Disappointed
Disappointed
I have been drinking since Friday night. So apart from some brief sleeping time maybe around 27 hours? Straight after a damn meeting. Like a damn stereotype.
Lots of outside stuff , that I didn’t have the serenity for - a client died, then trauma triggered by a critical incident , my sponsor got unwell , stopped contacting over a few weeks , we agreed I need a new sponsor and then she picked up herself earlier this week, my own mental health is bad and has been for awhile and I needed to just turn it off, because I can’t fight it anymore. I’m too tired. I can’t be sober and almost constantly suicidal. It’s exhausting . And ironically tonight I had my first social occasion in around 18mths-2 years. I lied. I drank lime and soda at the table and vodka in the bathroom. Pathetic. All because I drank “a beer” last night to take edge off after the meeting - which turned into 9. Then had hair of dog beer, wine and vodka all day. I disgust myself.
But I also know I don’t have to do this. I don’t have to keep going. If I can stop , I can start again on recovery path. But maybe I don’t have it in me.
Lots of outside stuff , that I didn’t have the serenity for - a client died, then trauma triggered by a critical incident , my sponsor got unwell , stopped contacting over a few weeks , we agreed I need a new sponsor and then she picked up herself earlier this week, my own mental health is bad and has been for awhile and I needed to just turn it off, because I can’t fight it anymore. I’m too tired. I can’t be sober and almost constantly suicidal. It’s exhausting . And ironically tonight I had my first social occasion in around 18mths-2 years. I lied. I drank lime and soda at the table and vodka in the bathroom. Pathetic. All because I drank “a beer” last night to take edge off after the meeting - which turned into 9. Then had hair of dog beer, wine and vodka all day. I disgust myself.
But I also know I don’t have to do this. I don’t have to keep going. If I can stop , I can start again on recovery path. But maybe I don’t have it in me.
I’m really sorry you are going through so much right now. I know it’s hard, especially having to feel those feelings. I used booze for years to numb those feelings.
Sobriety has allowed me to learn better ways to deal with my emotions. Which allows me to handle all situations better.
These first steps are so difficult but you can do this. Pick yourself up today and don’t be too hard on yourself, it isn’t helpful. Decide to do at least one thing today. Post here to help with emotional events, we will give you that support!
I hope you can find peace.
Sobriety has allowed me to learn better ways to deal with my emotions. Which allows me to handle all situations better.
These first steps are so difficult but you can do this. Pick yourself up today and don’t be too hard on yourself, it isn’t helpful. Decide to do at least one thing today. Post here to help with emotional events, we will give you that support!
I hope you can find peace.
While I was getting sober in 2011, my drinking friend (we partied together for years and she was always concerned about my drinking...) was in the hospital with failing organs due to alcoholism. We met in 1986. That was the year I made it to my first AA meeting.
My sobriety date is May 16, 2011, her death date is July 14, 2011.
I take my alcoholism seriously. It's a matter of life or death. I am either working on one or the other.... I choose sobriety today. Beats all the stuff that goes with my drinking.
Working those steps saved my life. They can help you, too!
You can do this, too. When you know deep in your soul that it's either living or dying, you can move forward in your process. I know you can do this.
My sobriety date is May 16, 2011, her death date is July 14, 2011.
I take my alcoholism seriously. It's a matter of life or death. I am either working on one or the other.... I choose sobriety today. Beats all the stuff that goes with my drinking.
Working those steps saved my life. They can help you, too!
You can do this, too. When you know deep in your soul that it's either living or dying, you can move forward in your process. I know you can do this.
I’m really sorry you are going through so much right now. I know it’s hard, especially having to feel those feelings. I used booze for years to numb those feelings.
Sobriety has allowed me to learn better ways to deal with my emotions. Which allows me to handle all situations better.
These first steps are so difficult but you can do this. Pick yourself up today and don’t be too hard on yourself, it isn’t helpful. Decide to do at least one thing today. Post here to help with emotional events, we will give you that support!
I hope you can find peace.
Sobriety has allowed me to learn better ways to deal with my emotions. Which allows me to handle all situations better.
These first steps are so difficult but you can do this. Pick yourself up today and don’t be too hard on yourself, it isn’t helpful. Decide to do at least one thing today. Post here to help with emotional events, we will give you that support!
I hope you can find peace.
Far out, I don’t know why I am not even drunk. But I guess it only goes to show there is absolutely nothing for me at the end of those bottles.
While I was getting sober in 2011, my drinking friend (we partied together for years and she was always concerned about my drinking...) was in the hospital with failing organs due to alcoholism. We met in 1986. That was the year I made it to my first AA meeting.
My sobriety date is May 16, 2011, her death date is July 14, 2011.
I take my alcoholism seriously. It's a matter of life or death. I am either working on one or the other.... I choose sobriety today. Beats all the stuff that goes with my drinking.
Working those steps saved my life. They can help you, too!
You can do this, too. When you know deep in your soul that it's either living or dying, you can move forward in your process. I know you can do this.
My sobriety date is May 16, 2011, her death date is July 14, 2011.
I take my alcoholism seriously. It's a matter of life or death. I am either working on one or the other.... I choose sobriety today. Beats all the stuff that goes with my drinking.
Working those steps saved my life. They can help you, too!
You can do this, too. When you know deep in your soul that it's either living or dying, you can move forward in your process. I know you can do this.
For some, sobriety is not linear.
In my own relapses I have known with every ounce of my being that drinking was not the road I needed to walk down. Mental and emotional life situations got the best of me and my only recourse was to drink. It makes no logical sense but that was the decision I made then.
You do have it in you to be sober. You do have the strength to get through those moments sober. You have the strength now. It is good you posted and I hope that you get back to being free from alcohol. You can do this, Tanky.
In my own relapses I have known with every ounce of my being that drinking was not the road I needed to walk down. Mental and emotional life situations got the best of me and my only recourse was to drink. It makes no logical sense but that was the decision I made then.
You do have it in you to be sober. You do have the strength to get through those moments sober. You have the strength now. It is good you posted and I hope that you get back to being free from alcohol. You can do this, Tanky.
Sorry to hear of all you have been facing, Tanky. I know the feeling and wanting the instant relief of a beer. The brain knows it is an instant fix, hence the craving. The emotional load was high, but also look at what thoughts you had, and whether you were also experiencing HALT. My guess is you may have been tired and hungry after the meeting. It was that first beer that got you. What thoughts were you having?. What was your AV telling you.
You can totally do this, next time just don't have that beer. It's that first drink that gets us, every time. Maybe you also need to take better care of yourself - physically and spiritually - because you have a whole lot going on in your life. Hard exercise, walks in nature, etc. That is what saves me when the stress piles up. Glad you're back, you can totally do this.
Take care Tanky, we are all with you.
You can totally do this, next time just don't have that beer. It's that first drink that gets us, every time. Maybe you also need to take better care of yourself - physically and spiritually - because you have a whole lot going on in your life. Hard exercise, walks in nature, etc. That is what saves me when the stress piles up. Glad you're back, you can totally do this.
Take care Tanky, we are all with you.
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You definitely can do this. There are many down the line drunks that have recovered from similar or more hopeless situations. Don't forget to be nice to yourself, many people fall into this trap, but getting sober is your responsibility.
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Tanky, maybe it’s time to get some more help with your mental health issues? I am now taking an AD, and interviewing therapists because I want to stay quit. The antidepressant is starting to kick in, and it is helping me to feel less helpless.
As you are feeling suicidal, it sounds like your MH issues are making it harder for you to stay sober.
As you are feeling suicidal, it sounds like your MH issues are making it harder for you to stay sober.
You can get back Tanky. I drank after 18 months of sobriety for an entire week, and I drank hard. It sounds like you have been too. That was 5 years ago.
Just go back to exactly what was keeping you sober. It wouldn't hurt to enlist the help of a medical professional to deal with the suicidal thoughts. That is no way to live.
Just because you have fallen off, doesn't mean you have to stay there. There is a way out of the madness. Stay close, and pick up the big book.
Just go back to exactly what was keeping you sober. It wouldn't hurt to enlist the help of a medical professional to deal with the suicidal thoughts. That is no way to live.
Just because you have fallen off, doesn't mean you have to stay there. There is a way out of the madness. Stay close, and pick up the big book.
Tanky - Every time I decided to have 'a beer' to take the edge off, I was headed to danger. Sometimes it wasn't too bad - but other times, months (sometimes years) of drinking followed. You've come back after a relatively brief time because you know it can't continue. Be thankful you recognize this.
I'm sorry for the bad things that happened - but we know by now that drinking doesn't do a thing to really help. We still have the sad things to deal with - and now, one more - we're hung over, jittery, & disgusted with ourselves. Not worth it, Tanky. I know you have it in you & can get back to building a sober life.
I'm sorry for the bad things that happened - but we know by now that drinking doesn't do a thing to really help. We still have the sad things to deal with - and now, one more - we're hung over, jittery, & disgusted with ourselves. Not worth it, Tanky. I know you have it in you & can get back to building a sober life.
Thanks for all support and advice. I woke up shaking & sweaty and alcohol probably still in my system right now, as is only about 4-5 hours since last drink. My brain is quiet , which is nice.
And yes, Elly. I may need more MH support. I did resume taking medication a little over 2 weeks ago. So is possible it just not working fully yet. But I may need more than that to deal w cPTSD symptoms, too. I don’t often get directly triggered by my work, so I guess I need to pay attention to that. And all the other symptoms that are present alongside the obsessive suicidal ideation and planning. If I was my client , risk notifications would have been made, I guess. But I would also have noted all of my protective factors and been quietly thinking “she will get though somehow”.
thanks to HP that I wake up today relatively unscathed.
I will post and face the music today.
And yes, Elly. I may need more MH support. I did resume taking medication a little over 2 weeks ago. So is possible it just not working fully yet. But I may need more than that to deal w cPTSD symptoms, too. I don’t often get directly triggered by my work, so I guess I need to pay attention to that. And all the other symptoms that are present alongside the obsessive suicidal ideation and planning. If I was my client , risk notifications would have been made, I guess. But I would also have noted all of my protective factors and been quietly thinking “she will get though somehow”.
thanks to HP that I wake up today relatively unscathed.
I will post and face the music today.
For some, sobriety is not linear.
In my own relapses I have known with every ounce of my being that drinking was not the road I needed to walk down. Mental and emotional life situations got the best of me and my only recourse was to drink. It makes no logical sense but that was the decision I made then.
You do have it in you to be sober. You do have the strength to get through those moments sober. You have the strength now. It is good you posted and I hope that you get back to being free from alcohol. You can do this, Tanky.
In my own relapses I have known with every ounce of my being that drinking was not the road I needed to walk down. Mental and emotional life situations got the best of me and my only recourse was to drink. It makes no logical sense but that was the decision I made then.
You do have it in you to be sober. You do have the strength to get through those moments sober. You have the strength now. It is good you posted and I hope that you get back to being free from alcohol. You can do this, Tanky.
Sorry to hear of all you have been facing, Tanky. I know the feeling and wanting the instant relief of a beer. The brain knows it is an instant fix, hence the craving. The emotional load was high, but also look at what thoughts you had, and whether you were also experiencing HALT. My guess is you may have been tired and hungry after the meeting. It was that first beer that got you. What thoughts were you having?. What was your AV telling you.
You can totally do this, next time just don't have that beer. It's that first drink that gets us, every time. Maybe you also need to take better care of yourself - physically and spiritually - because you have a whole lot going on in your life. Hard exercise, walks in nature, etc. That is what saves me when the stress piles up. Glad you're back, you can totally do this.
Take care Tanky, we are all with you.
You can totally do this, next time just don't have that beer. It's that first drink that gets us, every time. Maybe you also need to take better care of yourself - physically and spiritually - because you have a whole lot going on in your life. Hard exercise, walks in nature, etc. That is what saves me when the stress piles up. Glad you're back, you can totally do this.
Take care Tanky, we are all with you.
That’s a lot to have on your plate Tanky, for anybody.
But the thing that strikes me about you is that you always come back.
You want recovery.
I think if you get help on the things you can get help with, stop pushing yourself so hard , stop beating yourself up when you miss those impossible standards you set, and let the Universe run itself for a while, you can do this
be easy on yourself. Clear your plate a bit at a time.
Focus on the not drinking right now as a priority
D
But the thing that strikes me about you is that you always come back.
You want recovery.
I think if you get help on the things you can get help with, stop pushing yourself so hard , stop beating yourself up when you miss those impossible standards you set, and let the Universe run itself for a while, you can do this
be easy on yourself. Clear your plate a bit at a time.
Focus on the not drinking right now as a priority
D
You definitely can do this. There are many down the line drunks that have recovered from similar or more hopeless situations. Don't forget to be nice to yourself, many people fall into this trap, but getting sober is your responsibility.
"No one is coming to save you"
-David Goggins
"No one is coming to save you"
-David Goggins
That’s a lot to have on your plate Tanky, for anybody.
But the thing that strikes me about you is that you always come back.
You want recovery.
I think if you get help on the things you can get help with, stop pushing yourself so hard , stop beating yourself up when you miss those impossible standards you set, and let the Universe run itself for a while, you can do this
be easy on yourself. Clear your plate a bit at a time.
Focus on the not drinking right now as a priority
D
But the thing that strikes me about you is that you always come back.
You want recovery.
I think if you get help on the things you can get help with, stop pushing yourself so hard , stop beating yourself up when you miss those impossible standards you set, and let the Universe run itself for a while, you can do this
be easy on yourself. Clear your plate a bit at a time.
Focus on the not drinking right now as a priority
D
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