January 3rd and This is Official
Hi DriGuy, that is amazing, thanks.
Just out of curiosity - no agenda to this question - do you ever get any urge to drink now?
I know 100% that if an ex-drinker stopped for 50+ years and drank again, he壇 be in trouble as our brains are rewired permanently, but I知 two years sober and very very occasionally crave a drink. I知 always curious how this craving reduces in the longer term.
As I say, definitely no agenda to the question. I知 wary that some drinkers quit and mistakenly think they値l be OK to drink again after a few months or years, and I don稚 want anyone to fall into that trap.
Just out of curiosity - no agenda to this question - do you ever get any urge to drink now?
I know 100% that if an ex-drinker stopped for 50+ years and drank again, he壇 be in trouble as our brains are rewired permanently, but I知 two years sober and very very occasionally crave a drink. I知 always curious how this craving reduces in the longer term.
As I say, definitely no agenda to the question. I知 wary that some drinkers quit and mistakenly think they値l be OK to drink again after a few months or years, and I don稚 want anyone to fall into that trap.
In my case, the urges have reduced in intensity and frequency, but they are always easily manageable, and not those insane cravings in early recovery. They are more like thoughts. Working hard on some physical project, and accomplishing some task, can trigger a pleasant thought that I could sit back on the porch and have a drink, both as a reward and a celebration of getting a job done. This is quickly followed by what feels like my mind waking up or snapping back to attention, and then a laugh at myself. I might go for two or three years without having one of those thoughts, and then I may have two or three of them in a month.
I don't define these as urges, just a mind slip of some sort. I actually think it's funny when it happens. It's funny because I fully embrace the idea that one drink poses not just a risk, but a promise that things will get bad. I've never tested this, because while I have the thought, I don't want or need a drink. Urge? Hmmm, maybe. The thought is almost identical to my drinking days, where the pleasant thought of a drink after work always came in the disguise of just "one harmless drink," which always ended up in being drunk for the rest of the night with "one harmless drink" after another.
My second speculation that it is a warped desire to self destruct. We fully understand the consequences (maybe), but we have a need to self destruct. I've sensed that need personally years ago, so I project that on others. Why it's there might be that we feel like we don't deserve what we have, but this might be no more than a wild guess.
I think that we just have to embrace and internalize the knowledge that we can never drink again and expect different results. That may be too simple, but it seems like it's all I have needed to get this far.
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Belated thanks for such a detailed reply, DG.
It’s a shame that urges to drink are likely to resurface every now and then for the rest of our days. As you say, they’re rarer and weaker, but I reckon the intensity plateaus after a few years unfortunately. It’s then down to us and our willpower to do what’s best. It’s good to have a healthy fear of drinking “just the one” and wondering what happens next. What if I was at some wedding and drank a glass of champagne type of question. The chances are nothing at all would happen or would I start develop a huge urge to drink in the following days? Again I’d probably resist, but it wouldn’t be pleasant and the risk of relapsing during those days would be immense.
Rather insanely I gargled some red wine a few months back before spitting it out. I think I did it as I was curious about the taste - I’m glad to report it didn’t taste great. That’s as far as I’ll be experimenting again in this lifetime.
It’s a shame that urges to drink are likely to resurface every now and then for the rest of our days. As you say, they’re rarer and weaker, but I reckon the intensity plateaus after a few years unfortunately. It’s then down to us and our willpower to do what’s best. It’s good to have a healthy fear of drinking “just the one” and wondering what happens next. What if I was at some wedding and drank a glass of champagne type of question. The chances are nothing at all would happen or would I start develop a huge urge to drink in the following days? Again I’d probably resist, but it wouldn’t be pleasant and the risk of relapsing during those days would be immense.
Rather insanely I gargled some red wine a few months back before spitting it out. I think I did it as I was curious about the taste - I’m glad to report it didn’t taste great. That’s as far as I’ll be experimenting again in this lifetime.
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