Sober Weekenders - Weekenders 13-16 November 2020
Magsie
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
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Sober Weekenders - Weekenders 13-16 November 2020
Welcome to the Weekenders. 
Weekends can be difficult when trying to stay sober, so we get together and support each other and talk about a range of topics.
If you’re new to Weekenders and it’s your first sober weekend, firstly, you’re doing great for making this decision.
Secondly, you’ve realised you can’t ‘control’ your alcohol intake.....but want to...”you seriously want to stop”.
When I first realised this, I dismissed it...I was ok (denial!) and thought I knew when to stop....
Yeah, it was usually when I’d passed out, or as I liked to call it, fell asleep.
I couldn’t bear the thought of life without alcohol, the future looked so bleak without it....How wrong I was!
If you’re thinking along those thoughts, there is a way past it.
There’s so much more life, without the booze.
‘Sobriety Delivers Everything That Alcohol Promised’
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
Weekends can be difficult when trying to stay sober, so we get together and support each other and talk about a range of topics.
If you’re new to Weekenders and it’s your first sober weekend, firstly, you’re doing great for making this decision.
Secondly, you’ve realised you can’t ‘control’ your alcohol intake.....but want to...”you seriously want to stop”.
When I first realised this, I dismissed it...I was ok (denial!) and thought I knew when to stop....
Yeah, it was usually when I’d passed out, or as I liked to call it, fell asleep.
I couldn’t bear the thought of life without alcohol, the future looked so bleak without it....How wrong I was!
If you’re thinking along those thoughts, there is a way past it.
There’s so much more life, without the booze.
‘Sobriety Delivers Everything That Alcohol Promised’
If this is your first weekend sober, or many, come join us for support and chat...as we know the weekends can be a struggle sometimes. (We’re here all week too!)
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,202
Good to see you CaptainHaddock, I have had some minor flooring issues myself recently.
I hope the tornado threat has passed Leigh.
Robbie I am glad the funeral service went well and even more pleased that you were a sober person for both the service itself and the organisation of it. Most satisfactory.
I hope the dreams don't last PhoenixJ, they can be unsettling.
I can see several police vehicles a few hundred metres/yards away that have been there since before I woke up this morning. I'm thinking it is probably some sort of drugs raid.
I hope the tornado threat has passed Leigh.
Robbie I am glad the funeral service went well and even more pleased that you were a sober person for both the service itself and the organisation of it. Most satisfactory.
I hope the dreams don't last PhoenixJ, they can be unsettling.
I can see several police vehicles a few hundred metres/yards away that have been there since before I woke up this morning. I'm thinking it is probably some sort of drugs raid.
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I relapsed last Tuesday-Wednesday so this is day 8 for me again for god knows how many times. I don't remember the last time my mind was in this dark of a place. I don't want to be around anyone, including my own daughter. Makes me feel like the scum of the earth. No progress to report yet again, except that I haven't had any alcohol.
Magsie
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Hi relena, Day 8 is great! I do know alcohol never did anything for my self esteem or mental well-being. Having a plan can help keep focused on our sobriety. Stay close, lots of great support on SR. 
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Originally Posted by relena 
I relapsed last Tuesday-Wednesday so this is day 8 for me again for god knows how many times. I don't remember the last time my mind was in this dark of a place. I don't want to be around anyone, including my own daughter. Makes me feel like the scum of the earth. No progress to report yet again, except that I haven't had any alcohol.
With every sober hour that passes, the darkness will lift a little
Mr
Join Date: Mar 2016
Location: FRANCE
Posts: 5,230
Thanks Mags and Hello to all :wavey.
I'm powerless in front of alcohol, it kicked my butt all the way along to my mid forties.
Lots of regrets but so happy to be sober today.
This moved me to bits, had to listen to 23 mins (thx u tube for suggesting)
https://youtu.be/n6oSeODGmoQ
I'm powerless in front of alcohol, it kicked my butt all the way along to my mid forties.
Lots of regrets but so happy to be sober today.
This moved me to bits, had to listen to 23 mins (thx u tube for suggesting)
https://youtu.be/n6oSeODGmoQ
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Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: Florida
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Looking forward to another sober weekend.
Saou, nothing like a bit of neighborhood drama to start the day.
SoberLeigh, hope you all had little or no damage. My buddy said that they had to close the causeway to Clearwater due to flooding and debris. It appears that a power outage will be the worst of it for us, but the eye will be passing through the area soon.
Hope everyone has a great sober and hangover free day.
Saou, nothing like a bit of neighborhood drama to start the day.
SoberLeigh, hope you all had little or no damage. My buddy said that they had to close the causeway to Clearwater due to flooding and debris. It appears that a power outage will be the worst of it for us, but the eye will be passing through the area soon.
Hope everyone has a great sober and hangover free day.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 7,808
I'm in!
Relena, I know that feeling of not wanting to be around anyone, and feeling like scum. Before I quit for good and for sometime after I quit, I was so full of shame. The good news is, you'll never have to feel that way again if you don't drink. Yes, you might have bad days, and things will be rough for a while, but it will get better, promise. There's no magic wand to wave, but if you work hard and have a plan to stay sober, time will heal things. You can do it!
Covid continues to be a real problem at my work. I have been mostly working from home, which I will continue to do. We keep having students and staff test positive in our department. Not a lot of them, but enough that being there makes me a little nervous. I try to keep to myself as much as possible when I'm there, and that has worked so far. It's all very depressing.
Relena, I know that feeling of not wanting to be around anyone, and feeling like scum. Before I quit for good and for sometime after I quit, I was so full of shame. The good news is, you'll never have to feel that way again if you don't drink. Yes, you might have bad days, and things will be rough for a while, but it will get better, promise. There's no magic wand to wave, but if you work hard and have a plan to stay sober, time will heal things. You can do it!
Covid continues to be a real problem at my work. I have been mostly working from home, which I will continue to do. We keep having students and staff test positive in our department. Not a lot of them, but enough that being there makes me a little nervous. I try to keep to myself as much as possible when I'm there, and that has worked so far. It's all very depressing.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,202
IN!
Thank you for the new thread Mags, you're right too. To the drinker life without any drink at all seems unimaginable until you have a couple of months without booze and then slowly your mind takes a different view and you wonder why you kept drinking for so long.
Btw I realise it's a bit late to be saying "In" as I have already posted but my post was intended for last week's thread. I cannot for the life of me work out how that happened as I remember scrolling through the old thread prior to posttog. Ghosts in the Machine!
Welcome to Weekenders relena! 8 days is really good.
Thank you for the new thread Mags, you're right too. To the drinker life without any drink at all seems unimaginable until you have a couple of months without booze and then slowly your mind takes a different view and you wonder why you kept drinking for so long.
Btw I realise it's a bit late to be saying "In" as I have already posted but my post was intended for last week's thread. I cannot for the life of me work out how that happened as I remember scrolling through the old thread prior to posttog. Ghosts in the Machine!
Welcome to Weekenders relena! 8 days is really good.
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Fear is a good motivator in early days, relena. The first few weeks for me were full of the body-feeling of fear. Increased heartrate, easily spooked, unable to handle even simple human interactions. Exercise helps that a lot.
It gets so much easier. Just keep going.
I treated myself like I was recovering from a life-threatening illness - because I was. Be kind to yourself; guilt and shame are part of the addiction cycle and really have no place in a healthy mind.
Devizes, well done you.
Poor kitties.
It gets so much easier. Just keep going.
I treated myself like I was recovering from a life-threatening illness - because I was. Be kind to yourself; guilt and shame are part of the addiction cycle and really have no place in a healthy mind.
Devizes, well done you.
Poor kitties.
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Welcome, relena. It is really great to have you with us.
Fear. I hear you. At the end of my drinking ‘career’, I was very fearful of what was ahead of me in life if I continued to drink. Choosing sobriety was among the very best decisions of my life; I hope that you find your decision to be the same.
You will bounce back and we are with you all the way.
Fear. I hear you. At the end of my drinking ‘career’, I was very fearful of what was ahead of me in life if I continued to drink. Choosing sobriety was among the very best decisions of my life; I hope that you find your decision to be the same.
You will bounce back and we are with you all the way.
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