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Old 12-23-2021, 04:11 PM
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Thank you DriGuy you always have such excellent insight,
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Old 12-23-2021, 06:17 PM
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Yup. How many people get caught in the same scenario? Too many to count would be my guess. "I haven't had a drink in years, I can have 1". NOPE. I can't. Because I it won't be just 1. Glad you're back.
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Old 12-24-2021, 02:54 AM
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Great Post - glad you are back
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Old 12-24-2021, 03:28 AM
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I’m in a much better place now than 5yrs ago, it’s just drinking getting in the way, sounds stupid when I say it but I guess that’s the point!
Make it part of your strategy, don't let drinking get in your way.
I relapsed too, my drinking was worse. Now I don't let drinking get in the way of my life anymore.

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Old 12-24-2021, 03:57 AM
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Yup. How many people get caught in the same scenario? Too many to count would be my guess.
Yes, too many. And it doesn't seem to help telling alcoholics that they can't.

Experimentation?
Self Destruction?
Denial?
Rebellion?
Delusions of Grandeur?

Why?
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Old 12-24-2021, 04:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Dejvice View Post
Make it part of your strategy, don't let drinking get in your way.
I relapsed too, my drinking was worse. Now I don't let drinking get in the way of my life anymore.
Absolutely! I’ll never lose the “don’t drink” focus again, regardless of how good or bad life gets.

It’s easier to see now, before there were too many things wrong so as I fixed them I got the fake impression drinking was fixed too.

Now I have clear evidence drinking is “the problem”, not “a problem”.
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Old 12-24-2021, 05:00 AM
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Now I have clear evidence drinking is “the problem”, not “a problem”.
This ^ That was one of my more important insights in recovery.
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Old 12-24-2021, 05:24 PM
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Welcome back and good for you to stop that runaway train before it goes any further.

I was a binge drinker with a stable job, relationship etc and used to tell myself I wasn't too bad because I didn't drink every day and sometimes went months without drinking. But the drinking got worse. Sure, there were some nights that were "normal" but at the end it was 5 days of straight drinking vodka before I understood there was no way I was ever going to control the drinking, no matter what kind of lifestyle and drinking changes I made.

I committed to a life of sobriety with all of its ups and downs, pain, stress and unpredictability. I learned how to rebuild my coping mechanisms and identify triggers and stuff like that. Even with all of this, I know drinking for me won't ever be something I can do in moderation, at least not for too long before the out of control drinking takes over.

Stay on the recovery path and remember there are always new things to learn that then can become second nature.
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