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Old 02-14-2022, 10:27 PM
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My parents would be upset at first but in the long run they'd be better off

Then there's a train driver. I don't want to like, damage someone. But maybe he'd be happy to run me over? I'm a bad person with an ugly heart.
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Old 02-14-2022, 11:13 PM
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You were sounding really good and upbeat yesterday. How did the Drs visit go?

You’re not a bad person - none of us are. You would be missed not only in real life but here at SR too.

You need to speak with someone FF. You said elsewhere your folks were really supportive, Let them in to what’s going on.

I think these suicidal ideations are too common a thing with you for you to ignore, or hope they’ll go away.

If you can’t speak to your parents or doctor, consider a hotline maybe? It’s often easier to talk to a stranger.
https://www.hse.ie/eng/services/list...ces/nosp/help/
https://www.pieta.ie

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Old 02-15-2022, 05:07 AM
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FF, you are NOT a bad person with an ugly heart. Granted I do not know you but you would not be here if you were a bad person. You are a person that cares. I had the same thoughts as you several years ago so I understand that feeling. It is not a fun place to be. Please hang in there. Is there anyone you can talk with?
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Old 02-15-2022, 06:16 AM
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That is not true FF. You are a good person with a beautiful heart. You're just the only one doesn't think so. Your attorney, your family and the judge on your case, and I'm sure others, just affirmed their hope in you and your bright future a few days ago. What happened my friend? Did you go celebrate last night? That wouldn't be the end of the world but you need to stop now. When you drink, your head goes to really dark places. Don't leave us FF.
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Old 02-15-2022, 06:21 AM
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A good friend of mine died like that four years ago in March.

It wasn’t pretty, and the people whom he hurt most were closest to him.

Get help.
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Old 02-15-2022, 06:40 AM
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Well I’m a parent and I’m a son. And I’d rather have my children stay on earth and fight whatever plagues them than take the coward’s way out.

You don’t get to pick what your parents would prefer. I prefer the fighter FF.
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Old 02-15-2022, 08:21 AM
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As a parent, there would not be any aspect of my life better off if my child took their own life. That would be the worst possible outcome.

I'm sorry you are feeling like ending it all is an an option. I understand and sadly have felt that way many times in the past. I don't have any answers but I know that suicide is not the answer.

Hope you can speak with someone about your feelings.

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Old 02-15-2022, 08:26 AM
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FF, please seek help with a local hospital, a therapist or your doctor. You need to take care of yourself.
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Old 02-15-2022, 08:30 AM
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Your parents would NOT be better off. They would be devastated and would never get over it. Please get help. Your life is valuable. Please don't throw it away.
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How are things today FF?

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Old 02-15-2022, 12:16 PM
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FF - As others have said, please seek help in dealing with these bleak thoughts. It isn't time for you to leave this Earth. Things can always be made better. You are needed here.
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My cousin Hung himself and it's NOT the answer, if you feel that you are thinking that way TELL you're parents, the people left behind suffer more than you will ever know, call à doctor or the Gardai (I think you're in Ireland) I'm Irish, always remember tomorrow is à New day and things WILL get better.
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Old 02-15-2022, 02:36 PM
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FF - as you said it yourself yesterday you now have the perfect chance to change your life.

Whatever you are going through talk to your family about it. As a father there’s nothing I’d want more than help my sons through whatever they need.

You have a lot to look forward to and a lot of happiness to bring to yourself and others.

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Old 02-15-2022, 02:47 PM
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Simply not true Freedom. You are a good person, with a beautiful heart, much Iike my daughter.

Only 2 days ago my daughter accused me of saying she is a "bad person". I did not. All that I said was that I see her get sick when she stops taking her medication. Which has has done.

It's the illness talking Freedom, and just like our AV's it tells lies.

Don't believe a word of it.

I hope you speak with your doctor about the way you are feeling Freedom. ❤️



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Old 02-15-2022, 04:40 PM
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FF, what everyone else said. Get help. Suicide is not the answer. I speak as someone who lost my brother to suicide, and a cousin, and a former classmate. Please don't do this to your parents or yourself. Your life has value if only you could see it.

Talk to your parents or a psychologist or a psychiatrist or any counselor, but please get help!
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People with truly ugly hearts , don’t know and would not care if they did. You have a conscience and therefore the capacity for empathy , extend it to yourself.

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The court case went well but I see your mood has slipped again, can you check in with your GP or psych if you are having these thoughts?
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Old 02-16-2022, 06:15 AM
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Dwtdb - That is an excellent point - I was thinking the same thing, but wasn't sure how to put it into words.

Freedomfries - I hope you'll check in. Your friends are worried.
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Yes, we are worried dear FF. Please let us know you are alright ❤️
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Old 02-16-2022, 06:27 AM
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Hey, Freedom?
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