Husband passed away - I'm still sober!
Husband passed away - I'm still sober!
Hello friends -
My husband passed away from a rare reaction to his cancer medication in January. I'm slowly....very slowly.....trying to piece together this new life without him. I've remained clean and sober! I'm so proud of myself because there have been many times that I've wanted to check out. But I've remained with the feelings. I've cried more tears then I though was humanly possible. I've gone to a meeting most nights and have found that to be very helpful for accountability. My husband's burial of his ashes which I will transport to Vermont from Georgia and his celebration of life will be on June 18th. I wanted this celebration to be at the golf course that he ran before his retirement and that his grandfather built so I've waited until weather better and course open. I also hoped that I could be stronger mentally, physically, and spiritually at that time. We will see. The reality is that we are often stronger than we think we are. I'm proof.
- Soberclover
My husband passed away from a rare reaction to his cancer medication in January. I'm slowly....very slowly.....trying to piece together this new life without him. I've remained clean and sober! I'm so proud of myself because there have been many times that I've wanted to check out. But I've remained with the feelings. I've cried more tears then I though was humanly possible. I've gone to a meeting most nights and have found that to be very helpful for accountability. My husband's burial of his ashes which I will transport to Vermont from Georgia and his celebration of life will be on June 18th. I wanted this celebration to be at the golf course that he ran before his retirement and that his grandfather built so I've waited until weather better and course open. I also hoped that I could be stronger mentally, physically, and spiritually at that time. We will see. The reality is that we are often stronger than we think we are. I'm proof.
- Soberclover
Soberclover, I’m so incredibly sorry for the loss of your husband…..it must be sooooo hard to suffer that loss.
Im so glad you have remained sober, and felt the feelings. I truly believe not numbing ourselves helps us heal, and you will.
How special that you will have his celebration on that golf course up north.
Peace be with you, and May he live on through your good deeds and fond memories.
❤️🩹
Im so glad you have remained sober, and felt the feelings. I truly believe not numbing ourselves helps us heal, and you will.
How special that you will have his celebration on that golf course up north.
Peace be with you, and May he live on through your good deeds and fond memories.
❤️🩹
I'm very sorry for the loss of your husband. But you sound determined and strong and are to be admired.
I'm sure there will be so many emotions for you moving forward. I hope you have good family and friends support. Best wishes.
I'm sure there will be so many emotions for you moving forward. I hope you have good family and friends support. Best wishes.
I'm so sorry soberclover. Your post here, now, under your circumstances, is so very important, and will keep so many people healthy and sober. You staying sober after the death of your spouse pretty much hobbles any and all other excuses for drinking and giving up our sobriety.
Thank you and I hope your memories of your partner stay with you and bring you happiness.
Thank you and I hope your memories of your partner stay with you and bring you happiness.
Soberclover, I'm so very sorry for your loss. It is devastating to lose a spouse.
We're here for you. As another source of support, if you feel like it, you might check out grief support groups in your area. Most hospice organizations offer them. There are some that are specific to losing a spouse - I found this very helpful after losing my husband last year. These days a lot of groups are available over zoom.
Well done on not drinking ... I think the only way out of grief, is through. But you can do it.
We're here for you. As another source of support, if you feel like it, you might check out grief support groups in your area. Most hospice organizations offer them. There are some that are specific to losing a spouse - I found this very helpful after losing my husband last year. These days a lot of groups are available over zoom.
Well done on not drinking ... I think the only way out of grief, is through. But you can do it.
Condolences on the unexpected and sudden loss of your husband. I'm glad you're finding strength in regular meetings, remaining steadfast in your sobriety. June 18th should be a beautiful time for his celebration of life.
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