Icandothis2013

So following yesterday’s thread on whether to do a hard, medium or lite renewal of the non molestation order against my son, I also polled a few of my friends and they, like you lovely SR folks, agreed I should go for the ‘hard’ version and prioritise myself ! I found it very comforting that everyone seemed to have my back and surprised at the relief I felt ! So that’s what I will do - unpleasant as it may be ! Big thank you to all who advised me on here yesterday and onwards !

Anna

Excellent decision! I'm so glad you are taking care of yourself.

Icandothis2013

Thank you for your caring advice Anna ! I really appreciate it !

Surrendered19

I think although a very difficult decision, I think it a really wise decision ICDT. Remember too nothing is being chiseled into granite and as life changes these things can too. But you are so wise to make this all about you for now.

advbike

Good choice, Ican! You have your priorities in order.

Colin1

Glad you made the choice you did Ican and that you are feeling better for it.

I believe you're reading Melody Beattie's book on codependence. I am too and I re-read her very succinct definition every day so it stays fresh in my mind:

"A codependent person is someone who has let another person's behavior affect them, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior." (Pg 36)

It is a very useful book for me. I've known I have issues with this stuff for a long time, but I've never been able to get a handle on it until now. It was a real eye opener for this old fart