Today I buried my brother.
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Join Date: Oct 2016
Location: South Africa
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All the best to you during this difficult time. I have heard of people that turn a sad event such as this into something more positive, by vowing to keep changing their ways out of respect for a departed friend or loved one.
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Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: Australia
Posts: 11,351
Ekohe , im so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother.
your post was beautiful and a real tribute to him to continue loving your life and to have not picked up a drink.
I'm so proud of you. Keep up the great work
your post was beautiful and a real tribute to him to continue loving your life and to have not picked up a drink.
I'm so proud of you. Keep up the great work
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Southern Utah
Posts: 2,966
I completely empathize with you. Have lost a brother and both parents and I currently have a sister struggling with a couple of cancers including breast cancer.
I'm always happy to hear about humans overcoming adversity; tough times; struggles; suffering; loss; pain; and the like. We're a resilient bunch. We may never get over the pain that comes with loss but our characters can become stronger through experiences.
I'm always happy to hear about humans overcoming adversity; tough times; struggles; suffering; loss; pain; and the like. We're a resilient bunch. We may never get over the pain that comes with loss but our characters can become stronger through experiences.
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Join Date: Jun 2015
Posts: 2,578
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother, Ekohe. I do empathize ... I lost my mother recently, and lost my father a couple of years ago. This is such a difficult time to go through a loss, especially with the pandemic, as we don't even have our normal ways of coping like getting together with friends or extended family. Know that you are not alone in this pain ... many of us are feeling similarly, and we feel for you as well. Please lean on us for support.
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Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: NSW - Australia
Posts: 14,578
I'm so sorry to read of the death of your brother Ekoho. My younger brother died a few months back and it is still painful. Like you, wished I could have done more. It is becoming somewhat easier in that now I am remembering all of the great things about him. He had many. I'm so sorry Ekoho.
Here and now
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Join Date: Jul 2016
Location: Toronto
Posts: 334
Wish I could report that I stayed sober, unfortunately not the case. Was a bunch of wine left in the house and ended up blacking out Tuesday and Wednesday, slept all day yesterday and just got out of the hospital now, first time ever for withdrawals. Scared me senseless, and am at the bottom as far a desperation goes. I would love to ask people to help me build a list with things that worked for you and I will try adding them to my list. I want sobriety more than anything.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,199
All the best Ekohe. I don't do it so much now but in early recovery I found that forcing myself up earlier and going for a morning walk or run really helped be to sleep and to reduce the peak craving time in the evenings.
Here and now
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Join Date: Jul 2016
Location: Toronto
Posts: 334
I'll push myself to give that a try in the mornings, physically almost better. The trip to the hospital really scared me today. But I know I can do this and I want this for myself.
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Join Date: Oct 2012
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AVRT has worked for me, Ekohe. I suppose it helped that after 25+ years of drinking I was finally *ready* to quit. By ready I don't mean I knew how or that I had the tools, I certainly did not! But I finally reached the point where I acknowledged deep down that I would get sober or I would die. So I suppose it was a bit like dying and accepting that my old life was over. So it was a pleasant surprise that my new, sober life was much better than I could have anticipated.
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