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So sorry you decided to drink.
I confused abstinence with control in 2019. Paid that price for two years.
Glad you are back on track.
What will you do differently?
I confused abstinence with control in 2019. Paid that price for two years.
Glad you are back on track.
What will you do differently?
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Georgia
Posts: 1,366
Originally Posted by Free2bme888 
So sorry you decided to drink.
I confused abstinence with control in 2019. Paid that price for two years.
Glad you are back on track.
What will you do differently?
I confused abstinence with control in 2019. Paid that price for two years.
Glad you are back on track.
What will you do differently?
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Join Date: Sep 2021
Posts: 611
Originally Posted by Jillian2563
When I’m idle in my recovery, my addiction hits the gas.
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Join Date: Sep 2021
Location: Central NC
Posts: 205
Welcome back, Jillian. Addiction is a subtle foe. It's like someone whom we know is bad for us yet is so seductive we are lulled into believing it will somehow be different "this time" if we give this person one more chance. It's different alright, and usually worse.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
There are many other helpful solutions available to
us to use in place of drinking. Make that list and use
it on a daily bases to avoid.
Phone numbers to call when the urge to drink arises.
Make a recovery meeting. More than one a day if needed.
Take care of your hungry, angry, lonely, tired as well as
you restlessness, irritability, honesty.
Find a hobby whether it be helping someone, cooking,
baking, gardening, sewing, painting.
Work on your recovery because if you can't stay sober,
then you won't have anything else.
Find balance with recovery, family, work.
Journaling.
Find a quiet place to mediate. Read. Listen to music.
I use to enjoy going to Barns and Nobles, a book
store, where it was quiet and find self help books,
mediation reading, music, cookbooks.
Today, i enjoy nature. Gardening, Flowers, Birds, Butterflies.
Find a quiet place where it is serene. Peaceful.
When we get involved in some kind of hobby, service
work, then we get out of our self absorbed thinking.
We get out of ourselves and our problems putting the
focus on someone or something else.
No one ever has to pick up a drink or drug again that
would place us back on the roller coaster ride of addiction
because there is countless other solutions available to
us to to avoid making a huge mistake.
What we put into our recovery programs is exactly
what we will get out of it. Achievement and continuous
sobriety with many of lifes rewarding gifts to appreciate
and be grateful for.
us to use in place of drinking. Make that list and use
it on a daily bases to avoid.
Phone numbers to call when the urge to drink arises.
Make a recovery meeting. More than one a day if needed.
Take care of your hungry, angry, lonely, tired as well as
you restlessness, irritability, honesty.
Find a hobby whether it be helping someone, cooking,
baking, gardening, sewing, painting.
Work on your recovery because if you can't stay sober,
then you won't have anything else.
Find balance with recovery, family, work.
Journaling.
Find a quiet place to mediate. Read. Listen to music.
I use to enjoy going to Barns and Nobles, a book
store, where it was quiet and find self help books,
mediation reading, music, cookbooks.
Today, i enjoy nature. Gardening, Flowers, Birds, Butterflies.
Find a quiet place where it is serene. Peaceful.
When we get involved in some kind of hobby, service
work, then we get out of our self absorbed thinking.
We get out of ourselves and our problems putting the
focus on someone or something else.
No one ever has to pick up a drink or drug again that
would place us back on the roller coaster ride of addiction
because there is countless other solutions available to
us to to avoid making a huge mistake.
What we put into our recovery programs is exactly
what we will get out of it. Achievement and continuous
sobriety with many of lifes rewarding gifts to appreciate
and be grateful for.
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Join Date: May 2021
Posts: 177
Originally Posted by Jillian2563
Thanks Anna. I will never give up.
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: California
Posts: 13,040
Glad you came right back Jillian, if you’re finding AA meetings helpful maybe try to get to one each day for a while. Also, check in here if you feel like drinking, someone will be around to talk you through it.
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Georgia
Posts: 1,366
Originally Posted by Delilah1
Glad you came right back Jillian, if you’re finding AA meetings helpful maybe try to get to one each day for a while. Also, check in here if you feel like drinking, someone will be around to talk you through it.
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Location: Wisconsin, USA
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Originally Posted by Jillian2563
This is where I mess up for sure.
An example: You acknowledge that being here on SR helps you, and I would agree - when you spend time here your recovery progresses in a positive way. But then as evidenced above, you "mess up" by not coming here and choosing to follow the advice of your addiction instead. Instead of waiting for that sequence of events, why not literally schedule time in your daily calendar to spend on recovery every day? As far as frequency that's up to you, but whatever it might be you are planning ahead - instead of just waiting for something to happen. Because especially in early sobriety, by the time the AV starts talking it's already too late. If your business was buiding houses, would you wait until your supplies run out before you order more? Same concept - quantify and plan ahead for what it will take to keep you sober if that's your end goal.
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Georgia
Posts: 1,366
Originally Posted by ScottFromWI
Perhaps you could start managing your recovery like you do your business - if I remember correctly you run a business of your own? Even if you don't think about it in that context.
An example: You acknowledge that being here on SR helps you, and I would agree - when you spend time here your recovery progresses in a positive way. But then as evidenced above, you "mess up" by not coming here and choosing to follow the advice of your addiction instead. Instead of waiting for that sequence of events, why not literally schedule time in your daily calendar to spend on recovery every day? As far as frequency that's up to you, but whatever it might be you are planning ahead - instead of just waiting for something to happen. Because especially in early sobriety, by the time the AV starts talking it's already too late. If your business was buiding houses, would you wait until your supplies run out before you order more? Same concept - quantify and plan ahead for what it will take to keep you sober if that's your end goal.
An example: You acknowledge that being here on SR helps you, and I would agree - when you spend time here your recovery progresses in a positive way. But then as evidenced above, you "mess up" by not coming here and choosing to follow the advice of your addiction instead. Instead of waiting for that sequence of events, why not literally schedule time in your daily calendar to spend on recovery every day? As far as frequency that's up to you, but whatever it might be you are planning ahead - instead of just waiting for something to happen. Because especially in early sobriety, by the time the AV starts talking it's already too late. If your business was buiding houses, would you wait until your supplies run out before you order more? Same concept - quantify and plan ahead for what it will take to keep you sober if that's your end goal.
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Join Date: Jul 2020
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 243
I have a stupid question. If I tapered off beer and had a 12 ounce beer 2 days in a row can I count those days.
Or does it have to be the first day without a drop? I’m guessing the later or does it really matter because it’s how you feel, your health and getting to 30, 60, 90 etc.
Feeling pretty ****** right now. Stomach hurts, eyes are cloudy, IDEK if my liver hurts because my body is flushing and lots of stuff hurts.
Had 2 weeks on Sept 17 and blew it.
Or does it have to be the first day without a drop? I’m guessing the later or does it really matter because it’s how you feel, your health and getting to 30, 60, 90 etc.
Feeling pretty ****** right now. Stomach hurts, eyes are cloudy, IDEK if my liver hurts because my body is flushing and lots of stuff hurts.
Had 2 weeks on Sept 17 and blew it.
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: New England
Posts: 4,420
Originally Posted by Khorhey
I have a stupid question. If I tapered off beer and had a 12 ounce beer 2 days in a row can I count those days.
Or does it have to be the first day without a drop? I’m guessing the later or does it really matter because it’s how you feel, your health and getting to 30, 60, 90 etc.
Feeling pretty ****** right now. Stomach hurts, eyes are cloudy, IDEK if my liver hurts because my body is flushing and lots of stuff hurts.
Had 2 weeks on Sept 17 and blew it.
Or does it have to be the first day without a drop? I’m guessing the later or does it really matter because it’s how you feel, your health and getting to 30, 60, 90 etc.
Feeling pretty ****** right now. Stomach hurts, eyes are cloudy, IDEK if my liver hurts because my body is flushing and lots of stuff hurts.
Had 2 weeks on Sept 17 and blew it.
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Originally Posted by Khorhey
I have a stupid question. If I tapered off beer and had a 12 ounce beer 2 days in a row can I count those days.
Or does it have to be the first day without a drop? I’m guessing the later or does it really matter because it’s how you feel, your health and getting to 30, 60, 90 etc.
Feeling pretty ****** right now. Stomach hurts, eyes are cloudy, IDEK if my liver hurts because my body is flushing and lots of stuff hurts.
Had 2 weeks on Sept 17 and blew it.
Or does it have to be the first day without a drop? I’m guessing the later or does it really matter because it’s how you feel, your health and getting to 30, 60, 90 etc.
Feeling pretty ****** right now. Stomach hurts, eyes are cloudy, IDEK if my liver hurts because my body is flushing and lots of stuff hurts.
Had 2 weeks on Sept 17 and blew it.
I chose the latter because that day means something to me…and 15 years later, it still does.
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