Anger/sadness
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Anger/sadness
I don't remember this from before when I attempted to stop drinking, I often wake up angry, at people from the past. Logically I know what is past, is past, but I'm consumed by rage. Then often in the same day I can be weeping, sad songs/TV programs make me cry,
Also my sex drive has gone, but maybe a good thing for awhile, has always got my into trouble.
Also my sex drive has gone, but maybe a good thing for awhile, has always got my into trouble.
Last edited by JamesW; 02-26-2021 at 08:41 PM. Reason: to add
I was angry when I quit too - as time went on I realised I was mostly angry at myself. The more sober time I had, the less the anger stayed around.
I was sad too - I think it's all part of mind and body healing James.
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I was sad too - I think it's all part of mind and body healing James.
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Emotional swings for no apparent reason were pretty common for the first few months of my sobriety. One thing I heard that helped: "your feelings are real but they are not necessarily reality." Stick with it James, like Dee said that does go away with time sober.
Good luck!
Good luck!
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I realise that much, if not most of my anger is really about my choices, I allowed myself to be in situations/friendship which were essentially toxic. Any sensible sober person could have told me so, but I ploughed on regardless, but always half drunk, or totally drunk.
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Hi James. The brilliant thing is that you are aware that this is happening. Your brain will heal itself - you don't need to believe in science for it to do it's thing. You do your little bit (not taking the first drink) ad science will take over and heal your brain. Give it time
Thanks Dee
I realise that much, if not most of my anger is really about my choices, I allowed myself to be in situations/friendship which were essentially toxic. Any sensible sober person could have told me so, but I ploughed on regardless, but always half drunk, or totally drunk.
I realise that much, if not most of my anger is really about my choices, I allowed myself to be in situations/friendship which were essentially toxic. Any sensible sober person could have told me so, but I ploughed on regardless, but always half drunk, or totally drunk.
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I can relate to being upset over choices I made while in active drinking. I still occasionally have some flashbacks but someone on here used a good way to describe. It’s like your in a car and your past is your past, it’s still there and you can look at the rear view mirror but really concentrate on looking forward while driving which is your present and future. The longer you are sober the choices you make will be authentic sober you. No self doubting if it was booze or hangover related. No more compromising choices to ensure booze is still available (like I used to ensure little as possible after hours work because I knew I’d be passed out). We build up these experiences and regain our confidence in decision making. They aren’t always going to be the best perfect choices but we no longer have doubt in them because booze was a factor and we can learn better and react better.
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