Blogs


Notices

Howdy ya値l

Old 03-09-2021, 07:55 AM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
BeABetterMan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Arizona, USA
Posts: 1,582
Howdy ya値l

Just checking in. Been soo freaking busy. Started coaching my son痴 football team. LOVING it. My kids have so much going on, which means I do too. I love the activity. I love their company. All their friends are great. Kids on their teams are great. Super busy at work. Life in sobriety is quite rewarding. The only thing is being so busy has had me not making as many AA meetings as I need to. I have time tonight so I値l do that and then stay up late drawing up plays.

Just wanted to check in. Lots of times I only check in when it is a **** storm.

*for those that follow me and the drama with my 13yo, she痴 still a huge PITA. But, I知 giving her her space so the drama is less. She asked us if she can meet a boy at the park. Mom and I agreed if he comes to our houses first so we can meet him. Holy crap. HOLY CRAP.
BeABetterMan is offline  
The Following 14 Users Say Thank You to BeABetterMan For This Useful Post:
2muchpain (03-09-2021), advbike (03-09-2021), Anna (03-09-2021), Bekindalways (03-09-2021), D122y (03-09-2021), Dee74 (03-09-2021), fishkiller (03-10-2021), gymratgirl2 (03-09-2021), Hevyn (03-09-2021), Lpg (03-09-2021), m00t (03-09-2021), Mizz (03-10-2021), mnjen (03-10-2021), Steely (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 08:39 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Anna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
Posts: 57,329
Oh BABM, 13 year old girls are bound to test you. Good for you for stepping back a bit.

You sound like you're doing great.
Anna is offline  
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to Anna For This Useful Post:
advbike (03-09-2021), Bekindalways (03-09-2021), fishkiller (03-10-2021), mnjen (03-10-2021), Steely (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 11:09 AM
  # 3 (permalink)  
Member
 
stickyone's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2020
Posts: 627
Good morning BABM,

Great to hear things are going well. I too have a girl and could only imagine when she gets to her teens. With your busy schedule that you have. one day at a time you accomplished so much. Have a good day , make time for that AA meeting and self care my friend.
stickyone is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to stickyone For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 11:12 AM
  # 4 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2018
Location: Nsw
Posts: 381
That's good to hear babm.
Finalcall is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to Finalcall For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 01:59 PM
  # 5 (permalink)  
Administrator
 
Dee74's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 201,790
Blog Entries: 1
Good to hear from you BABM and know you're doing well
Dee74 is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to Dee74 For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 02:10 PM
  # 6 (permalink)  
Learning to live again
 
Hevyn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 47,045
Great to know you're feeling so positive, BABM.
Hevyn is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to Hevyn For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 02:51 PM
  # 7 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: St Louis, MO
Posts: 11
My 13 year old (now 18) put me through the wringer.. She is AMAZING now! 13-16 was awful but just try to protect her from making horrible decisions. I had to 'talk firmly' :-P to an older boy... never saw him again. Sobriety helps get through those years!
m00t is offline  
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to m00t For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021), Steely (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 03:49 PM
  # 8 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Dec 2020
Posts: 3
Teenage girls are tough. I used to be one...and now I have one. 🤦‍♀️YIKES! You are doing it right - give her some space, but set some reasonable expectations. Being a sober dad is the best thing you can do for the both of you!
gymratgirl2 is offline  
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to gymratgirl2 For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021), mnjen (03-10-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 04:07 PM
  # 9 (permalink)  
Member
 
Dropsie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 3,103
Good to hear from you -- you sound super.
Dropsie is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to Dropsie For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 06:30 PM
  # 10 (permalink)  
Member
 
Runswithspoons's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 110
Some people get overwhelmed by busy, but it sounds like that really agrees with you!
Runswithspoons is offline  
Old 03-09-2021, 07:24 PM
  # 11 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
BeABetterMan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Arizona, USA
Posts: 1,582
It痴 a fine line. There痴 a lot. Then boss called a 4 hour meeting on Saturday. Um...?
BeABetterMan is offline  
The Following User Says Thank You to BeABetterMan For This Useful Post:
Mizz (03-10-2021)
Old 03-09-2021, 07:35 PM
  # 12 (permalink)  
Member
 
Steely's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: NSW - Australia
Posts: 12,140
Gosh, if my daughter had done the things I did as a teenager I would have totally freaked out. Mostly they survive if have ok parents. You're one of those parents BABM.

Great to see you going so well.
Steely is offline  
Old 03-09-2021, 08:01 PM
  # 13 (permalink)  
Member
Thread Starter
 
BeABetterMan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Arizona, USA
Posts: 1,582
The things I put my mom through...
BeABetterMan is offline  
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to BeABetterMan For This Useful Post:
Bekindalways (03-09-2021), fishkiller (03-10-2021), Steely (03-09-2021)
Old 03-10-2021, 05:48 AM
  # 14 (permalink)  
Member
 
Mizz's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 3,352
4 hour meeting?
Is the rover not roving? Did it find some trace of life? I saw that its arm is working and it went on a little trek. Its water pump works too and I had a listen.... Fascinating.

Boys? Ya, Im sure your anxiety is through the roof on that one. It will be okay.


Mizz is offline  
Old 03-10-2021, 06:06 AM
  # 15 (permalink)  
Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2018
Posts: 2,282
Originally Posted by BeABetterMan View Post
Just checking in. Been soo freaking busy. Started coaching my son痴 football team. LOVING it. My kids have so much going on, which means I do too. I love the activity. I love their company. All their friends are great. Kids on their teams are great. Super busy at work. Life in sobriety is quite rewarding. The only thing is being so busy has had me not making as many AA meetings as I need to. I have time tonight so I値l do that and then stay up late drawing up plays.
Good on you BABM. I've coached football (proper football, or as you may say 'soccer'!) with my son since they were u6 - they're u12 now and I absolutely love it. I've been gladly usurped by a better coach but I now do the organising and love those kids like my own family. We're the only mixed team in our league (we have two girls and 11 lads) and, before lockdown struck, were top of the local league. That's such a strong blow for equality of access in sport so I also get a social kick out of it

Good to hear you sounding so upbeat. Your posts nowbyou are sober are just so SO different to the despair when you were drinking


Be123 is offline  
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Be123 For This Useful Post:
fishkiller (03-10-2021), mnjen (03-11-2021)
Old 03-10-2021, 08:21 AM
  # 16 (permalink)  
Member
 
fishkiller's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: VA
Posts: 3,336
Good to hear BABM!
fishkiller is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:42 AM.