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I believe I no longer have an off-switch, and that belief, makes staying sober preferable; and it starkly highlights the AVs chatter, as nothing but a web of lies.
Congratulations on 5 days!
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Sorry to hear that, Tatsy, but please continue to mention your experience as posts like yours have certainly educated me. I quit 18 months ago and things are great, but we’re all susceptible to a relapse if we’re not careful.
Good luck on Day 6, Max.
Doing great, Max. Grin and bear it for a few more weeks yet. I feel that anxiety. There’s plenty of light at the end of the tunnel if you stay quit.
I came within an inch of relapsing on day 50 when I had a major parent problem. That was nearly a year and a half ago. I already had a few weeks of sobriety under my (much smaller) belt so was able to resist. I’m sure glad I did. You’ll be glad too.
I came within an inch of relapsing on day 50 when I had a major parent problem. That was nearly a year and a half ago. I already had a few weeks of sobriety under my (much smaller) belt so was able to resist. I’m sure glad I did. You’ll be glad too.
This was my experience too, Max. I drank after two and a half years and within a week or so, the volume ramped straight back up to the previous intake. It was hellish struggling to restart sobriety. I believe my history of excessive drinking, has permanently adjusted my brain's 'pleasure centre' so that I can never be satisfied with a couple of drinks. It has an altered alcohol auto-pilot that kicks-in, if I listen to the AV and drink.
I believe I no longer have an off-switch, and that belief, makes staying sober preferable; and it starkly highlights the AVs chatter, as nothing but a web of lies.
Congratulations on 5 days!
I believe I no longer have an off-switch, and that belief, makes staying sober preferable; and it starkly highlights the AVs chatter, as nothing but a web of lies.
Congratulations on 5 days!
I woke up this morning and started feeling depressed again. I think it is because it is another day stuck at home and it is hot so ill be stuck inside with my son. I immedietly turned to thinking about gratitude. Being thank ful for what I have and being able to be home for my son. It worked!
Just like there are paired associations with, "This happened, so drink." So it is with, "I'm up, I'm depressed."
Great job flipping those thoughts - reframing them in a positive way. We are so lucky to live in this era with abundant food, energy, modern comfortable housing and communications. It's the best time ever to be alive.
Your son will appreciate sober dad. He is a precious one-time gift.
Great job flipping those thoughts - reframing them in a positive way. We are so lucky to live in this era with abundant food, energy, modern comfortable housing and communications. It's the best time ever to be alive.
Your son will appreciate sober dad. He is a precious one-time gift.
I woke up this morning and started feeling depressed again. I think it is because it is another day stuck at home and it is hot so ill be stuck inside with my son. I immedietly turned to thinking about gratitude. Being thank ful for what I have and being able to be home for my son. It worked!
Wow. Today has been a turning point. I actually feel normal again. Went for a 2 mile walk with my son and we saw water birds and butterflies and lizards and sun flowers and tomatoes and airplanes and chickens and horses. (The reason I write it like that is that is the way it feels with a 2 year old ) I am starting to feel like I did during april and may when I quit for 60 days. Finding things to do despite being stuck at home. Still sucks its hot but my mood has improved. Sleep was still shotty last night but not bad. Anyway, things are so much better now on day 6. Funny thing is, I know this because I have done this so much. My withdrawals aren't as bad because I spend much of the year not drinking. The issue here is the cycle. Quit for 2 or 3 months, binge for a week and then do it all over again. Where I really need to watch out is once I have been sober a month or two. Funny thing though that bastard AV suggested that since I was finally feeling good I should celebrate with.....you guessed it....alcohol. That bastard pissed off real quick cause I almost slapped him in the face.
Take care of yourself and that little boy, Max!
We don’t know each other but in a lot of ways we are the same guy. Make your son the luckiest and most loved boy you can - even if you are struggling, just keep hanging on to him. Be the guy that both of us needed when we were growing up.
I won’t say “you got this” because nothing is ever certain - but if you keep trying, I’m gonna keep trying!
I won’t say “you got this” because nothing is ever certain - but if you keep trying, I’m gonna keep trying!
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Here comes a cheesy reply, but every day is excellent when you don’t drink 😀
I wrote a post a few weeks ago to say I’d spent a rough night contemplating whether or not to empty the contents of my stomach after eating too much! I felt so grim the next day, but I was laughing about it. That next day feeling was how I felt every day as a drinker.
I wrote a post a few weeks ago to say I’d spent a rough night contemplating whether or not to empty the contents of my stomach after eating too much! I felt so grim the next day, but I was laughing about it. That next day feeling was how I felt every day as a drinker.
My drinking went into full swing when my daugther was in the 4th or 5th grade. She started having social issues and I didn't want to deal with it so I just drank every chance I got. But I was still functioning and being a "responsible adult" so I thought everything would work out. I felt I deserved that drink as a reward for having a "difficult" child.
I was wrong wrong wrong. This sober time I now have is bringing me clarity. I couldn't see then what I see now. And now I can't go back. Wow, writing this just makes me despise alcohol even more!
Hope you have another sober successful day!
I'm glad to hear you're doing so well, and having fun times with your son.
Since you are concerned that the cycle, drinking after a couple of months sober, might occur again, do what you can to prevent this. Be proactive. Fill your life with things you enjoy and people you love. Be kind to yourself every day and appreciate how far you've come. Make a plan that you can follow to prevent the cycle from happening again.
Since you are concerned that the cycle, drinking after a couple of months sober, might occur again, do what you can to prevent this. Be proactive. Fill your life with things you enjoy and people you love. Be kind to yourself every day and appreciate how far you've come. Make a plan that you can follow to prevent the cycle from happening again.
I'm gonna go ahead and say congrats on a week, Max.
I was going to AA meetings at a week sober and I remember saying, "A WEEK! Seven days - in a ROW!!!!" I was very happy and proud of myself. I know you are, too.
Keep it going.
I was going to AA meetings at a week sober and I remember saying, "A WEEK! Seven days - in a ROW!!!!" I was very happy and proud of myself. I know you are, too.
Keep it going.
That is so awesome that you are starting to feel better Max and having more fulfilling days. It takes some time. I have been really up and down in the last six weeks but I'm still noticing those great things that we appreciate when we are sober...
You are doing a great job, especially in tell that AV to get to ****. As long as you keep doing that you'll be okay!
You are doing a great job, especially in tell that AV to get to ****. As long as you keep doing that you'll be okay!
Here comes a cheesy reply, but every day is excellent when you don’t drink 😀
I wrote a post a few weeks ago to say I’d spent a rough night contemplating whether or not to empty the contents of my stomach after eating too much! I felt so grim the next day, but I was laughing about it. That next day feeling was how I felt every day as a drinker.
I wrote a post a few weeks ago to say I’d spent a rough night contemplating whether or not to empty the contents of my stomach after eating too much! I felt so grim the next day, but I was laughing about it. That next day feeling was how I felt every day as a drinker.
This is the key for me....immediately turning my thinking. As soon as the AV kicks in, I divert to thoughts about something else. Right now its the movie and chocolate I have waiting for me after work. I'm also making chicken soup today which I love. Or I'll think about my now semi-flat midsection (always thought I was built to gain weight on my stomach but it was the booze!). If that doesn't work I go in the opposite direction and bring up the image of me standing in the basement pouring a glass of wine straight from the 50 litre glass carboy. The wine never made it to the bottles. It had also gone sour...but that didn't stop me...what a disturbing frightening image. After that exercise, I'm able to go back to drooling over my chocolate.
My drinking went into full swing when my daugther was in the 4th or 5th grade. She started having social issues and I didn't want to deal with it so I just drank every chance I got. But I was still functioning and being a "responsible adult" so I thought everything would work out. I felt I deserved that drink as a reward for having a "difficult" child.
I was wrong wrong wrong. This sober time I now have is bringing me clarity. I couldn't see then what I see now. And now I can't go back. Wow, writing this just makes me despise alcohol even more!
Hope you have another sober successful day!
My drinking went into full swing when my daugther was in the 4th or 5th grade. She started having social issues and I didn't want to deal with it so I just drank every chance I got. But I was still functioning and being a "responsible adult" so I thought everything would work out. I felt I deserved that drink as a reward for having a "difficult" child.
I was wrong wrong wrong. This sober time I now have is bringing me clarity. I couldn't see then what I see now. And now I can't go back. Wow, writing this just makes me despise alcohol even more!
Hope you have another sober successful day!
I'm glad to hear you're doing so well, and having fun times with your son.
Since you are concerned that the cycle, drinking after a couple of months sober, might occur again, do what you can to prevent this. Be proactive. Fill your life with things you enjoy and people you love. Be kind to yourself every day and appreciate how far you've come. Make a plan that you can follow to prevent the cycle from happening again.
Since you are concerned that the cycle, drinking after a couple of months sober, might occur again, do what you can to prevent this. Be proactive. Fill your life with things you enjoy and people you love. Be kind to yourself every day and appreciate how far you've come. Make a plan that you can follow to prevent the cycle from happening again.
That is so awesome that you are starting to feel better Max and having more fulfilling days. It takes some time. I have been really up and down in the last six weeks but I'm still noticing those great things that we appreciate when we are sober...
You are doing a great job, especially in tell that AV to get to ****. As long as you keep doing that you'll be okay!
You are doing a great job, especially in tell that AV to get to ****. As long as you keep doing that you'll be okay!
1 week!
I have reached one week! Now, I don't want to downplay this milestone but most of my quits make it to one week. It is later on like a month and beyond that I start to get into more uncharted waters. I have been quitting and relapsing for years and can't remember how long each quit is but I think they last for a few months maybe up to a max of 3-6. Either way, here and now I have a week and I am not drinking today. Last week at this time I was waking up with a hangover. This was not the worst of my hangover. I had stopped the previous afternoon. Couldn't really drink because I was feeling sick but powered through and kept my BAC up to avoid the coming hangover. Stopped late afternoon and wife came home. We went and got some food and on the way back the hangover nausea started to kick in. Got home and went to bed right away. Apparently the night before I had passed out on the couch at like 5. And the night before that. That night was like many of these nights after drinking and then quitting. Laying awake or just barely sleeping but waking up constantly with anxiety about what I had neglected to do with work or other things. Feeling sick all night not wanting the sun to come up. I have spent many a night like that before work trying to decide if I was going to call in sick or not as I have to do it early in the morning to give time for them to plan.
One thing is for damn sure, this morning I feel great and have some extra time so my son and I are going to go out for a workout. Most of the problems from the last drinking binge have resolved. I am lucky because I have not yet lost everything from drinking but you better damn well be I will if I weren't to stop. Luckily I have. I look forward to continued sobriety.
One thing is for damn sure, this morning I feel great and have some extra time so my son and I are going to go out for a workout. Most of the problems from the last drinking binge have resolved. I am lucky because I have not yet lost everything from drinking but you better damn well be I will if I weren't to stop. Luckily I have. I look forward to continued sobriety.
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