Mummyto2

Just because i couldn't doesn't mean you can't 👍

Steely

Is that a trick question Mummy?

You can, Mummy.

We have all tripped and stumbled along the way, ask anyone here.

Whats happening?

advbike

Don't give up Mummy! We all slip up, the secret is to start over as quickly as you can. Keep those sober days.

I relapsed many times but I kept trying, and over time the sobriety got longer and the slips more rare.

You can do it. Never give up!

Dee74

Have you started drinking again after day 1 Mt2? If so, please stop. It helps nothing.

I tried so hard too - but it wasn't until I realised I had to try my hardest when I really wanted that drink that things changed.

I had to have a strategy- or ideally several strategies- people to talk to, call or to post to - playing the tape through, urge surfing - all those things - as many different ways as I could think of taking that option of drinking completely off the table.

It was hard but I did it. You can do it too.
If what you are doing is not working, look at adding more recovery tools.
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Mummyto2

I drank, i hope tomorrow i don't, i feel like a drama queen

Steely

The days following a slip were always the hardest for me Mummy. Basically, I'd think, WTF, who cares, and throw caution to the wind. Angry with myself. A drink used as punishment in some bizarre ritual of self destruction. It was my style back then Mummy. And not very stylish at all.

I would have also kicked off all the neuro chemical bs that goes on in our sensitive little brains, so you've got to kick forward in those first couple of days until things settle, and they will.

Come on Mummy.

Dee74

don't think of yourself as a passive victim, You have the power to stop this bender Mt2

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Mummyto2

Thank you i will post tomorrow im determined i just didn't want to now because having the drink in me

soupcon

Do you keep alcohol in the house? It is much easier to stay sober if it isn't readily available.

Icandothis2013

Mummy, can you throw it out and make a cup of tea … keeping on drinking will make you really miserable.. You’re worth so much more than that and inspired me no end ! Have a nice cuppa then go to bed ! xx

Mummyto2

I know im my own worst enemy, i will get there im determined

Nonsensical

Fixed your post.
Drink some water.
You have work to do.

Hevyn

We're with you, Mummy.
(I drank 30 yrs. & now am sober 14 yrs - so I KNOW you can win this. )

RAL

I was once in a team meeting years ago where our boss said we needed to do better next year. one guy spoke up and said we all worked as hard as we could this year. We couldn't have worked harder. The boss said it's not a case of working harder. but you can work smarter. took me a while to get what he meant but I always think of that in my recovery. If what I do isn't working I need to do something else/different

Surlyredhead

Maybe instead of thinking of it as "I tried so hard", you can make it active and say, "I am trying so hard" As long as you are actively trying, there is hope.

dustyfox

You have the strength in you to do this MT2,

ToughChoices

I’m new to this - 22 days clean today. Not too proud to admit that a big part of my sobriety thus far is my COMPLETE lack of access to my drug of choice.

Can you remove access to your drug? Set yourself up for success?

When I remove the possibility of use, I get ahead of the beast!

Dropsie

MT2,

What they all said.
It sounds corny, but each day really is a new start.
Dont say to yourself, I am going to stop, say I do not drink ever and I am never going to change my mind. And then again, and then again.
You can have this, you can, but you need to get out of your own way and stop looking back.
yea, its a bummer your drank, but it's really a bummer if you keep drinking because of that.
So you had a bit of cake, no need to have the whole thing.
XX

Anna

Mummy, we do understand how hard this is, but you can do it.

Britbird80

Sorry to hear this mt2. You can do this though and get back on track stronger and more determined than ever.