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A little disappointed my sister hasn't called to see how I'm doing considering the hurricane that is going through my area and the situation I'm in right now. Worst storm in a long time and no call? I know she has a lot going on, but what does it take for a quick call just to check in. I've made sure I haven't troubled her with my cancer thing, so I do not know what it can be. Am I being too sensitive or self centered? I know if the situation was reversed, I'd be real worried about her and would definitely call to make sure she was ok. This is just another example of why I don't depend for help from other people. The only person I can depend on is me, and lately, the VA and you guys. Even the VA will show more concern for me than my own sister. I know I'm wrong in thinking this way, but I'll remember this when she needs me for something, and she will as she has done before.
I know this too will pass and I'm just venting a little, but it just really bites right now. John
I know this too will pass and I'm just venting a little, but it just really bites right now. John
She has a history of not calling tho, doesn’t she John?
my sister calls me every week my brother hasn’t called me since the 1980s…there’s no problem between us, he just wouldn’t think to call.
You have enough going on.
Hard as it is,sometimes you just have to accept people as they are, even siblings, I think.
Focus on the folks who support you
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my sister calls me every week my brother hasn’t called me since the 1980s…there’s no problem between us, he just wouldn’t think to call.
You have enough going on.
Hard as it is,sometimes you just have to accept people as they are, even siblings, I think.
Focus on the folks who support you
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I'm sure you're disappointed that your sister didn't call, but try to let it go. You need to stay positive and focused. Whatever her reasons are for not calling, it's not on you. You're doing great and taking care of things, and you have lots of friends here.
I'm sorry John, one would think your sister could make a call, that's for sure. It's hard to figure people sometimes. In some ways I know how you feel. Same book, different chapter. "The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune."
I have six siblings, and it is only one sister who keeps in regular contact to offer me support with my daughter. It is no easy task schizophrenia, and has impacted my mental and physical health greatly. The stress is enormous.
I think you are doing really well, John. Think I am too, all things considered.
On your side John.
Your SR sister, Steely.
I have six siblings, and it is only one sister who keeps in regular contact to offer me support with my daughter. It is no easy task schizophrenia, and has impacted my mental and physical health greatly. The stress is enormous.
I think you are doing really well, John. Think I am too, all things considered.
On your side John.
Your SR sister, Steely.
Family is strange.
It seems to be bugging you so why not try to call her?
I am not sure of yalls history but to me anymore it doesn't matter.
If you love her, call her.
Don't wait. You never know when it may be too late.
It seems to be bugging you so why not try to call her?
I am not sure of yalls history but to me anymore it doesn't matter.
If you love her, call her.
Don't wait. You never know when it may be too late.
That's a good idea Fish.
Give her a tingle John, it might get the ball rolling. Sometimes people run from that which makes them afraid. Fear of their own fragility. Their own mortality. Reach out, you hold the leading hand here.
Stay safe in those storms and floods John. From what I've been reading it's losing its power. I saw the images from Space (on TV, not me from Space ), and it looked massive. Oh,dear.
Tomatoes are really what it's all about, John. They ask nothing of us, except to tend.
Give her a tingle John, it might get the ball rolling. Sometimes people run from that which makes them afraid. Fear of their own fragility. Their own mortality. Reach out, you hold the leading hand here.
Stay safe in those storms and floods John. From what I've been reading it's losing its power. I saw the images from Space (on TV, not me from Space ), and it looked massive. Oh,dear.
Tomatoes are really what it's all about, John. They ask nothing of us, except to tend.
Praying you stay safe and well, and you are keeping the tomato 🍅 plant (acting as a vine in disguise), safe from the torrential winds and rain .
BIG hugs.
my siblings ignore me except one, It hurt, but I let them go last November. I’m healing and I feel better.
Also my son cut me off over a year ago. I love him so, but have finally given up feeding pearl to swine.
I agree, give her a call, and an update. You’ll find out if she has an issue or it just slipped her mind.
one of my hardest lessons is that many people don’t think as I do.
BIG hugs.
my siblings ignore me except one, It hurt, but I let them go last November. I’m healing and I feel better.
Also my son cut me off over a year ago. I love him so, but have finally given up feeding pearl to swine.
I agree, give her a call, and an update. You’ll find out if she has an issue or it just slipped her mind.
one of my hardest lessons is that many people don’t think as I do.
People are different, John. I call my younger brother every week. Have even had the police do welfare checks a couple times when he wouldn't return my calls. I also help him a little financially every month because I had better fortunes in life than he did. He won't take advice either, but Mom told me when I was a kid to watch after him and I always have. He rarely calls me, but I know he cares and is grateful. We're just all different.
I say give her a call. Don't hold onto a resentment.
I say give her a call. Don't hold onto a resentment.
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Had a nice call from my sister a few days ago. I tend to overreact sometimes. I'm no better than her when it comes to calling each other but we both have improved some over the past few years. I know she cares a lot for me and has shown it many times in her way. I need to remember that. I know she's very concerned about my current situation and really feels for me with what I'm going through and I need to remember she is going through a lot also. It's on me to call her more often to see how she's doing. John
I’m really glad she reached out John. I am the worse communicator between my brother and I, and he is so patient with me that way. I love him very much, but I’m just not quite as forthcoming about my emotions as he is, though I feel them deeply.
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I also think my sister is worried about getting bad news about my situation. She sounded worried that I only had three chemo treatments left, but I told her 12 treatments seems to be the max and I was told I would be taking medication after chemo was done, but she still sounded worried. I tried to reasure her that I'm doing fine and have a long ways to go, but I guess she felt the longer I get chemo the better. I told her I met a guy that has been taking chemo for many years depending on his cancer, so it's always possible if things ch ange, chemo might still be an option. That seemed to relieve her concerns. The way I'm feeling today, I figure I still got another 10 years left in me. Nothing to worry about. She was surprised I went back to work!! She didn't think I could do it. She was happy about it but concerned I might be overdoing it. Told her I know my limits but she knows that sometimes I push too hard. John
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I also think my sister is worried about getting bad news about my situation. She sounded worried that I only had three chemo treatments left, but I told her 12 treatments seems to be the max and I was told I would be taking medication after chemo was done, but she still sounded worried. I tried to reasure her that I'm doing fine and have a long ways to go, but I guess she felt the longer I get chemo the better. I told her I met a guy that has been taking chemo for many years depending on his cancer, so it's always possible if things ch ange, chemo might still be an option. That seemed to relieve her concerns. The way I'm feeling today, I figure I still got another 10 years left in me. Nothing to worry about. She was surprised I went back to work!! She didn't think I could do it. She was happy about it but concerned I might be overdoing it. Told her I know my limits but she knows that sometimes I push too hard. John
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I'm 72 years old, but look 42 (just kidding). People have always told me I look 20 years younger than I am, but unfortunately this cancer thing has probably changed that, with the lose of weight and hair. My face has really thinned out and my eyes are a bit sunken. But at my age, I really don't care. Not looking to impress anyone. The good news is that I'm saving money on getting my hair cut. Just got a trim a week ago and am probably good until 2023. John
Hi John just checking in—I joined a CrossFit locally this week and had my second workout. I’ve done it before, but it was more than 6 years ago, and I haven’t been working out regularly for at least 4 years so to say I am out of shape would be putting it mildly.
However, I have been walk / jogging with my pup in my somewhat hilly neighborhood the past six weeks, so that actually has helped me quite a bit to get through these first workouts. I am glad to be back in gym and prepping for my first trail race coming up in November.
I know I will have to walk quite a bit of the trail on race day, but that’s OK—at least I’m back in the game. I love being in the forests around here which are beautiful, and I really like the challenge of that kind of intense exercise. I am perfectly happy in the back of the pack these days.
Fall is settling in here with the trees beginning to show some muted oranges and yellows. It has been too dry to get much vibrant color, but the cooler days have felt good and since this is my favorite season, I am trying to get out and enjoy it as much as possible.
So that’s my fun update. I’m working on projects and other tasks per usual, but the focus lately has been on really enjoying the days and getting outside. I even found my cool Eagle’s Nest hammock with adjustable straps so going to hang that it between two trees right next to the lake this week to watch the sunset. Then the full moon. 🌕
How are things with you?
However, I have been walk / jogging with my pup in my somewhat hilly neighborhood the past six weeks, so that actually has helped me quite a bit to get through these first workouts. I am glad to be back in gym and prepping for my first trail race coming up in November.
I know I will have to walk quite a bit of the trail on race day, but that’s OK—at least I’m back in the game. I love being in the forests around here which are beautiful, and I really like the challenge of that kind of intense exercise. I am perfectly happy in the back of the pack these days.
Fall is settling in here with the trees beginning to show some muted oranges and yellows. It has been too dry to get much vibrant color, but the cooler days have felt good and since this is my favorite season, I am trying to get out and enjoy it as much as possible.
So that’s my fun update. I’m working on projects and other tasks per usual, but the focus lately has been on really enjoying the days and getting outside. I even found my cool Eagle’s Nest hammock with adjustable straps so going to hang that it between two trees right next to the lake this week to watch the sunset. Then the full moon. 🌕
How are things with you?
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Hi John just checking in—I joined a CrossFit locally this week and had my second workout. I’ve done it before, but it was more than 6 years ago, and I haven’t been working out regularly for at least 4 years so to say I am out of shape would be putting it mildly.
However, I have been walk / jogging with my pup in my somewhat hilly neighborhood the past six weeks, so that actually has helped me quite a bit to get through these first workouts. I am glad to be back in gym and prepping for my first trail race coming up in November.
I know I will have to walk quite a bit of the trail on race day, but that’s OK—at least I’m back in the game. I love being in the forests around here which are beautiful, and I really like the challenge of that kind of intense exercise. I am perfectly happy in the back of the pack these days.
Fall is settling in here with the trees beginning to show some muted oranges and yellows. It has been too dry to get much vibrant color, but the cooler days have felt good and since this is my favorite season, I am trying to get out and enjoy it as much as possible.
So that’s my fun update. I’m working on projects and other tasks per usual, but the focus lately has been on really enjoying the days and getting outside. I even found my cool Eagle’s Nest hammock with adjustable straps so going to hang that it between two trees right next to the lake this week to watch the sunset. Then the full moon. 🌕
How are things with you?
However, I have been walk / jogging with my pup in my somewhat hilly neighborhood the past six weeks, so that actually has helped me quite a bit to get through these first workouts. I am glad to be back in gym and prepping for my first trail race coming up in November.
I know I will have to walk quite a bit of the trail on race day, but that’s OK—at least I’m back in the game. I love being in the forests around here which are beautiful, and I really like the challenge of that kind of intense exercise. I am perfectly happy in the back of the pack these days.
Fall is settling in here with the trees beginning to show some muted oranges and yellows. It has been too dry to get much vibrant color, but the cooler days have felt good and since this is my favorite season, I am trying to get out and enjoy it as much as possible.
So that’s my fun update. I’m working on projects and other tasks per usual, but the focus lately has been on really enjoying the days and getting outside. I even found my cool Eagle’s Nest hammock with adjustable straps so going to hang that it between two trees right next to the lake this week to watch the sunset. Then the full moon. 🌕
How are things with you?
A lot going on on my end. Had a long talk with a doctor about my situation. He said everything looks great. The tumor has shrunk a lot to the point chemo isn't necessary anymore, so I got done early. I hope he's right quitting the chemo early, but knowing I can go back on it if necessary sounded good, Will be on medication from now on, with frequent checkups to see how I'm doing. The bummer is that he said the type of cancer I have is very aggressive, so it's almost impossible to completely get rid of it. He did say the tumor has gotten so small that surgery or radiation might be options!! But even removing the tumor completely doesn't mean it won't come back because it is so aggressive. He did say my hair will probably grow back, I should have less pain and less fatigue, so going back to work and maybe even the gym is possible. And I'm continuing to gain weight so I feel great right now.
Again, great to see you are working hard to stay in shape and staying busy. That's so important. Great hearing from you. Take care, John
That's a lot of good news, John. Clearly sticking with the chemo has really helped your situation. I hope that you feel better and continue to get stronger and gain weight. I'm really happy for you.
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Yeah, I was really happy with the results, and I thought many times to just quit chemo, but yours and others support helped a lot with me sticking with it. Feeling really hopeful about the future. Thanks for your support. Means a lot. John
You are of great inspiration to me John. Both of us struggling with illness in one form or another. And I know it is not easy.
I have some good news to report in that my daughter's psychiatrist has set up fortnightly sessions whereby my daughter and I meet with him, and a case worker, on a fortnightly basis. Psychodynamic Therapy. We have have had 3 sessions, so far.
I am so very grateful. I've felt the weight lifted from my shoulders as the cavalry moved in with support for us both, as mother and daughter. Sobbed my little heart out yesterday. Second session. Starting to feel a little lighter, able to do a few more things now. Was so depressed, anxious, alone. I know there is sr, but I had nothing on the ground, and this has helped so much.
Also need to raise my cap cap to Medicare, without which we could never have afforded such a such a service. The doctor also has a private practice in the top end of town, but sees for us free. He's a good man, and I praise the lord for his kind and generous heart. He's also a good psychiatrist.
Kick on John. Follow your heart. ❤️
I have some good news to report in that my daughter's psychiatrist has set up fortnightly sessions whereby my daughter and I meet with him, and a case worker, on a fortnightly basis. Psychodynamic Therapy. We have have had 3 sessions, so far.
I am so very grateful. I've felt the weight lifted from my shoulders as the cavalry moved in with support for us both, as mother and daughter. Sobbed my little heart out yesterday. Second session. Starting to feel a little lighter, able to do a few more things now. Was so depressed, anxious, alone. I know there is sr, but I had nothing on the ground, and this has helped so much.
Also need to raise my cap cap to Medicare, without which we could never have afforded such a such a service. The doctor also has a private practice in the top end of town, but sees for us free. He's a good man, and I praise the lord for his kind and generous heart. He's also a good psychiatrist.
Kick on John. Follow your heart. ❤️
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