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Old 04-03-2022, 02:54 AM
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8 years of no alcohol today

I haven’t posted on here in 3 years. Sober recovery.com is where I started my sober journey 8 years ago. Life has been hard to say the least. My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago right before our 3 year anniversary. I’ve been trying to focus on my mental health more now that I have more time on my hands. I did just start a job personal training. Which is something I’ve always wanted to do. I’m also almost debt free which was a goal I started focusing on last year. I’m trying to realize that life i happening for me and not against me but sometimes it feels hard with everything I’ve sacrificed to have someone up and leave you. I have to just let them go which is what I’ve done.

I think it’s a tough journey my life but there will be prosperity soon I just don’t know when. I didn’t think I’d be single at 33 but then again I didn’t think I would last 8 years without alcohol when I first started this journey either. Sometimes the right people come into your life at the right time and leave at the wrong time. After being through 3 relationships. 1st one 6 years 2nd one 2.5 years and my most recent one 3 years I feel as if I need to take this tome
blw to focus on myself and let someone come to me vs go chase people. Believing in your path is the toughest thing to do when it starts to get rocky and hard to walk on. That’s what builds us though to prepare for the smoother paths so we don’t take the for granted and enjoy them more. I will keep this post short. I hope everyone is having a good weekend and thank you for all your support over the years and continue to live a good life!
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I'm sorry for your break up Brad but I'm sure better times are ahead
Congrats on 8 years !
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Congratulations on 8 years Brad.
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Old 04-03-2022, 03:22 AM
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Congratulations on 8 years sober! The adage “when the student is ready the teacher shall appear” has applied in my life including applying to relationships. True peace comes from within so no need to chase. Trust in your path 🙏
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Old 04-03-2022, 03:43 AM
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Old 04-03-2022, 03:54 AM
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Congrats on 8 years.
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Old 04-03-2022, 05:41 AM
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Eight years is no small accomplishment. You sound like you are counting the good things along with the bad, and that's important. No amount of alcohol solves anything.
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Old 04-03-2022, 06:41 AM
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Old 04-03-2022, 07:01 AM
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Congrats on 8 years Brad!! That is something else!!

I think you are thinking right about future relationships. Let the relationship come to you organically and over time. Relationships that start off slowly with a friendship last the longest I think. But that approach takes maturity, patience and confidence.

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Brad, congratulations on 8 years of recovery.
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Old 04-03-2022, 07:06 AM
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Brad, what a great post and HUGE congrats on 8 years.

33 is young, I’m twice your age and got married last year. Had kids at 38, and I’m female, so there’s a clock ticking for us ladies.

Working on yourself is great, I think like our sobriety journey, it never ends.

I did meet my honey on match.com, because where I live there’s no way I ever would have met him. Lots of liars out there, but I always kept my side clean.

Keep up the great work, sober, debt free, etc. you sound like a great catch to me 🤓❤️
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Old 04-03-2022, 07:30 AM
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8 years!!!!!!! That's amazing!!!!

I get the single thing. My first long term relationship was from age 15-20, the next from 21-30, and the next 30-39. Being single and 40 was not something I was planning for. But you are ABSOLUTELY right - focus on yourself. The right person will come along when you are ready....at least that's what I tell myself incessantly when I'm lonely lol.

Congrats again!!!!!!
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Well done Brad.
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Old 04-03-2022, 08:47 AM
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Congratulations Brad! I’m sorry about your breakup. You might just find that better things come out if it!
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Congratulations on 8 years sober Brad!!
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Hi Brad - it's great to see you posting.

I'm so sorry for the painful time you've been through.

Congratulations on your 8 years of sobriety! Be proud.
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Bravo Brad!
What an accomplishment! You must be tremendously proud of yourself. I admire you.
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Sorry about the breakup, but Eight Years is pretty awesome!
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