We got Sober…Where do we go from this point on? Weekenders 15 - 18 July 2022
Magsie
Thread Starter
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,662
Congratulations on 243 , they’re certainly mounting up. Sleep well. 
Kaily, I’m pleased you could see a therapist. Give it time, it may get clearer and more fulfilling as the sessions move on. Sorry it’s triggering. Take plenty of sober tools and your sober muscles with you.
. I felt like I’d been through the wringer when I went. Though I did get more understanding of the me I’d hidden from myself.
I hope your neighbors look after their dog as you have.
I’ve found some supermarket bird food ‘dusty’.
Kaily, I’m pleased you could see a therapist. Give it time, it may get clearer and more fulfilling as the sessions move on. Sorry it’s triggering. Take plenty of sober tools and your sober muscles with you.
. I felt like I’d been through the wringer when I went. Though I did get more understanding of the me I’d hidden from myself. I hope your neighbors look after their dog as you have.
I’ve found some supermarket bird food ‘dusty’.
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Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: Florida
Posts: 6,421
Kaily, I hope the therapy sessions get better. I've had poor luck with the cheap grocery store bird seed also.
Sao, it took me a second also. Nice.
Patcha, hang close and let up help you through.
The British Open is on this morning. They were just showing TW tee off.
Sao, it took me a second also. Nice.
Patcha, hang close and let up help you through.
The British Open is on this morning. They were just showing TW tee off.
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Join Date: Jan 2021
Location: NC
Posts: 1,652
Thanks Mags for the new Opener. I am guilty of playing the blame game. I need to be held accountable. And as someone else said live in the moment and not worry about the past or future. I am a chronic worrier.
Anyway, I am in for another sober weekend. Will hit month 19 on Sunday.
Anyway, I am in for another sober weekend. Will hit month 19 on Sunday.
congratulations on 19th month 
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Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: NC
Posts: 5,157
Hello everyone
I always read the weekenders but my attention span is so short I don't post much because I feel bad if I miss responding to anyone.
I know.
Anyway 2.5 years ago today I was drinking. Day drinking alone. I was miserable. Had been for quit some time.
I found SR mentioned on another forum totally unrelated to sobriety or anything close to it. Someone posted asking for help quitting in a general discussion area of the forum and a poster sent a link to SR.
I was a member of the forum but had found the post during a Google search for quitting drinking. It was an older post so I never saw it while on the forum.
I joined. I posted. I got support pretty quickly. I stayed here all day.
Still drinking. Once I start I cannot, well at least will not, stop until I pass out.
I read countless posts and spent who knows how many hours here reading and responding to folks supporting my thread.
This place just felt right to me.
I was not wrong.
That was and will be the last day of my life alcohol ever touched my lips.
I had been on other quitting forums but they all pretty much centered on a certain program or mindset.
I think what made SR so comfortable to me was the different thought processes. The different methods discussed and I think out of all was the fact everyone agreed there was more than one way to quit and that it was up to me to find the way that worked for me.
I liked that open mindedness. It was comforting. I didn't Have to do it this way or that way. I could do what felt right for Me.
And that is exactly what I have done.
That's how I've done most things in my life, take a bunch of info and compare it to my life and skillset then make it work. So why could it not be done with sobriety?!
Frankly I had never thought of that.
Where do I go from here? Forward of course.
Sober
Thanks to all who post on SR. Your words truly do change people's lives.
To those who are still struggling to find their way, keep looking. Never stop looking but don't use the excuse you haven't found the right way yet to keep drinking. Put the booze down and Make your Own way.
Or take a path followed by many before.
One of the 2 Will work for you but you gotta Work it.
Can't plant a seed if you don't first Work the soil.
Have a Great weekend everyone and keep fighting the good fight
I always read the weekenders but my attention span is so short I don't post much because I feel bad if I miss responding to anyone.
I know.
Anyway 2.5 years ago today I was drinking. Day drinking alone. I was miserable. Had been for quit some time.
I found SR mentioned on another forum totally unrelated to sobriety or anything close to it. Someone posted asking for help quitting in a general discussion area of the forum and a poster sent a link to SR.
I was a member of the forum but had found the post during a Google search for quitting drinking. It was an older post so I never saw it while on the forum.
I joined. I posted. I got support pretty quickly. I stayed here all day.
Still drinking. Once I start I cannot, well at least will not, stop until I pass out.
I read countless posts and spent who knows how many hours here reading and responding to folks supporting my thread.
This place just felt right to me.
I was not wrong.
That was and will be the last day of my life alcohol ever touched my lips.
I had been on other quitting forums but they all pretty much centered on a certain program or mindset.
I think what made SR so comfortable to me was the different thought processes. The different methods discussed and I think out of all was the fact everyone agreed there was more than one way to quit and that it was up to me to find the way that worked for me.
I liked that open mindedness. It was comforting. I didn't Have to do it this way or that way. I could do what felt right for Me.
And that is exactly what I have done.
That's how I've done most things in my life, take a bunch of info and compare it to my life and skillset then make it work. So why could it not be done with sobriety?!
Frankly I had never thought of that.
Where do I go from here? Forward of course.
Sober
Thanks to all who post on SR. Your words truly do change people's lives.
To those who are still struggling to find their way, keep looking. Never stop looking but don't use the excuse you haven't found the right way yet to keep drinking. Put the booze down and Make your Own way.
Or take a path followed by many before.
One of the 2 Will work for you but you gotta Work it.
Can't plant a seed if you don't first Work the soil.
Have a Great weekend everyone and keep fighting the good fight
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,198
Good to see you Patcha!
Good post Fishkiller, I has not really thought about it before but you're right, people don't tend to chainsaw a specific recovery method on SR and that is a good thing because "all" you need to do is not drink - not drinking won't kill you so how you get to not drinking is all personal psychology. You just have to keep examining yourself until you find the mindset that gets you sober.
There is a possibility that on Sunday the temperature in the UK (or parts of it) will hit the highest ever recorded. 40°C / 104°F s a possibilty. The temperature had never reached 100°F until 2003. Global warming has well and truly arrived.
Hey ho, at least it's Friday and hometime.
Good post Fishkiller, I has not really thought about it before but you're right, people don't tend to chainsaw a specific recovery method on SR and that is a good thing because "all" you need to do is not drink - not drinking won't kill you so how you get to not drinking is all personal psychology. You just have to keep examining yourself until you find the mindset that gets you sober.
There is a possibility that on Sunday the temperature in the UK (or parts of it) will hit the highest ever recorded. 40°C / 104°F s a possibilty. The temperature had never reached 100°F until 2003. Global warming has well and truly arrived.
Hey ho, at least it's Friday and hometime.
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Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,474
Originally Posted by fishkiller 
Hello everyone
I always read the weekenders but my attention span is so short I don't post much because I feel bad if I miss responding to anyone.
I know.
Anyway 2.5 years ago today I was drinking. Day drinking alone. I was miserable. Had been for quit some time.
I found SR mentioned on another forum totally unrelated to sobriety or anything close to it. Someone posted asking for help quitting in a general discussion area of the forum and a poster sent a link to SR.
I was a member of the forum but had found the post during a Google search for quitting drinking. It was an older post so I never saw it while on the forum.
I joined. I posted. I got support pretty quickly. I stayed here all day.
Still drinking. Once I start I cannot, well at least will not, stop until I pass out.
I read countless posts and spent who knows how many hours here reading and responding to folks supporting my thread.
This place just felt right to me.
I was not wrong.
That was and will be the last day of my life alcohol ever touched my lips.
I had been on other quitting forums but they all pretty much centered on a certain program or mindset.
I think what made SR so comfortable to me was the different thought processes. The different methods discussed and I think out of all was the fact everyone agreed there was more than one way to quit and that it was up to me to find the way that worked for me.
I liked that open mindedness. It was comforting. I didn't Have to do it this way or that way. I could do what felt right for Me.
And that is exactly what I have done.
That's how I've done most things in my life, take a bunch of info and compare it to my life and skillset then make it work. So why could it not be done with sobriety?!
Frankly I had never thought of that.
Where do I go from here? Forward of course.
Sober
Thanks to all who post on SR. Your words truly do change people's lives.
To those who are still struggling to find their way, keep looking. Never stop looking but don't use the excuse you haven't found the right way yet to keep drinking. Put the booze down and Make your Own way.
Or take a path followed by many before.
One of the 2 Will work for you but you gotta Work it.
Can't plant a seed if you don't first Work the soil.
Have a Great weekend everyone and keep fighting the good fight
I always read the weekenders but my attention span is so short I don't post much because I feel bad if I miss responding to anyone.
I know.
Anyway 2.5 years ago today I was drinking. Day drinking alone. I was miserable. Had been for quit some time.
I found SR mentioned on another forum totally unrelated to sobriety or anything close to it. Someone posted asking for help quitting in a general discussion area of the forum and a poster sent a link to SR.
I was a member of the forum but had found the post during a Google search for quitting drinking. It was an older post so I never saw it while on the forum.
I joined. I posted. I got support pretty quickly. I stayed here all day.
Still drinking. Once I start I cannot, well at least will not, stop until I pass out.
I read countless posts and spent who knows how many hours here reading and responding to folks supporting my thread.
This place just felt right to me.
I was not wrong.
That was and will be the last day of my life alcohol ever touched my lips.
I had been on other quitting forums but they all pretty much centered on a certain program or mindset.
I think what made SR so comfortable to me was the different thought processes. The different methods discussed and I think out of all was the fact everyone agreed there was more than one way to quit and that it was up to me to find the way that worked for me.
I liked that open mindedness. It was comforting. I didn't Have to do it this way or that way. I could do what felt right for Me.
And that is exactly what I have done.
That's how I've done most things in my life, take a bunch of info and compare it to my life and skillset then make it work. So why could it not be done with sobriety?!
Frankly I had never thought of that.
Where do I go from here? Forward of course.
Sober
Thanks to all who post on SR. Your words truly do change people's lives.
To those who are still struggling to find their way, keep looking. Never stop looking but don't use the excuse you haven't found the right way yet to keep drinking. Put the booze down and Make your Own way.
Or take a path followed by many before.
One of the 2 Will work for you but you gotta Work it.
Can't plant a seed if you don't first Work the soil.
Have a Great weekend everyone and keep fighting the good fight
And I am so very glad you accidentally stumbled upon SR on that day 2.5 years ago.
s xx
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 3,010
I hope everyone is doing well.
This Covid nightmare has left me up in a heap. I can't sleep properly at night and keep nodding off in small bursts when I get in in the late afternoon. Appetite is still not good so I'm off to the chemist in a while to get some more of those GP prescribed drinks which I should have collected on Wednesday. I felt like rubbish yesterday that I actually feel like I have long Covid. I was reading about the symptoms and a lot of how I feel does point to that. Hoping to go to town tomorrow if I can as I haven't been in a bookshop for ages. It's a nice day weather wise. Have a nice weekend everyone!
This Covid nightmare has left me up in a heap. I can't sleep properly at night and keep nodding off in small bursts when I get in in the late afternoon. Appetite is still not good so I'm off to the chemist in a while to get some more of those GP prescribed drinks which I should have collected on Wednesday. I felt like rubbish yesterday that I actually feel like I have long Covid. I was reading about the symptoms and a lot of how I feel does point to that. Hoping to go to town tomorrow if I can as I haven't been in a bookshop for ages. It's a nice day weather wise. Have a nice weekend everyone!
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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: SF Bay Area, CA
Posts: 33,447
Oh gosh. I didn't realize it was that bad. If you need to report them, like Venus says, please do so. Love you Kaily and your lovely pets! 
Good luck and all the best to you and your lovely dogs. Take good care of the babies! 
💖💥💢💟💞☮💫☯💖
Love and peace to all of you, my friends.
Good luck and all the best to you and your lovely dogs. Take good care of the babies! 💖💥💢💟💞☮💫☯💖Love and peace to all of you, my friends.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London, England
Posts: 7,058
Aly it is not my dog that is poorly, it's a neighbours dog.
Venus, I can't report my neighbours I have to live here. I need to draw a line else I will make myself ill. I have done and said what I can.
Venus, I can't report my neighbours I have to live here. I need to draw a line else I will make myself ill. I have done and said what I can.
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Join Date: Jan 2021
Location: NC
Posts: 1,652
Tetra so very sorry you think you have long covid. I have heard there are support groups for it.
Kaily I am sorry your neighbors are being irresponsible about their dog. Did you try to tactfully suggest they take him to the vet? Maybe you did and I missed that.
Sao I am with you on the climate change. I am trying to reduce my carbon footprint as much as I can. Looking into getting solar panels on my roof. Not sure I get enough sun. Is this allowed or is this discussion political? It really is just science and fact.
Kaily I am sorry your neighbors are being irresponsible about their dog. Did you try to tactfully suggest they take him to the vet? Maybe you did and I missed that.
Sao I am with you on the climate change. I am trying to reduce my carbon footprint as much as I can. Looking into getting solar panels on my roof. Not sure I get enough sun. Is this allowed or is this discussion political? It really is just science and fact.
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 3,994
Hello Weekenders,
I'm checking in for a sober weekend. I'm struggling with severe depression and can hardly function. Yet another medication trial, it's very wearying. I can just about brush my teeth, that's all.
Kaily, I'm so sorry about your ME. That must be a huge challenge. You did your best with that poor dog.
FK, thanks for the inspiring post. Your story and contributions have helped me a lot.
I'm checking in for a sober weekend. I'm struggling with severe depression and can hardly function. Yet another medication trial, it's very wearying. I can just about brush my teeth, that's all.
Kaily, I'm so sorry about your ME. That must be a huge challenge. You did your best with that poor dog.
FK, thanks for the inspiring post. Your story and contributions have helped me a lot.
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Join Date: Oct 2021
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CB, I am a huge worrier too. Mr. Alpine says if there is nothing to worry about I will make up something to worry about.
Kailey, sorry about the pup issues. It is so hard when your hands are tied
Leshar, sorry you are feeling so depressed. I have been there and it is no fun. Big hug to you]
Tetra, sorry you are feeling so poorly. I hope you feel better soon.
Kailey, sorry about the pup issues. It is so hard when your hands are tied
Leshar, sorry you are feeling so depressed. I have been there and it is no fun. Big hug to you]
Tetra, sorry you are feeling so poorly. I hope you feel better soon.
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