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Thank you both.
Feeling hellish today. Floods of tears. Disgusted with myself and really jittery/panicky.
Also feel weirdly relieved. I have just given up everything and I'm starting over.
My sister suggested the same, so she is going to go over. Family are being really supportive xx
Feeling hellish today. Floods of tears. Disgusted with myself and really jittery/panicky.
Also feel weirdly relieved. I have just given up everything and I'm starting over.
My sister suggested the same, so she is going to go over. Family are being really supportive xx
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And at the end of the day were just a bunch of individuals with a common cause but we have enough empathy for others in the same situation to realise that when you progress, we all do together.
You should embrace your individuality and share it with us, because we're all doing the same
It took me over 10 years to get 13 months of sobriety, Gabe.
I started the sober journey and then discovered that sobriety was not linear for me. Its OKAY that there has been a struggle. The point is that you keep coming back to the truth and you keep trying. I am very happy for you. I know you cant see the happiness and smooth waters ahead but they are there. You are making such a powerful statement to yourself and to others. I believe in you! You are amazing, Gabe. Be proud of you!
I started the sober journey and then discovered that sobriety was not linear for me. Its OKAY that there has been a struggle. The point is that you keep coming back to the truth and you keep trying. I am very happy for you. I know you cant see the happiness and smooth waters ahead but they are there. You are making such a powerful statement to yourself and to others. I believe in you! You are amazing, Gabe. Be proud of you!
I also have been working at quitting entirely for decades. You are not alone in your struggle, but getting to the surrender step is significant progress.
I know how it feels to alienate your spouse with drinking. My husband very nearly divorced me over it years ago, but healing can happen. For yourself and your family
I know how it feels to alienate your spouse with drinking. My husband very nearly divorced me over it years ago, but healing can happen. For yourself and your family
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Gabe, I'm not sure how i works in the UK, but stay as long as possible, up to maybe 6 months.
And trust me, I know it is scary - but why should it be? You'll be amongst fellow addicts (whatever their choice of drug is), and likely you'll have a lot in common. I've been more social at rehab than anywhere else (I have social anxiety).
Is it an open or closed facility? I hated closed ones, felt like a prisoner, as I couldn't physically go out without a staff member. That one time one time I was at one, I just signed myself out, ending up staying on a boat - after buying vodka. Doesn't work if you feel imprisoned.
The more merciful open facilities though, there was freedom in a true sense. Except for maybe one place that had very strict rules, especially the clause of "You're not allowed to keep mobile phones or computers in your room - If you want to make a call, do that between X and Y". In hindsight, maybe I do need to break from the net, which one might argue is one addiction. Also, it would strengthen my social comfort, as staying alone with no computer would certainly make me go nuts, and I would have to be social, not to.
When I left that place, the same day I got admitted after reading the rules, I tried to be coy by leaving as noiseless as possible. However, there were too many people there (100+ patients, in addition to the staff). One of the patients caught me on my way out to the bus station, and he gave me a positive re-enforcement. I was too busy while talking to him thinking, "am I going to miss my bus?" - nothing really sank in.
Gabe, do it the hard way - Feel the fear, do it anyways. Kill the fear. You'll probably in no less than maximum two weeks realize you made the right choice. Every day starting out is hard, I was basically a wreck every time I entered rehab. But after approx a week, I'd feel better and see the reality of the situation - Why am I scared? Every fellow patient has a basic understand on how addiction works. I've lost count on how many friends I made at rehab.
And trust me, I know it is scary - but why should it be? You'll be amongst fellow addicts (whatever their choice of drug is), and likely you'll have a lot in common. I've been more social at rehab than anywhere else (I have social anxiety).
Is it an open or closed facility? I hated closed ones, felt like a prisoner, as I couldn't physically go out without a staff member. That one time one time I was at one, I just signed myself out, ending up staying on a boat - after buying vodka. Doesn't work if you feel imprisoned.
The more merciful open facilities though, there was freedom in a true sense. Except for maybe one place that had very strict rules, especially the clause of "You're not allowed to keep mobile phones or computers in your room - If you want to make a call, do that between X and Y". In hindsight, maybe I do need to break from the net, which one might argue is one addiction. Also, it would strengthen my social comfort, as staying alone with no computer would certainly make me go nuts, and I would have to be social, not to.
When I left that place, the same day I got admitted after reading the rules, I tried to be coy by leaving as noiseless as possible. However, there were too many people there (100+ patients, in addition to the staff). One of the patients caught me on my way out to the bus station, and he gave me a positive re-enforcement. I was too busy while talking to him thinking, "am I going to miss my bus?" - nothing really sank in.
Gabe, do it the hard way - Feel the fear, do it anyways. Kill the fear. You'll probably in no less than maximum two weeks realize you made the right choice. Every day starting out is hard, I was basically a wreck every time I entered rehab. But after approx a week, I'd feel better and see the reality of the situation - Why am I scared? Every fellow patient has a basic understand on how addiction works. I've lost count on how many friends I made at rehab.
I don't know, Polaroid. I did just about every form of recovery program available to me over the course of my ten year (or whatever) quit. The final one was rehab (again) followed by living in a sober home (for the first time). So I guess that was a combination of locked and open? I think it's kind of flippant to say, "it doesn't work." What didn't work for me for the longest time was myself I didn't enjoy losing my freedom in either of those facilities, but it took what it took. You know?
Gabe, I know today and tonight are likely to be continued hellish. The pacing, jitters, restlessness to the extreme - ugh. Keep posting. I'm really glad that you are being open to suggestions and being nurtured by your family. It is a huge relief to finally let go, isn't it?
Sure you feel like crap, but this is the beginning!
Gabe, I know today and tonight are likely to be continued hellish. The pacing, jitters, restlessness to the extreme - ugh. Keep posting. I'm really glad that you are being open to suggestions and being nurtured by your family. It is a huge relief to finally let go, isn't it?
Sure you feel like crap, but this is the beginning!
It's a open place I think. A private treatment place for 28 days, with an intensive program. They do all kinds of different learning and activities, therapy, groups. It looks really good.
I am going to do absolutely everything they recommend. Put my heart and soul into it and do the work. It's an opportunity to change. To think about only this xx
I am going to do absolutely everything they recommend. Put my heart and soul into it and do the work. It's an opportunity to change. To think about only this xx
I can only imagine what my life would have looked like if I had the courage to go to rehab at your age. I wanted to, so much.
I used Venus as an excuse, and I had no money, but I am betting my family would have helped me. I just never had the courage to take this step.
And I kept drinking for 10 more years.
This is a brave and wise thing to do, and yes, I know it is scary, but as soon as you walk through the door on Monday, I feel sure the anxiety will melt away. s xx
I used Venus as an excuse, and I had no money, but I am betting my family would have helped me. I just never had the courage to take this step.
And I kept drinking for 10 more years.
This is a brave and wise thing to do, and yes, I know it is scary, but as soon as you walk through the door on Monday, I feel sure the anxiety will melt away. s xx
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I don't know, Polaroid. I did just about every form of recovery program available to me over the course of my ten year (or whatever) quit. The final one was rehab (again) followed by living in a sober home (for the first time). So I guess that was a combination of locked and open? I think it's kind of flippant to say, "it doesn't work." What didn't work for me for the longest time was myself I didn't enjoy losing my freedom in either of those facilities, but it took what it took. You know?
Flippant or not, feeling you're imprisoned doesn't work. The term 'imprisoned' may be interpreted differently by each individual. They may feel imprisoned, even though they really are not, in the legal sense of the term.
The worst place I stayed at was, I was admitted by force as a result of an overdose (not alcohol). It was a long time ago, and it's actually a drug proven to work against depression (an exception from those crappy SSRI/SRNIs). Now, I bought that on the street, and if I had actually been prescribed that, I wouldn't have ODed. The police came by and I may have accidentally said something about harming myself. The first and only time I was actually handcuffed, sent to a locked mental institution.
I'm not mental, just sad. Rehab, when you (... & you have to Gabe) follow through, does work.
Thank you both.
Feeling hellish today. Floods of tears. Disgusted with myself and really jittery/panicky.
Also feel weirdly relieved. I have just given up everything and I'm starting over.
My sister suggested the same, so she is going to go over. Family are being really supportive xx
Feeling hellish today. Floods of tears. Disgusted with myself and really jittery/panicky.
Also feel weirdly relieved. I have just given up everything and I'm starting over.
My sister suggested the same, so she is going to go over. Family are being really supportive xx
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