Back after a decade
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Back after a decade
I used to read and post on this forum a lot, when my drinking first got bad, in around 2012/2013 when I was 20/21 years old.
Since then I have had a decade of psychiatric hospital admissions (not drinking related) and have mentally been very unwell. For some of that time I have drunk alcoholically, other times I haven't drunk at all.
But now I'm lost. I'm 30 years old, living with my parents, and spending every night locked in the bathroom to drink secretly and alone (they are Christian and don't agree with drinking).
I have no idea what to do. Each night is worse than the one before.
I have tried AA, but I found the meetings very intimidating, and I didn't identify much with the other women. I do want AA to work, it seems like such a positive thing, I just don't know how to make it work for me.
Does anyone haveany advice?
Since then I have had a decade of psychiatric hospital admissions (not drinking related) and have mentally been very unwell. For some of that time I have drunk alcoholically, other times I haven't drunk at all.
But now I'm lost. I'm 30 years old, living with my parents, and spending every night locked in the bathroom to drink secretly and alone (they are Christian and don't agree with drinking).
I have no idea what to do. Each night is worse than the one before.
I have tried AA, but I found the meetings very intimidating, and I didn't identify much with the other women. I do want AA to work, it seems like such a positive thing, I just don't know how to make it work for me.
Does anyone haveany advice?
Hi and welcome back Kawai - though I'm sorry to hear you are struggling.
Have you tried online AA - you'd have a wider range of meetings to choose from there.
There are many meeting based approaches now and most of them are online as well like SMART Recovery, or LifeRing.
Plugging yourself back in here regularly too could help?
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Have you tried online AA - you'd have a wider range of meetings to choose from there.
There are many meeting based approaches now and most of them are online as well like SMART Recovery, or LifeRing.
Plugging yourself back in here regularly too could help?
D
I know this will sound irrelevant and perhaps nonsensical but my advice is to find one person to help.... every day.... with something.....no matter how small the favor might be. Words of encouragement, perhaps just a warm smile, but something. Give something...... every single day.
Welcome!
I went to AA because the only sober people I have known (in “real life”) used the AA program. I was intimidated and scared at the beginning, but I was also desperate to get better.
I have found the rooms of AA to be filled with kind, wise, giving, and non-judgmental folks who want to help others who suffer as they did. It is now a place of freedom for me!
Of course, online meetings or other support groups, therapists, etc…. are totally valid options! Just sharing my experience and letting you know that I had nothing to be afraid of in attending AA.
Glad that you are here!
-TC
I went to AA because the only sober people I have known (in “real life”) used the AA program. I was intimidated and scared at the beginning, but I was also desperate to get better.
I have found the rooms of AA to be filled with kind, wise, giving, and non-judgmental folks who want to help others who suffer as they did. It is now a place of freedom for me!
Of course, online meetings or other support groups, therapists, etc…. are totally valid options! Just sharing my experience and letting you know that I had nothing to be afraid of in attending AA.
Glad that you are here!
-TC
I have tried AA, but I found the meetings very intimidating, and I didn't identify much
I go to secular AA zoom meetings, post here sometimes, do some meditation. A bunch of different things that give me a good foundation. Here is a list of secular recovery meetings, not just AA, but Buddhist recovery, and programs like Life Ring. If I have done it right, it will show you the meeting times in your time zone. I tried to get sober on my own but I just couldn't. Recovery is worth fighting for. For a long time I just passively hoped to be able to quit but I didn't really have any tools or skills to use to stop drinking. I guess that's where you are now - ready to find some tools to try out.
https://www.worldwidesecularmeetings.com/meetings
https://www.worldwidesecularmeetings.com/meetings
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