Just me and the dog.
Erica375
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Just me and the dog.
Yep, my daughter moved out last Friday. I haven't had a drink but it definitely crossed my mind, so I'm here to rat myself out.
I've mostly stayed inside, on the couch, watching tv and knitting and reading recovery literature. I've attended at least one Zoom AA meeting a day. Yesterday I realized I was bordering on feeling sorry for myself.
So this morning I got up, took a shower, and washed my bedsheets. Time for a new beginning! I have way too much to be grateful for to feel sorry for myself. And over the fact that all my children are doing well and living independently of me, no less!
The weather is getting nicer and there's plenty for me to do in the yard. A little bit at a time I will get things done.
I've mostly stayed inside, on the couch, watching tv and knitting and reading recovery literature. I've attended at least one Zoom AA meeting a day. Yesterday I realized I was bordering on feeling sorry for myself.
So this morning I got up, took a shower, and washed my bedsheets. Time for a new beginning! I have way too much to be grateful for to feel sorry for myself. And over the fact that all my children are doing well and living independently of me, no less!
The weather is getting nicer and there's plenty for me to do in the yard. A little bit at a time I will get things done.
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I love this post..
You are sad. I get that. It is natural to be sad when your child leaves home because you will miss them. However you recognised that sadness was turning into self pity and self pity does not serve us well. You turned that negative thinking around and did something good for yourself!! Well done.!!
And of course, well done for not picking up a drink! It crossed your mind and that's ok because you're an alcoholic and it the thought will comtinue to come in from time to time but its what you did with the thought that counts ! You didn't act on it. You didn't drink. How awesome is that?
Drinking would not have made things better. Only a million times worse.
Well done !!
You are sad. I get that. It is natural to be sad when your child leaves home because you will miss them. However you recognised that sadness was turning into self pity and self pity does not serve us well. You turned that negative thinking around and did something good for yourself!! Well done.!!
And of course, well done for not picking up a drink! It crossed your mind and that's ok because you're an alcoholic and it the thought will comtinue to come in from time to time but its what you did with the thought that counts ! You didn't act on it. You didn't drink. How awesome is that?
Drinking would not have made things better. Only a million times worse.
Well done !!
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I was sad when my oldest daughter left for college and after dropping her off, I came home and drank. That was 12 years ago. Of course that didn't change anything, it just made me feel worse. It was during her first year of college that I finally managed to get sober.
Last summer, she and her partner came to live with us for a few months to get out of a small apartment in a big city during the pandemic. It was great to spend significant time with her as she approached her 30th birthday. As the saying goes, when one door closes another one opens. Stay sober so that you can take advantage of new doors opening.
Last summer, she and her partner came to live with us for a few months to get out of a small apartment in a big city during the pandemic. It was great to spend significant time with her as she approached her 30th birthday. As the saying goes, when one door closes another one opens. Stay sober so that you can take advantage of new doors opening.
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