Probable Miscarriage
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Probable Miscarriage
Hello all. My fiancee and I have to go for an emergency scan in 3 hours as she is 7 weeks pregnant and experiencing bad cramps and heavy bleeding. We think she is miscarrying as she has had two miscarriages in the past which went a similar way. We're both terrified and devastated. I know I must stay sober until the scan and be present mentally but this is the hardest day of my life. I feel like drinking myself into oblivion after we find out the inevitable later. Just came here to talk as I dont have anyone IRL except my boss who knows about the pregnancy.
Owen
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Hi Owen,
I am just checking in to see how your fiancée is doing and how you are doing. I’m not sure what happened today, but whatever did, I know that you’ll be able to be there for her and yourself much better sober. Sending lots of love your way.
❤️Delilah
I am just checking in to see how your fiancée is doing and how you are doing. I’m not sure what happened today, but whatever did, I know that you’ll be able to be there for her and yourself much better sober. Sending lots of love your way.
❤️Delilah
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I hope things turn out OK Owen. Prayers out for you both, and your baby.
You are right you need to stay sober - however bad you feel, your partner must be feeling worse,.
Continue to be there for her.
D
You are right you need to stay sober - however bad you feel, your partner must be feeling worse,.
Continue to be there for her.
D
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Hi Owen, you've your good woman to be strong for so drinks off the table.
If it offers you hope I've 2 small children but we lost 3 along the way. 1 at week 8, 1 at week 10 and then another at week 21.
Sadly 1 in 3.5 don't make it and many times it's just pot luck. X
If it offers you hope I've 2 small children but we lost 3 along the way. 1 at week 8, 1 at week 10 and then another at week 21.
Sadly 1 in 3.5 don't make it and many times it's just pot luck. X
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Sending prayers & support for you & your fiancé. No matter what happens she needs you sober and you need you sober. It’s hard when you don’t have f2f support but you have each other and you have this community to turn to. Hang in there.
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Owen, I’m sorry to hear about this. My ex-wife and I had two miscarriages. I will never forget the second one. It came after my 30th birthday party where I got so drunk and made a fool of myself. So I was extremely hungover on the day of the miscarriage. My poor ex-wife. We were absolutely devastated.
But not all was lost. One year later we gave birth to my first daughter and 3 years after that we gave birth to my twins. Stay sober and have hope. We’ll be thinking of you.
But not all was lost. One year later we gave birth to my first daughter and 3 years after that we gave birth to my twins. Stay sober and have hope. We’ll be thinking of you.
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I'm so sorry about that Owen. Troubled times. But as much as she needs you today, your partner will need you even more in the coming days. Be there for her mind and body and don't drink my friend. Otherwise she will have to endure this on her own. Worse than on her own. On her own along with a drunk sad mad crazy person. It will make it all so much worse so stay with us here.
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Owen, I am so sorry for what you and your wife are going through. It's so important for you to be there for her and for you both to heal together. I hope things have turned out well.
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I'm really sorry as well, i hope it all works out for the best. but you gotta be there for your wife, you do love her don't you? She want you by her side to be there and if it turns dark, comfort her. drinking yourself into oblivion doesn't solve anything, i've been there. So keep up your strenght!
xx
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