It’s okay! It’s just a bad day . Part 2 -Weekenders 27 - 30 August 2021
Magsie
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It’s okay! It’s just a bad day . Part 2 -Weekenders 27 - 30 August 2021
Welcome to the Weekenders
Being the biggest drama queen (in the past) meant that a bad day was a big deal. It caused stress and I looked for reasons why is this happening to me?
And inevitably gave me another excuse or reason to drink. 
I’ve realised, as the years move on and as my sobriety gets stronger, that a bad day is just that, a bad day. Life isn’t all rainbows, sunshine and light. Sometimes there are stormy days.
Could be the moon above, could be some bug I’ve picked up, could be a distant memory, and then again it could just be my mood.
Accepting that today isn’t that great, sometimes for no reason and putting it down to just that, can keep the AV (addictive voice) from niggling at us too.
There are brighter days ahead.
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
We also share bits and pieces of our lives and the things that are important to us, or make us laugh..anything that makes the journey a little easier.
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It's a beautiful day out today. But my depression wants me under the covers with the blinds drawn drinking monster ultra. My dad asked if I'd like to go for a walk and I had to decline. I forgot how bad depression can be after all the drama with psychosis. Oh well, at least I'm sober. if I make it to bedtime sober I'll have accomplished one thing today.
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I had to do a presentation at Art School-it went well. As usual about my recovery, based on the Schools buildings, that was once part of a mental asylum, where I started training tobe a psych nurse, then was a patient in the alcohol detox ward, which didn't work, and now as an art student. I am quite open about the alcoholism...
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freedomfries it was a shame you couldn’t go for a walk with your dad. Sometimes it helps breathing in the air and seeing different things than just four walls. Are you on track for your college start day? I hope all goes ok. 
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Originally Posted by Mags1 
freedomfries it was a shame you couldn’t go for a walk with your dad. Sometimes it helps breathing in the air and seeing different things than just four walls. Are you on track for your college start day? I hope all goes ok.
I wish college wasn't in three and a half weeks. I just want to indulge my depression. But that's not helpful. College could be good for me. It could be too much stress. I don't know.
I think I'll register anyway and see how the first month goes. I can drop out by Oct 31 and get my tuition back. I only have to pay 25% of it to register.
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I wasn't sure what was going on - I think I'm in the right place...I'm in for a sober weekend and week upcoming. I'm going to make a decision to NOT have a bad day this week. Ta da. That was simple!
Mags, is the Mister home and on the mend? Did you get a list of, "Do not eat," things or can he eat like he used to?
Throwback to the cat gif on Page One days:
Mags, is the Mister home and on the mend? Did you get a list of, "Do not eat," things or can he eat like he used to?
Throwback to the cat gif on Page One days:
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Sitting in the garden. Lovely and sunny. To get up to 25C, the hottest it's been for weeks. Last gasp of summer before the autumn weather sets. Drinking a cool pepsi max.
Wish I could enjoy any of this. Just forcing myself out here. I wanna be under the covers.
Wish I could enjoy any of this. Just forcing myself out here. I wanna be under the covers.
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Good morning!
I AM IN!
Adult daughter aborted the mission, after spending over three thousand dollars, ordering furniture, people across the country putting time and effort to coordinate all her needs, and she calls us four hours into the drive and says she doesn’t want to move, and why did I ever get the idea she wasn’t happy where she’s at, etc.
I asked her if she really wants that decision, to basically ruin ours, hers with Dr Free, and abort right then and there…. Yep. Sounds like her BEAST talking. We are done. Blocked on phone, blocked on social media.
If she wants to move, she is on her own.
I didn’t drink. I’m far from that..
How do you admins do it? How do you keep offering compassion when people don’t want to help themselves? I mean, OMG I slipped last week, and that has to be so frustrating, even though it’s my own show. But I want to be here, I want the help.
How do you long timers do it? I am guilty as the rest, but another poop analogy is if the dog keeps pooping in the house, after you’ve trained it, and made sure it’s not medical, and or provided it what it needs to succeed, then you either keep the dog outside, or send it away to keep your sanity.
Angry, frustrated, relieved, and like Bim, I AM NOT GOING TO HAVE A BAD DAY THIS WEEK.
Lots to look forward to.
( can’t scroll up to edit-was saying ruin mine and Dr Frees relationship with her)
off to work now, positive today no ding for missing work which I was willing to take the hit to move her )
Off to work.
Please don’t drink or use. It changes everything. Not to the good side.
I AM IN!
Adult daughter aborted the mission, after spending over three thousand dollars, ordering furniture, people across the country putting time and effort to coordinate all her needs, and she calls us four hours into the drive and says she doesn’t want to move, and why did I ever get the idea she wasn’t happy where she’s at, etc.
I asked her if she really wants that decision, to basically ruin ours, hers with Dr Free, and abort right then and there…. Yep. Sounds like her BEAST talking. We are done. Blocked on phone, blocked on social media.
If she wants to move, she is on her own.
I didn’t drink. I’m far from that..
How do you admins do it? How do you keep offering compassion when people don’t want to help themselves? I mean, OMG I slipped last week, and that has to be so frustrating, even though it’s my own show. But I want to be here, I want the help.
How do you long timers do it? I am guilty as the rest, but another poop analogy is if the dog keeps pooping in the house, after you’ve trained it, and made sure it’s not medical, and or provided it what it needs to succeed, then you either keep the dog outside, or send it away to keep your sanity.
Angry, frustrated, relieved, and like Bim, I AM NOT GOING TO HAVE A BAD DAY THIS WEEK.
Lots to look forward to.
( can’t scroll up to edit-was saying ruin mine and Dr Frees relationship with her)
off to work now, positive today no ding for missing work which I was willing to take the hit to move her )
Off to work.
Please don’t drink or use. It changes everything. Not to the good side.
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Yeah, Free2B, my family didn't help me ever- but I kept my substance use away from them. They were the cause of my nearly crippling codependency/enmeshment issues which led to my substance use so from my point of view as the daughter there is no way I'd have wanted to live in the same state as my family when I was in my deepest anger phases.
Your daughter will find her way or she won't. Do you maybe feel like this is your Higher Power protecting you from her intense issues? I know it has to be so tough.
Onward, eh?
Your daughter will find her way or she won't. Do you maybe feel like this is your Higher Power protecting you from her intense issues? I know it has to be so tough.
Onward, eh?
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