I'm so proud of myself!!
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Join Date: Feb 2011
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I'm so proud of myself!!
My husband offered to let me drink 1 night a week, certain amounts. etc. I admit, I thought about it for a minute but I turned it down! 
He apologized immediately afterwards and I said that was okay, and that I choose him. Yes, he is a terrible enabler, that's been alot of my issues.
Well, just thought I would share
He apologized immediately afterwards and I said that was okay, and that I choose him. Yes, he is a terrible enabler, that's been alot of my issues. Well, just thought I would share
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WOW.
Does he know you don't need his permission?
I think it's awesome that you were able to turn the offer down. What happens if he keeps offering? That's a concern. Has he ever talked with anyone about how he might better support you and your situation?
That's just a little something to think on.
There are so many posts here where people write in angst over having relapsed. I'm rooting for you!!!
Does he know you don't need his permission?
I think it's awesome that you were able to turn the offer down. What happens if he keeps offering? That's a concern. Has he ever talked with anyone about how he might better support you and your situation?
That's just a little something to think on.
There are so many posts here where people write in angst over having relapsed. I'm rooting for you!!!
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Is there something that he liked about you when you drank? Maybe you could have that honest conversation with him. Not saying you should or shouldn't try to behave any certain way, but it it may be a window into something interesting. I mean, maybe he's thinking there is something about you that will be lost forever. Maybe that thing or aspect can remain or even be better. When you're drinking, are you more honest? More easy going? Can he go out with his buddies or whatever? Again, not saying you are under any obligation to behave in any certain way. But your husband has spent years learning to cope with the drunk you. And the fact is not EVERYTHING about is worse when we drink. I wonder, can we be a better version of us and also be sober, but keep some of those endearing qualities we had during our drunks? I'm not advocating anything here, just thinking.
Either way, you can NOT drink. It's pretty important you make that clear.
Either way, you can NOT drink. It's pretty important you make that clear.
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Congratulations RedheadJen.
It'a great feeling when we Say "No" to a drink.
Each time this occurs our confidence increases, and we learn how it's done. How urges pass, and we are glad.
You should feel proud of yourself.
It'a great feeling when we Say "No" to a drink.
Each time this occurs our confidence increases, and we learn how it's done. How urges pass, and we are glad.
You should feel proud of yourself.
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Join Date: Jul 2019
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I often think that it is quite crazy that being alcohol addicts and having all failed at these hundreds of times, we entertain the idea of being able to 'control' our alcohol intake. It is even crazier to believe someone else can do this for yourself. D
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This is your sobriety. Your recovery. It belongs to you
and it is up to you with inner strength to do whatever it
takes to maintain continuous sobriety with each new
day you wake up sober.
You will continue to grow and change through out your
recovery life you will be looking for support to help you
along your journey.
Folks in recovery that have been there, done the same,
similar things as I have before, during and after my addiction
will be and have been the ones I have leaned on mostly.
Many of my family members support my recovery, but they
havent walked or lived in my shoes, so, they dont understand
the struggles, emotions and all that that comes with addiction
and recovery.
SR and all those folks that have walked beside me on my
journey in recovery continue to do so today, some many ones
days sober for almost 30 yrs now.
We are here for you with care, understanding, support,
each day you remain sober, listening, learning, absorbing
and applying many helpful suggestions guiding you along
the way.
and it is up to you with inner strength to do whatever it
takes to maintain continuous sobriety with each new
day you wake up sober.
You will continue to grow and change through out your
recovery life you will be looking for support to help you
along your journey.
Folks in recovery that have been there, done the same,
similar things as I have before, during and after my addiction
will be and have been the ones I have leaned on mostly.
Many of my family members support my recovery, but they
havent walked or lived in my shoes, so, they dont understand
the struggles, emotions and all that that comes with addiction
and recovery.
SR and all those folks that have walked beside me on my
journey in recovery continue to do so today, some many ones
days sober for almost 30 yrs now.
We are here for you with care, understanding, support,
each day you remain sober, listening, learning, absorbing
and applying many helpful suggestions guiding you along
the way.
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Join Date: Mar 2014
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I think it's really important to own my part.
It's no one's fault if I pick up a glass and pour alcohol into my own mouth.
It's down to me to make decisions for myself that are in my best interest. I ask for guidance from God and then I listen to the answer.
It's no one's fault if I pick up a glass and pour alcohol into my own mouth.
It's down to me to make decisions for myself that are in my best interest. I ask for guidance from God and then I listen to the answer.
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RedheadJen, congratulations, I'm proud of you to. I'm coming to understand how important it is to compliment ones self for a victory. In sobriety and other areas of my life I've pretty much always dismissed it as, well you shouldn't have been doing it to start with. Thanks to you I'm starting my day on a positive note. Thanks, rootin for ya. 
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