my colleagues because I knew without doubt I would get hopelessly drunk. This would lead to a complete personality change and totally inappropriate behaviour. I was well respected there, I couldn't risk it.
Friends were dispensable, jobs weren't.
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Thanks Mags. Those first few weeks, months were tough and those feelings of what i thought I'd missed were playing on my mind .
Granted covid had some advantages as the pubs were closed but i made up for it free flowing on stupid drinking zoom quiz nights on the weekends.
Now i fill my spare time by going to bed early as the mornings are busy and weekends are even busier. Only last weekend fulfilled a wish to paddle around the harbour in calm weather and it was one of the most peaceful couple of hours ever.
We have nothing to fear as we are missing nothing.
Have a great weekend everyone
Granted covid had some advantages as the pubs were closed but i made up for it free flowing on stupid drinking zoom quiz nights on the weekends.
Now i fill my spare time by going to bed early as the mornings are busy and weekends are even busier. Only last weekend fulfilled a wish to paddle around the harbour in calm weather and it was one of the most peaceful couple of hours ever.
We have nothing to fear as we are missing nothing.
Have a great weekend everyone
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Thanks Mags. I'm IN for another sober weekend. This will be my third consecutive sober weekend.
FOMO has been a recurring theme throughout much of my adult life. I still sometimes get it though thankfully not as much as I used to. I like JOMO - I've not heard of that one before but it sounds a great positive way of looking at things.
FOMO has been a recurring theme throughout much of my adult life. I still sometimes get it though thankfully not as much as I used to. I like JOMO - I've not heard of that one before but it sounds a great positive way of looking at things.
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Hi all, this will be my first sober weekend in a long while. My brother is getting married and there will be lots of alcohol, but I am determined to stick to the non-alcoholic beverages and stay sober. My kids and my parents will definitely appreciate that.
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Always nice to see a new Weekender thread - Thanks Mags! 
Same as Kaily, I keep my distance from people at work and never drank around them….been working with them a little over a year now…every once in a while my coworker will say “I bet you’d be fun to get drunk with” and I’m like “That’s what I’ve been told”
I’ve since switched from FOMO to JOMO as well….peaceful and drama free suits me much better…..some think I’m boring, oh well….they can lurk around someone else’s business
Good to see you Lixie!
In for the weekend
Same as Kaily, I keep my distance from people at work and never drank around them….been working with them a little over a year now…every once in a while my coworker will say “I bet you’d be fun to get drunk with” and I’m like “That’s what I’ve been told”
I’ve since switched from FOMO to JOMO as well….peaceful and drama free suits me much better…..some think I’m boring, oh well….they can lurk around someone else’s business
Good to see you Lixie!
In for the weekend
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Ok. I forgot JOMO
No FOMO here, Mags.
My fear was letting myself down, not keeping my promise of self care to ME.
The pride and self love of keeping sober outweighs any any dangerous FOMO thoughts. Those are romanticizing drinking. Those thoughts that I would have fun alone or with others was a lie.
No FOMO here, Mags.
My fear was letting myself down, not keeping my promise of self care to ME.
The pride and self love of keeping sober outweighs any any dangerous FOMO thoughts. Those are romanticizing drinking. Those thoughts that I would have fun alone or with others was a lie.
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You're so right Purpirks. Saw a few rough looking heads on Sunday morning last after my excursion paddling in the harbour. I didn't FOMO at all.
Looking at them i know how they were probably feeling only too well.🤢. Definitely no FOMO ing that
Looking at them i know how they were probably feeling only too well.🤢. Definitely no FOMO ing that
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Morning, everyone! I'm in. Thanks, Mags!
At first, I definitely had major FOMO. My whole social life revolved around drinking. I was SURE I'd never go out and have fun with friends again after I quit. In fact that FOMO kept me drinking longer and more than I actually wanted to, in the last few months. But when things hit rock bottom for me, the fear of continuing to drink was greater than the FOMO. As it turned out, after while, I was able to go out and have fun with certain friends again, the ones who didn't drink heavily. I could go out to dinner and even to some parties where there was alcohol, and I was fine. Had more fun without alcohol than with it. I'm not going to say I'm immune to a little bit of FOMO sometimes. Every once in a while I romanticize a glass of wine or two and wish I could, but when it comes down to it, I don't actually want to drink. I know where it leads, and I'm not going down that road again. My social circle has shrunk. I don't go out that much anymore. I go out a "normal" amount now, I figure. I'm really really ok with it. I have a much more orderly and responsible life now. I like it this way, and JOMO is real for me at times.
At first, I definitely had major FOMO. My whole social life revolved around drinking. I was SURE I'd never go out and have fun with friends again after I quit. In fact that FOMO kept me drinking longer and more than I actually wanted to, in the last few months. But when things hit rock bottom for me, the fear of continuing to drink was greater than the FOMO. As it turned out, after while, I was able to go out and have fun with certain friends again, the ones who didn't drink heavily. I could go out to dinner and even to some parties where there was alcohol, and I was fine. Had more fun without alcohol than with it. I'm not going to say I'm immune to a little bit of FOMO sometimes. Every once in a while I romanticize a glass of wine or two and wish I could, but when it comes down to it, I don't actually want to drink. I know where it leads, and I'm not going down that road again. My social circle has shrunk. I don't go out that much anymore. I go out a "normal" amount now, I figure. I'm really really ok with it. I have a much more orderly and responsible life now. I like it this way, and JOMO is real for me at times.
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Thanks, dear Magsnificent!
SIMO! Kaily, I love it.
Nice photo, Al; thanks.
Good to see you, Lixie. Stay close. At the wedding, imagine all of us around you saying “Hey, Lixie, join us for a sparkly club soda with lemon!”. You can do it.
I am in for the Weekend, too. Sober is the only way to go.
SIMO! Kaily, I love it.
Nice photo, Al; thanks.
Good to see you, Lixie. Stay close. At the wedding, imagine all of us around you saying “Hey, Lixie, join us for a sparkly club soda with lemon!”. You can do it.
I am in for the Weekend, too. Sober is the only way to go.
So lovely of you to post such wonderful weekend starters. You are so appreciated. 
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