Well. Never expected to be here
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Akron,OH
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Well. Never expected to be here
Woke up at 3am and decided I cannot keep drinking. My father quit when he was about my age (50-ish). I knew he had a problem. I didn’t. Ha. I’m sick of the time wasted on bar stools. Sick of wondering if I said anything stupid. Sick of anxiety attacks at 3am. Sick of seeing all the $100 evenings of drinking on my bank statement. Sick of working out and still gaining weight due to alcohol calories. Sick of stupid drinking fights with SO.
One day in. It’s a start.
Planning on my first meeting Sunday. It’s some type of early morning meditation. I like that it is early. Don’t know what to expect there. At the least I just want a place to sit and think.
Not sure what else to do. SO is being supportive. She drinks with me but can stop or choose not to drink. I cannot. I drink if I can and usually more than I should.
That is my story so far.
One day in. It’s a start.
Planning on my first meeting Sunday. It’s some type of early morning meditation. I like that it is early. Don’t know what to expect there. At the least I just want a place to sit and think.
Not sure what else to do. SO is being supportive. She drinks with me but can stop or choose not to drink. I cannot. I drink if I can and usually more than I should.
That is my story so far.
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Welcome littlekings. I don’t think anyone expects to find themselves in a place like SR but this is not a bad place to be - lots of support encouragement and advice here.
SR helped me turn my life around and I know we can help you to do the same.
I’m glad you found us
SR helped me turn my life around and I know we can help you to do the same.
I’m glad you found us
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: terra (mostly)firma
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Welcome board.
This a great place to sit and think.
Come back often , read around , hope to see you around.
Your list of the things you are sick of can be ripped and thrown away , and you know how , I can hear it , Rootin for ya
This a great place to sit and think.
Come back often , read around , hope to see you around.
Your list of the things you are sick of can be ripped and thrown away , and you know how , I can hear it , Rootin for ya
Lots of support and encouragement here - use it to get sober for good! Member
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Good for you, Littlekings.
Getting sober made me so much more productive, confident, and happier than I was when I was drinking.
And there's the added bonus that I no longer behave in ways that give me anxiety and shame for months after the incident.
Getting sober made me so much more productive, confident, and happier than I was when I was drinking.
And there's the added bonus that I no longer behave in ways that give me anxiety and shame for months after the incident.
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Join Date: Jun 2018
Posts: 622
That story sounds just about like me but you still have a SO, I don't and I don't and didn't blame her for leaving.
I have about 1.75 yrs. sober and my ex is my best friend now and life is better then I could have ever imagined.
It is so worth it to give it up.
I have about 1.75 yrs. sober and my ex is my best friend now and life is better then I could have ever imagined.
It is so worth it to give it up.
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Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: Soberville, USA
Posts: 4,174
SR save me from my thug life.
We were never designed to be drunks. It was a learned behavior and therefore it can be unlearned.
What do sober people do all day?
Once a routine was started, the sober ball keeps on rolling.
Easier said. The crave lurks for life.
Sometimes the struggle is by the second. Other times the crave is gone for days.
Thanks.
We were never designed to be drunks. It was a learned behavior and therefore it can be unlearned.
What do sober people do all day?
Once a routine was started, the sober ball keeps on rolling.
Easier said. The crave lurks for life.
Sometimes the struggle is by the second. Other times the crave is gone for days.
Thanks.
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Join Date: Nov 2016
Posts: 110
welcome you've found the right people here. This board is full of wonderful, supportive and wise folks. I'm back after 2yrs sober then the past year of bingeing on and off. I knew where I needed to come to talk and listen. Stick around
you've found the right people here. This board is full of wonderful, supportive and wise folks. I'm back after 2yrs sober then the past year of bingeing on and off. I knew where I needed to come to talk and listen. Stick around
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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I haven't thought about Little Kings (it's a tiny-bottle beer made in the Midwest of the U.S.) in years.
Memories. They were great for the hot summer days. Didn't get warm before they were gone.
Welcome to the site.
I'll never drink another Little King or any other beer. That's a very good thing. I stopped drinking over seven years ago and I spent a lot of time on this site absorbing the deep well of wisdom and help to be found here. Hope to see you around.
Memories. They were great for the hot summer days. Didn't get warm before they were gone.
Welcome to the site.
I'll never drink another Little King or any other beer. That's a very good thing. I stopped drinking over seven years ago and I spent a lot of time on this site absorbing the deep well of wisdom and help to be found here. Hope to see you around.
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Join Date: Dec 2019
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Welcome to SR littlekings. It is great you have such good support at home. My advice to you is to use that as much as possible. Talking to your SO and people you really trust is a great system of built-in accountability. I thinking walking the early recovery road by yourself can be very fraught.
How did yesterday go? Hope you feel good this morning.
How did yesterday go? Hope you feel good this morning.
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Well. Never expected to be here
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Littlekings - I'm so glad you found us & decided to join. SR has meant the world to me. I never expected to stay all this time - but I'm here every day. You are never alone & we all understand what you're going through.
When I was your age I was still insisting I could use willpower to control my drinking if I just tried hard enough. Of course that never worked. Quitting all together seemed impossible. So I kept going, trying to moderate, until I ended up with dui's, ruined relationships, wasted money, broken trust, health issues - and much more. My life was being destroyed - and I was allowing it to happen. I wish it hadn't taken me so many years to understand that each time it was in my system it led to dangerous & unexpected consequences. You don't need it. Be proud you've made this decision to take back your life.
When I was your age I was still insisting I could use willpower to control my drinking if I just tried hard enough. Of course that never worked. Quitting all together seemed impossible. So I kept going, trying to moderate, until I ended up with dui's, ruined relationships, wasted money, broken trust, health issues - and much more. My life was being destroyed - and I was allowing it to happen. I wish it hadn't taken me so many years to understand that each time it was in my system it led to dangerous & unexpected consequences. You don't need it. Be proud you've made this decision to take back your life.
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