tsmkjm

I guess I am looking for support or something. Ifound out yesterday that my college age son not only has a drinking problem, but has been using cocaine. He was brought to the emergency room two nights ago and was released yesterday. He had planned on leaving school and coming home to work and "find" himself. We knew that school was not good for him, however we never dreamed his problems were this big. My husband flew there yesterday and will help him get home. He is angry at us (don't know why) and did not want his father to come. Help!! This is the beginning of a terrible journey that I never thought I would have to take!!

Ann

Welcome to SR. I too have a son who is an addict, and truly know how frightening this is. There are several other parents of addicts on the Nar-Anon forum here, and I invite you to share your story there so they can see you and welcome you also.

Sadly, this is the beginning of what may be a long journey, for you and for him, and hopefully sharing our experience, strength and most of all hope, will help you to find your way and regain your balance.

Just know that we understand and we care and that you are no longer alone. We walk together on this journey, sharing the tears, the fears and the joy that we find along the way. We are happy to have you walk with us and learn, as we did, that the world is still a beautiful place.

Hugs
Ann

JT

Welcome!!

My son is an alcoholic and I have been on this journey (as you said) for 15 years now. Make yourself at home and come on down to the anon forums. There are other mom's and a whole lot of experience, strength and hope.

Hugs,
JT

tsmkjm

Thank you for your support. I will take advantage of the forums.

Moontime

This terrible journey was the best thing that ever happened to me. I have the best relationship I could ever imagine with my father. It's one that's totally built on honesty now. I lived a lie all my life, now I am free. I am on a spiritual journey, where my father has said he wanted what I had. He wanted the serenity that I have today. I pray for your son to find recovery.

Debby

I saw a young girl living alone in a studio apartment with a heavy drinker just like herself and her mother called the ambulance on her to put her in treatment.

Needless to say, she was kicking and screaming "I HATE YOU" over an over as they dragged her outside. Her mother stayed strong no matter how much those words were hurting her. After her treatment the young girl got rid of the guy she was living with due to his drinking and was very thankful & loving to her mother.

My suggestion to you is to go to a meeting with your husband where there are other parents just like you who have or had to deal with your exact same problem. I know many parents who have been EXACTLY in your shoes.

Stay strong and dont beleive your sons words, he is just scared right now.
Debby