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Originally Posted by Dee74 
I know folks like to lighten the mood but I’m not sure it’s warranted in this thread guys.
There’s some pretty awesome sharing going on - let’s not dick with that.
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There’s some pretty awesome sharing going on - let’s not dick with that.
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Originally Posted by saoutchik
My great fear is that the closure of barbers and hairdressers might cause the return of the mullet - something that was long thought to be extinct. This would cause alarm and distress to an unwary public, especially those under 30 who have never had to live through such a harrowing experience.
Some people look straight out of the early 90's but then I see the KFC potato wedge shaped eyebrows and I don't remember those being in style when I was a kid.
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Pretty intriguing thread. Lots of very interesting posts from everyone.
As I said earlier, I don't have much to complain about. That being said, I go frickin cross-eyed when told what I can and can't do within reason. I know I can't punch someone or rob a bank, but there are certain things I feel are up to me, and me only. So I did some whining and got it off my chest.
I should only concern myself with those things I can control, everything else is noise. So that's what I'm doing and it takes a lot of pressure off of me.
As I said earlier, I don't have much to complain about. That being said, I go frickin cross-eyed when told what I can and can't do within reason. I know I can't punch someone or rob a bank, but there are certain things I feel are up to me, and me only. So I did some whining and got it off my chest.
I should only concern myself with those things I can control, everything else is noise. So that's what I'm doing and it takes a lot of pressure off of me.
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"I'm a hairdresser, salons only closed for a month where I live. Mullets have been making a comeback for quite a while here before the pandemic. Same thing with mom jeans, white dad sneakers, white socks pulled up over leggings like they're on their way to jazzercise, shag haircuts, scrunchies on the wrist, birkenstocks, etc. I cut a few mullets before I quit.
Some people look straight out of the early 90's but then I see the KFC potato wedge shaped eyebrows and I don't remember those being in style when I was a kid."
Great. As though things weren't bad enough. Now the 80's are coming back :O
Some people look straight out of the early 90's but then I see the KFC potato wedge shaped eyebrows and I don't remember those being in style when I was a kid."
Great. As though things weren't bad enough. Now the 80's are coming back :O
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I'm concerned about your state of mind now, man. This anger and looking outside of yourself for things to rail against has proven to be toxic time and time again. Same as it has been with me, and at the bottom of all of that what I found was a whole world of hurt and fear. This isn't a new refrain from me to you, but I'm going to sing it again: please, please consider finding yourself a counselor with whom you can really connect. You have lots of reasons to be in a whole lot of pain, but there is a way out of there. You are worth it, you deserve it, and I know you're strong enough to get there because you've done an amazing job getting yourself sober again. Plus, you put aside your pride to get a job that's less than ideal and you're being just a decent all-around Joe.
Do the harder thing. I care. We care.
Thats very good advice. When I started working with a counsellor, I got to the core of where my pain/fear lies. It was difficult but after exploring it, crying about it and talking about it, I feel like a new person. It’s like pulling the weed out from the root. I highly recommend anyone, not just alcs, to seek therapy if they have issues. Short term pain for long term gain!
Do the harder thing. I care. We care.
Thats very good advice. When I started working with a counsellor, I got to the core of where my pain/fear lies. It was difficult but after exploring it, crying about it and talking about it, I feel like a new person. It’s like pulling the weed out from the root. I highly recommend anyone, not just alcs, to seek therapy if they have issues. Short term pain for long term gain!
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Originally Posted by thomas11
Pretty intriguing thread. Lots of very interesting posts from everyone.
As I said earlier, I don't have much to complain about. That being said, I go frickin cross-eyed when told what I can and can't do within reason. I know I can't punch someone or rob a bank, but there are certain things I feel are up to me, and me only. So I did some whining and got it off my chest.
I should only concern myself with those things I can control, everything else is noise. So that's what I'm doing and it takes a lot of pressure off of me.
As I said earlier, I don't have much to complain about. That being said, I go frickin cross-eyed when told what I can and can't do within reason. I know I can't punch someone or rob a bank, but there are certain things I feel are up to me, and me only. So I did some whining and got it off my chest.
I should only concern myself with those things I can control, everything else is noise. So that's what I'm doing and it takes a lot of pressure off of me.
Last year was a year to put down in the history books. No one likes what is going on. Its all been a bit maddening. We will get through this. You will get through this. Next best step forward. Keep posting.
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
Must agree with TheAten. This is a pattern for you and until you get to the bottom of it, you are at risk of relapse. That said, very well done on the job and your continued sobriety Jeff!
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Originally Posted by Mizz
Good for you, Thomas...or Jeff!
Last year was a year to put down in the history books. No one likes what is going on. Its all been a bit maddening. We will get through this. You will get through this. Next best step forward. Keep posting.
Last year was a year to put down in the history books. No one likes what is going on. Its all been a bit maddening. We will get through this. You will get through this. Next best step forward. Keep posting.
I believe its when we feel alone is when we can spiral.
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Originally Posted by thomas11
I believe its when we feel alone is when we can spiral.
Next right step. Just keep going. Get through the next 15 min . . . . these are all ideas I work on that help keep me in the moment and focused on my own side of the street.
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Originally Posted by Bekindalways
I don't know if community is exactly a cure for spiraling but for me it sure has been a good solid handhold keeping me clinging to the edge during tough times. Sometimes clinging to the edge is doing damn well in certain circumstances.
Next right step. Just keep going. Get through the next 15 min . . . . these are all ideas I work on that help keep me in the moment and focused on my own side of the street.
Next right step. Just keep going. Get through the next 15 min . . . . these are all ideas I work on that help keep me in the moment and focused on my own side of the street.
Last things I will say which is totally unrelated to this post....if you think you have a problem with alcohol or drugs and you are here. You probably do. That's where I got started on my journey.
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why are you being so defensive Jeff?
Noone asking you to answer anything you don't want to answer and I don't really think, of those who've queried you, anyones saying anything more than they are a little worried for you. Having others care for your welfare is a good thing.
By your own retelling you lived a certain way of life once.
That doesn't make you necessarily any better than the rest of us...but neither does it make you any worse, bud.
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Noone asking you to answer anything you don't want to answer and I don't really think, of those who've queried you, anyones saying anything more than they are a little worried for you. Having others care for your welfare is a good thing.
By your own retelling you lived a certain way of life once.
That doesn't make you necessarily any better than the rest of us...but neither does it make you any worse, bud.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
why are you being so defensive Jeff?
Noone asking you to answer anything you don't want to answer and I don't really think, of those who've queried you, anyones saying anything more than they are a little worried for you. Having others care for your welfare is a good thing.
By your own retelling you lived a certain way of life once.
That doesn't make you necessarily any better than the rest of us...but neither does it make you any worse, bud.
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Noone asking you to answer anything you don't want to answer and I don't really think, of those who've queried you, anyones saying anything more than they are a little worried for you. Having others care for your welfare is a good thing.
By your own retelling you lived a certain way of life once.
That doesn't make you necessarily any better than the rest of us...but neither does it make you any worse, bud.
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Dee, your statement above is what i was trying to get across, but obviously did a poor job of it. Our journey's are different, none better or worse than the next persons. Does that sound a little better? Didn't mean to sound defensive.
In fact, I'm at a point right now where I feel I have my ducks in a row for once.
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On the topic of perspective, I've learned some new ones lately. I work at a huge multi national corporation here in the midwest, there are men and women who have worked there since the 80's. Its not a sexy job by any means, but it pays a living wage etc....these folks have been able to save for retirement, have 401K and put kids through college with this "unsexy" job. And yet the culture there is they bitch. They bitch about everything.
I keep my mouth shut, but I'd love to get them in a room and tell them about things they could truly complain about. But it makes no difference. Besides, I already get the stink eye from a few because I got promoted to a pretty gravy job (forklift) after 2 months. So, I keep my head down. smile alot and try and befriend everyone I can. Seems to be working.
Now, for anyone who really cares what is at the top of my list on a daily basis, it is this: I get my 7 hours of sleep, I get my 4 meals of real food in (not supplements or shakes but real food), I get my 55 minute workout in with cardio. I also need to get to the doctor because my edema is still an issue and my lungs are not always clear, I weaze from time to time. I go to work and do one helluva job, because it makes me feel good. Believe it or not I'm wired that way, when I have a job, work is always kind of a bright spot in the day. I'm not one who "hates" going to work.
I keep my mouth shut, but I'd love to get them in a room and tell them about things they could truly complain about. But it makes no difference. Besides, I already get the stink eye from a few because I got promoted to a pretty gravy job (forklift) after 2 months. So, I keep my head down. smile alot and try and befriend everyone I can. Seems to be working.
Now, for anyone who really cares what is at the top of my list on a daily basis, it is this: I get my 7 hours of sleep, I get my 4 meals of real food in (not supplements or shakes but real food), I get my 55 minute workout in with cardio. I also need to get to the doctor because my edema is still an issue and my lungs are not always clear, I weaze from time to time. I go to work and do one helluva job, because it makes me feel good. Believe it or not I'm wired that way, when I have a job, work is always kind of a bright spot in the day. I'm not one who "hates" going to work.
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Originally Posted by thomas11
On the topic of perspective, I've learned some new ones lately. I work at a huge multi national corporation here in the midwest, there are men and women who have worked there since the 80's. Its not a sexy job by any means, but it pays a living wage etc....these folks have been able to save for retirement, have 401K and put kids through college with this "unsexy" job. And yet the culture there is they bitch. They bitch about everything.
I keep my mouth shut, but I'd love to get them in a room and tell them about things they could truly complain about. But it makes no difference. Besides, I already get the stink eye from a few because I got promoted to a pretty gravy job (forklift) after 2 months. So, I keep my head down. smile alot and try and befriend everyone I can. Seems to be working.
Now, for anyone who really cares what is at the top of my list on a daily basis, it is this: I get my 7 hours of sleep, I get my 4 meals of real food in (not supplements or shakes but real food), I get my 55 minute workout in with cardio. I also need to get to the doctor because my edema is still an issue and my lungs are not always clear, I weaze from time to time. I go to work and do one helluva job, because it makes me feel good. Believe it or not I'm wired that way, when I have a job, work is always kind of a bright spot in the day. I'm not one who "hates" going to work.
I keep my mouth shut, but I'd love to get them in a room and tell them about things they could truly complain about. But it makes no difference. Besides, I already get the stink eye from a few because I got promoted to a pretty gravy job (forklift) after 2 months. So, I keep my head down. smile alot and try and befriend everyone I can. Seems to be working.
Now, for anyone who really cares what is at the top of my list on a daily basis, it is this: I get my 7 hours of sleep, I get my 4 meals of real food in (not supplements or shakes but real food), I get my 55 minute workout in with cardio. I also need to get to the doctor because my edema is still an issue and my lungs are not always clear, I weaze from time to time. I go to work and do one helluva job, because it makes me feel good. Believe it or not I'm wired that way, when I have a job, work is always kind of a bright spot in the day. I'm not one who "hates" going to work.
I want to touch base on your original post and then this response.
Original post: Driguy had written on a thread I started. He said that I can chose to ignore thoughts that are not in my best interest. I really found that to be very helpful for this overactive brain of mine.
Your response today: I hear gratitude in your post. You are employed and are doing the necessary work to keep yourself well and alive. Eating right. Exercising. Doing the things that are beneficial and healthy. ROCK ON!
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No worries. As you know text is a funny thing - it almost sounded to me like you were accusing some here of having a sheltered life.
I've had a privileged life sure - I think a lot if not most of us in the western world have - but sheltered? IMO its pretty difficult to deal with active addiction and stay sheltered.
that's good to hear 
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I've had a privileged life sure - I think a lot if not most of us in the western world have - but sheltered? IMO its pretty difficult to deal with active addiction and stay sheltered.
In fact, I'm at a point right now where I feel I have my ducks in a row for once.
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Originally Posted by Dee74
No worries. As you know text is a funny thing - it almost sounded to me like you were accusing some here of having a sheltered life.
I've had a privileged life sure - I think a lot if not most of us in the western world have - but sheltered? IMO its pretty difficult to deal with active addiction and stay sheltered.
that's good to hear
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I've had a privileged life sure - I think a lot if not most of us in the western world have - but sheltered? IMO its pretty difficult to deal with active addiction and stay sheltered.
that's good to hear
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