Finally Getting it!
Awesome post. Well done you. Just before I read this I was sitting thinking "I actually really cannot drink alcohol ever again because I abuse it and I always will " I felt a little sad till I read your post . And iv just for the first time said the A word. I am and will always be an alcoholic and its OK because like you I'm really happier without it . Alcohol isn't life is it . It's nothing on the grand scale of everything that truly is life . Your right, it's a con ! .
Thankyou and best wishes to you 🙏
Thankyou and best wishes to you 🙏
That s the spirit Jag!
I had my first attempt of properly quitting at 32, and ended up drinking again after almost 2 years sober.
So by all means, do keep up the good vibes but definitely remain vigilant.
I’m just 6 months sober here, at 38 now, but the rule here is to focus on the day ahead, not the days behind. I won’t ever be less an alcoholic, it’s just a daily choice not to exercise that side of me.
Glad to see your life is improving sober, and well done for 5 months!
I had my first attempt of properly quitting at 32, and ended up drinking again after almost 2 years sober.
So by all means, do keep up the good vibes but definitely remain vigilant.
I’m just 6 months sober here, at 38 now, but the rule here is to focus on the day ahead, not the days behind. I won’t ever be less an alcoholic, it’s just a daily choice not to exercise that side of me.
Glad to see your life is improving sober, and well done for 5 months!
I think that was cathartic for me to say it out loud that I know I can't drink, and that I am not wired like everyone else. In fact I am not a person of moderation really in anything that I do, which is something that I am learning about myself as well. I found solace in fully embracing that I am an "Alcoholic" even though that word holds such a negative stigma. Aside from that I personally don't let that word shape me as a person or hyper focus on it anymore. I don't forget to remind myself that my relationship with alcohol is over and that was a phase of my life that I am not going to revisit and that the real me has always been there, but was only being suppressed by the alcohol. I am not sure how you felt when you decided to quit, but I remind myself of the painful feeling of being stuck on a hamster wheel that I couldn't get off. It seriously was not fun anymore, and I am not crazy enough to want to keep doing something that provides less than zero to my overall life. Life is never perfect for anyone, but I don't think I have met one alcoholic that said their drinking improved one aspect of their life. I am here if you ever need support, I don't claim to know anything and I know I am a newborn in the world of recovery.
Quick little update. I am nearing 8 months of sobriety and each day gets better. That doesn't mean that every day is perfect, but I believe I am finally on a sustainable path and a path that doesn't include alcohol. Alcohol was a false friend and did nothing but bring me literally down into a pit of despair and self-loathing. The crazy thing is that the anxiety that I felt was 100% amplified by drinking and anyone who thinks that it will make it better is lying to themselves. I will remain vigilant, but what has personally helped me grow is to not hide from situations where alcohol is around. I wouldn't intentionally go to a bar or anything, but I don't shy away from places that sell alcohol (restaurants). I just tell myself that if I can't practice self-control, I will never succeed in sobriety. Alcohol is everywhere, it isn't like any other substance that requires some effort to get. I literally can go into any gas station or market, and it is right there, but it isn't there for me anymore. Keep on going friends, it takes a lot of work, but we all have plenty to fight for in our lives. Don't give up even if you slip up. Don't dwell on a relapse or let it derail you, we are all human.
congrats on 8 months jagrnaut.
I didn't really find it necessary to test myself - I just stayed out of harms (and alcohols) way until I knew I preferred being in recovery over everything else.
whatever works tho...right?
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I just tell myself that if I can't practice self-control, I will never succeed in sobriety.
whatever works tho...right?
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Quitting at 37 is an amazing gift to yourself and those around you, Jag 👍
I’m very glad I quit at 49 a few years back, but like everyone I wished I’d quit years earlier. You’re in for a great future, Jag.
I’m very glad I quit at 49 a few years back, but like everyone I wished I’d quit years earlier. You’re in for a great future, Jag.
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Good thread.
I'm stuck on that stupid hamster wheel again. I've had periods of several months sober, and it's been great. But I've always ended up going back to drinking.
I've never fully admitted to those around me how bad my drinking is, although I'm aware they know I often drink to excess and I've also expressed my own concerns.
Drinking is so engrained in British culture that society is somewhat alarmingly tolerant of people who drink to excess but continue to function normally (Or at least appear to from the outside!).
My drinking has certainly caused me problems, affected my relationships, health and work performance, but from the outside I probably appear to be functioning normally. I'm fully aware I'm walking a tight rope though.
I've tried to articulate to friends and family that I simply cannot just have 1 drink and that I'd be better off not drinking for good, but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
I think even if I screamed from the rooftops, "I'm an alcoholic" that nobody would believe me.
I'm still in that phase where I haven't been officially branded an alcoholic, if that is even a thing. I.e. Not that I want to be known as an alcoholic, but if I was, I would probably get taken more seriously and have the support of those around me.
However, I'm still not ready to announce that, as I am terrified of the stigma.
In any case, I'm trying to muster the resolve to not drink again for good.
This is my new day 1.
Thanks
I'm stuck on that stupid hamster wheel again. I've had periods of several months sober, and it's been great. But I've always ended up going back to drinking.
I've never fully admitted to those around me how bad my drinking is, although I'm aware they know I often drink to excess and I've also expressed my own concerns.
Drinking is so engrained in British culture that society is somewhat alarmingly tolerant of people who drink to excess but continue to function normally (Or at least appear to from the outside!).
My drinking has certainly caused me problems, affected my relationships, health and work performance, but from the outside I probably appear to be functioning normally. I'm fully aware I'm walking a tight rope though.
I've tried to articulate to friends and family that I simply cannot just have 1 drink and that I'd be better off not drinking for good, but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
I think even if I screamed from the rooftops, "I'm an alcoholic" that nobody would believe me.
I'm still in that phase where I haven't been officially branded an alcoholic, if that is even a thing. I.e. Not that I want to be known as an alcoholic, but if I was, I would probably get taken more seriously and have the support of those around me.
However, I'm still not ready to announce that, as I am terrified of the stigma.
In any case, I'm trying to muster the resolve to not drink again for good.
This is my new day 1.
Thanks
Good thread.
I'm stuck on that stupid hamster wheel again. I've had periods of several months sober, and it's been great. But I've always ended up going back to drinking.
I've never fully admitted to those around me how bad my drinking is, although I'm aware they know I often drink to excess and I've also expressed my own concerns.
Drinking is so engrained in British culture that society is somewhat alarmingly tolerant of people who drink to excess but continue to function normally (Or at least appear to from the outside!).
My drinking has certainly caused me problems, affected my relationships, health and work performance, but from the outside I probably appear to be functioning normally. I'm fully aware I'm walking a tight rope though.
I've tried to articulate to friends and family that I simply cannot just have 1 drink and that I'd be better off not drinking for good, but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
I think even if I screamed from the rooftops, "I'm an alcoholic" that nobody would believe me.
I'm still in that phase where I haven't been officially branded an alcoholic, if that is even a thing. I.e. Not that I want to be known as an alcoholic, but if I was, I would probably get taken more seriously and have the support of those around me.
However, I'm still not ready to announce that, as I am terrified of the stigma.
In any case, I'm trying to muster the resolve to not drink again for good.
This is my new day 1.
Thanks
I'm stuck on that stupid hamster wheel again. I've had periods of several months sober, and it's been great. But I've always ended up going back to drinking.
I've never fully admitted to those around me how bad my drinking is, although I'm aware they know I often drink to excess and I've also expressed my own concerns.
Drinking is so engrained in British culture that society is somewhat alarmingly tolerant of people who drink to excess but continue to function normally (Or at least appear to from the outside!).
My drinking has certainly caused me problems, affected my relationships, health and work performance, but from the outside I probably appear to be functioning normally. I'm fully aware I'm walking a tight rope though.
I've tried to articulate to friends and family that I simply cannot just have 1 drink and that I'd be better off not drinking for good, but it seems to fall on deaf ears.
I think even if I screamed from the rooftops, "I'm an alcoholic" that nobody would believe me.
I'm still in that phase where I haven't been officially branded an alcoholic, if that is even a thing. I.e. Not that I want to be known as an alcoholic, but if I was, I would probably get taken more seriously and have the support of those around me.
However, I'm still not ready to announce that, as I am terrified of the stigma.
In any case, I'm trying to muster the resolve to not drink again for good.
This is my new day 1.
Thanks
Quick update, 9 months a few days ago of sobriety. It is still an ongoing process, but I truly think I have it this time. This is the longest stretch I have ever had since I turned 21, and now I am 38. I am not too sure I would have made it this age or any older if I stayed on the path I was choosing. Keep pushing on sober recovery family, life is beautiful, and you only get one!
Quick little update. I am nearing 8 months of sobriety and each day gets better. That doesn't mean that every day is perfect, but I believe I am finally on a sustainable path and a path that doesn't include alcohol. Alcohol was a false friend and did nothing but bring me literally down into a pit of despair and self-loathing. The crazy thing is that the anxiety that I felt was 100% amplified by drinking and anyone who thinks that it will make it better is lying to themselves. I will remain vigilant, but what has personally helped me grow is to not hide from situations where alcohol is around. I wouldn't intentionally go to a bar or anything, but I don't shy away from places that sell alcohol (restaurants). I just tell myself that if I can't practice self-control, I will never succeed in sobriety. Alcohol is everywhere, it isn't like any other substance that requires some effort to get. I literally can go into any gas station or market, and it is right there, but it isn't there for me anymore. Keep on going friends, it takes a lot of work, but we all have plenty to fight for in our lives. Don't give up even if you slip up. Don't dwell on a relapse or let it derail you, we are all human.
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