First social meeting / challenge after 2 years
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CS, So how do you feel today? Does anything seem different? Are there any changes to your recovery plan going forward? I just asked because occasions like yours changed me when they happened, not that I ever changed my ultimate goal to never drink again. Mostly, they changed how I felt about myself, and what I understood about who I was.
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^ another question could be how do the colleagues feel this morning?
It’s a beautiful spring day here. I’ve already been out to help out at a running event and a coffee with friends in the sunshine. The drinkers will be nursing hangovers
It’s a beautiful spring day here. I’ve already been out to help out at a running event and a coffee with friends in the sunshine. The drinkers will be nursing hangovers
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Originally Posted by DriGuy 
CS, So how do you feel today? Does anything seem different? Are there any changes to your recovery plan going forward? I just asked because occasions like yours changed me when they happened, not that I ever changed my ultimate goal to never drink again. Mostly, they changed how I felt about myself, and what I understood about who I was.
Having said that I am still going to try and avoid social gatherings as much as possible where drinking is involved. To highlight an important point, yesterday was with colleagues who are generally formal. What would have happened if I had met with a bunch of close friends? Very hard to predict.
Also I learned the greatest answer is "No. I am not drinking today". Assertive, positive, non judgemental, cannot be probed, just a solid honest answer.
Otherwise I feel super good about myself. But one thing to let you guys know.I ate hell lot of Mac n cheese, corn bread + sweet butter to overcome the anxiety.
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Cornbread? Mac n cheese? Some joker started a compulsive thread yesterday 
But hey, as well as all the other downsides, alcohol is the biggest calorie culprit of the lot. Within reason, you can eat a lot more now you’re sober, plus you can burn those food calories off, no harm done. As I’m finding now, there need to be a balance here, so don’t go too mad on the cornbread
But hey, as well as all the other downsides, alcohol is the biggest calorie culprit of the lot. Within reason, you can eat a lot more now you’re sober, plus you can burn those food calories off, no harm done. As I’m finding now, there need to be a balance here, so don’t go too mad on the cornbread
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Originally Posted by calmself
I am still going to try and avoid social gatherings as much as possible where drinking is involved. To highlight an important point, yesterday was with colleagues who are generally formal. What would have happened if I had met with a bunch of close friends? Very hard to predict.
Originally Posted by calmself
Also I learned the greatest answer is "No. I am not drinking today". Assertive, positive, non judgemental, cannot be probed, just a solid honest answer.
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Originally Posted by Hodd
Cornbread? Mac n cheese? Some joker started a compulsive thread yesterday
But hey, as well as all the other downsides, alcohol is the biggest calorie culprit of the lot. Within reason, you can eat a lot more now you’re sober, plus you can burn those food calories off, no harm done. As I’m finding now, there need to be a balance here, so don’t go too mad on the cornbread
But hey, as well as all the other downsides, alcohol is the biggest calorie culprit of the lot. Within reason, you can eat a lot more now you’re sober, plus you can burn those food calories off, no harm done. As I’m finding now, there need to be a balance here, so don’t go too mad on the cornbread
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Originally Posted by DriGuy
Avoidance was the strategy I used most of the time. Escape plans were for extraordinary "can't get out of events." But cruising through one of those without incident is a confidence builder.
That assertive attitude is a powerful skill that carries us through more than just gatherings. It also shuts down those nostalgic thoughts about alcohol that enter our conscious thoughts from time to time.
That assertive attitude is a powerful skill that carries us through more than just gatherings. It also shuts down those nostalgic thoughts about alcohol that enter our conscious thoughts from time to time.
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Can you be honest with them and say you aren't comfortable with it? Some people are understanding of how hard it is for alcoholics to be around booze like that.
If not play the covid card - not comfortable being around people in that setting?
or you could do exactly what you say and slip out early....that's normally my go to.
If not play the covid card - not comfortable being around people in that setting?
or you could do exactly what you say and slip out early....that's normally my go to.
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