FOMO at Weekends? Weekenders 19 - 22 August 2022
Magsie
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Good Morning Weekenders from ‘a just getting light’ corner of England. 
You made me think Suze and AL at what I think the AV is. I guess to me, it’s certainly a part of me, an unruly part of my brain that can be pacified, just as a child can be. Part of my brain that has to be put in its place and not nurtured.
Many of my Friday mornings I woke up hung over, taking headache meds and water to get me ok for work, whilst planning when I could drink again and getting a thrill of expectation for my next drink. It’s unbelievable that I thought that way. Especially suffering from the night before’s hangover.
I’m sad that I wasted so much of my life in the throes of addiction but I’m so glad I beat it. In as much I stopped drinking, don’t want a drink and I’m stronger than any addictive voice that may pipe up now and again.
A person on SR says it feels like having a superpower and I agree. I never ever thought I’d feel this way. I don’t need booze to survive. It’s a good feeling.
Any guests and members reading this thinking you’d like to stop and stay stopped, the answer is you can.
Love to all Weekenders and Guests. xxxx
You made me think Suze and AL at what I think the AV is. I guess to me, it’s certainly a part of me, an unruly part of my brain that can be pacified, just as a child can be. Part of my brain that has to be put in its place and not nurtured.
Many of my Friday mornings I woke up hung over, taking headache meds and water to get me ok for work, whilst planning when I could drink again and getting a thrill of expectation for my next drink. It’s unbelievable that I thought that way. Especially suffering from the night before’s hangover.
I’m sad that I wasted so much of my life in the throes of addiction but I’m so glad I beat it. In as much I stopped drinking, don’t want a drink and I’m stronger than any addictive voice that may pipe up now and again.
A person on SR says it feels like having a superpower and I agree. I never ever thought I’d feel this way. I don’t need booze to survive. It’s a good feeling.
Any guests and members reading this thinking you’d like to stop and stay stopped, the answer is you can.
Love to all Weekenders and Guests. xxxx
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I'm in for a sober weekend.
Thanks for the post Mags. I definitely have Jomo instead of Fomo now. Socialise with friends but usually its in an eating environment and I'll drive. Luckily I've a few friends who barely drink but also plenty who do but I'm happy sober so I don't feel FOMO x
Thanks for the post Mags. I definitely have Jomo instead of Fomo now. Socialise with friends but usually its in an eating environment and I'll drive. Luckily I've a few friends who barely drink but also plenty who do but I'm happy sober so I don't feel FOMO x
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That post hits home Mags.
The morning after talk i would have with myself, it ended up being the every morning talk, but by mid day may be its ok to have one, by the time I'd left work I'd have convinced myself its ok to buy a few bottles and start the cycle all over again. Yes so much time wasted but now its much more, my time is appreciated, every sober minute of it.
Happy Friday 🙂
The morning after talk i would have with myself, it ended up being the every morning talk, but by mid day may be its ok to have one, by the time I'd left work I'd have convinced myself its ok to buy a few bottles and start the cycle all over again. Yes so much time wasted but now its much more, my time is appreciated, every sober minute of it.
Happy Friday 🙂
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Good morning Weekenders
I always think of the AV as being another part of me, the part of my brain that is aggravating and annoying. Like a screaming child, in fact, because it never wants to give up vying for attention. On the whole, I've learned to ignore it. When I try and reason with it, it invariably starts to win and I give in to its demands. I've learned that distraction and keeping myself busy helps.
I always think of the AV as being another part of me, the part of my brain that is aggravating and annoying. Like a screaming child, in fact, because it never wants to give up vying for attention. On the whole, I've learned to ignore it. When I try and reason with it, it invariably starts to win and I give in to its demands. I've learned that distraction and keeping myself busy helps.
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Kaily nailed what I was thinking last Night. Were I still hammered, I would have missed this Sunrise going on just now. And, oh yeah, the rest of Life.
The 'Fear' that's a fundamental of FOMO is an AV Parlor Trick. It's not real. Once I muscled through that concocted Fear, I faced the Reality that it's just an illusion. Not unlike pushing on Carnival Cotton Candy. You push. There's nothing there of substance. I also learned to create my own Mental State at, say, Dinners or other Events where Alcohol is the default Lubricant. The best defender of my Sobriety is my two Feet: just walk away.
The AV illusion was right up there with slaving towards being some ideal weight, or finally owning 'enough' possessions. In the clarity Sobriety provides, it's been a pleasant, ongoing journey to eschew all that, and serenely experience Life as it actually is. I can't lust after that which I no longer want. Including the disconnnected, dysfunctional state of Inebriation. Which, through physical dependence, perpetuates itself.
Thanks for guiding us to break this down, Mags...
Kaily nailed what I was thinking last Night. Were I still hammered, I would have missed this Sunrise going on just now. And, oh yeah, the rest of Life.
The 'Fear' that's a fundamental of FOMO is an AV Parlor Trick. It's not real. Once I muscled through that concocted Fear, I faced the Reality that it's just an illusion. Not unlike pushing on Carnival Cotton Candy. You push. There's nothing there of substance. I also learned to create my own Mental State at, say, Dinners or other Events where Alcohol is the default Lubricant. The best defender of my Sobriety is my two Feet: just walk away.
The AV illusion was right up there with slaving towards being some ideal weight, or finally owning 'enough' possessions. In the clarity Sobriety provides, it's been a pleasant, ongoing journey to eschew all that, and serenely experience Life as it actually is. I can't lust after that which I no longer want. Including the disconnnected, dysfunctional state of Inebriation. Which, through physical dependence, perpetuates itself.
Thanks for guiding us to break this down, Mags...
saoutchik
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Welcome to Weekenders mns1!
Super pics Kaily, MesaMan thanks. Keep 'em coming.
Good luck with the new home help Aly, think of it as free Spanish lessons.
Instead of loafing around at my desk and screens I have had to do real actual work myself the last couple of days due to staff absences. It's a bit of a shock to the system. Holidays and a train/bus strikes accounting for most of the missing numbers. It's fortunately the we are never busy at this time of the year. Never mind, home time is here.
Super pics Kaily, MesaMan thanks. Keep 'em coming.
Good luck with the new home help Aly, think of it as free Spanish lessons.
Instead of loafing around at my desk and screens I have had to do real actual work myself the last couple of days due to staff absences. It's a bit of a shock to the system. Holidays and a train/bus strikes accounting for most of the missing numbers. It's fortunately the we are never busy at this time of the year. Never mind, home time is here.
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Hello all! Mags the FOMO post really hit home. I wasn't here last weekend because we were out of town at a niece's wedding. I knew there would be lots of drinking there and I made up my mind to grit my teeth and get through it. I was chiding myself for not being able to just have one or two (though of course I knew I couldn't just have one or two. I was a private problem drinker - would stop after 3-4 in public to "keep up appearances" and then have the rest at home, or it would have been in a hotel room in this case). At first the reception was just as I thought, gritting my teeth, putting up with rude mask questions (Mr. Happy and I were the only ones wearing masks, and now we hear that someone, or maybe more, was/were diagnosed with COVID there). So there I sat with my stupid mask on, frowning behind it probably. And then came the too much drinking by others, and silly behavior, and I saw my former self! And didn't miss it one bit! Wow was that an eye-opener. Anyway, I'm back for another sober weekend and feeling good, having learned a pretty good FOMO lesson last weekend. Good weekend to all! 
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Magsie
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Good Morning Weekenders
I could see the stars half hour ago at 4.30am. They were shining so bright along with a crescent moon. We don’t see the stars so much nowadays, cloud often covers their view. It’s a beautiful site when I can see them though.
I watched a program about White Island in New Zealand and the eruption of the volcano in 2019. Daily trips went out to look round the island. Many visitors lost their lives while visiting that day. Some of the survivors were saying they wasn’t warned about all the dangers and there was no emergency plan.
I visited Mount Teidi in Tenerife years ago which is an active volcano but not erupted since early 1900’s. We didn’t think of any dangers (except the ride up and down the mountain, that was a bit hairy.
) Apparently some the tv series “planet of the apes” was filmed on the land below the volcano. (with Roddy McDowell, who was a brilliant ape).
Stray cat has been meowing for his grub and still wants more. Bless him. Best go see to him.
Love to all Weekenders xxxx
I could see the stars half hour ago at 4.30am. They were shining so bright along with a crescent moon. We don’t see the stars so much nowadays, cloud often covers their view. It’s a beautiful site when I can see them though.
I watched a program about White Island in New Zealand and the eruption of the volcano in 2019. Daily trips went out to look round the island. Many visitors lost their lives while visiting that day. Some of the survivors were saying they wasn’t warned about all the dangers and there was no emergency plan.
I visited Mount Teidi in Tenerife years ago which is an active volcano but not erupted since early 1900’s. We didn’t think of any dangers (except the ride up and down the mountain, that was a bit hairy.
) Apparently some the tv series “planet of the apes” was filmed on the land below the volcano. (with Roddy McDowell, who was a brilliant ape).Stray cat has been meowing for his grub and still wants more. Bless him. Best go see to him.
Love to all Weekenders xxxx
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Sounds like an interesting programme, Mags. Very sad, I guess the tour operators thought the risk so low that there was no need. If the opportunity had ever come along I'm sure I would of gone too without a second thought.
PJ The idea of this life game is staying alive which equates to no drinking ever.
I had horrible nightmares again last night. I dreamt I was at a party, very drunk and taking drugs. Then (I hope this isn't TMI) I was sexually abused, multiple times. Woken up exhausted and disturbed
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Sometimes I dread going to sleep.
PJ The idea of this life game is staying alive which equates to no drinking ever.
I had horrible nightmares again last night. I dreamt I was at a party, very drunk and taking drugs. Then (I hope this isn't TMI) I was sexually abused, multiple times. Woken up exhausted and disturbed
.Sometimes I dread going to sleep.
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That sounds nightmarish Kaily.
There are so many disasters out there at the moment Mags, from fires on mainland Europe to that sudden storm on Corsica its depressing at times, we have so much access to world news now.
The rest of my weekend will be made up of the last few bits of painting and cleaning before our Spanish student arrives for the school year. They're so brave leaving their family and home but it is always a great experience for them by the time school ends in June next year new friends and so on. Fingers crossed 🤞 we will get on great and she fits in with our family.
There are so many disasters out there at the moment Mags, from fires on mainland Europe to that sudden storm on Corsica its depressing at times, we have so much access to world news now.
The rest of my weekend will be made up of the last few bits of painting and cleaning before our Spanish student arrives for the school year. They're so brave leaving their family and home but it is always a great experience for them by the time school ends in June next year new friends and so on. Fingers crossed 🤞 we will get on great and she fits in with our family.
Magsie
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Kaily, it does sound nightmarish. 
They’re so real so when waking we feel it’s happened for a moment.
AL, that’s true ! We get so much news from around the earth and beyond, it can cram our heads if we let it. Hope the Spanish student fits in well with your family. It’s good of you to have her at your home too.
They’re so real so when waking we feel it’s happened for a moment. AL, that’s true ! We get so much news from around the earth and beyond, it can cram our heads if we let it. Hope the Spanish student fits in well with your family. It’s good of you to have her at your home too.
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Morning Weekenders!
Welcome Happytobehere, glad you got through the wedding.
I can remember going up Mount Teide a long time ago. Our travel rep had described it as an 'extinct' volcano, obviously not knowing the difference between extinct and dormant.
I hope the dream was just a one-off Kaily. Dreams like that can make you uncomfortable for for several hours after waking.
Good luck with the Spanish student AL!
I'm off to the tool hire shop soon to hopefully hire a floor polisher.
Welcome Happytobehere, glad you got through the wedding.
I can remember going up Mount Teide a long time ago. Our travel rep had described it as an 'extinct' volcano, obviously not knowing the difference between extinct and dormant.
I hope the dream was just a one-off Kaily. Dreams like that can make you uncomfortable for for several hours after waking.
Good luck with the Spanish student AL!
I'm off to the tool hire shop soon to hopefully hire a floor polisher.
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morning everyone !
ive been down in Florida for the past week getting some R&R and I've been able to catch up on some much needed sleep. I was also battling a little bit of a cold(I tested negative twice for COVID) so my energy level was nothing,
I really enjoyed my birthday and seeing my favorite band play some shows with 0 alcohol. I got hammered last year on my birthday and that sent me down another week bender. I had a very positive experience and I'm continuing to feel great.
Sleep has definitely turned a positive corner. I was struggling with it but I eliminated taking the melatonin. I also think it was the 2.5 week mark of my last bender. I fly back up to Georgia later today and have Sunday off to relax before orientation at my new position on Monday.
28 days
ive been down in Florida for the past week getting some R&R and I've been able to catch up on some much needed sleep. I was also battling a little bit of a cold(I tested negative twice for COVID) so my energy level was nothing,
I really enjoyed my birthday and seeing my favorite band play some shows with 0 alcohol. I got hammered last year on my birthday and that sent me down another week bender. I had a very positive experience and I'm continuing to feel great.
Sleep has definitely turned a positive corner. I was struggling with it but I eliminated taking the melatonin. I also think it was the 2.5 week mark of my last bender. I fly back up to Georgia later today and have Sunday off to relax before orientation at my new position on Monday.
28 days
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