Reid82

Doesn't sound too good to me my friend. I think you can judge by the reaction here that people care and are worried but you're not going to start to feel better
until the drink is put down. In fact , the way you're feeling, you're only going to slide further into the abyss. You need to do this for yourself, not for us here. Time to
get a solid plan into action. Stay safe Jeff.

thomas11

We have very good insurance. Gold plan I think. dude do you really think I need to go to rehab?

PuckLuck

Hey Thomas,

I did 90 days inpatient and it was a really great experience. I also had good insurance at the time and didn't pay a dime. I was sober for 8 months until I started to want to do things my way again. I also let fear control me and I returned home to the same old same old and that's when the bottom fell completely out.

I would definitely recommend a place with a 90 day program though. I did 30 days at another facility once and it just wasn't long enough.

You have the insurance so I would take advantage of the opportunity.

There's a lot of great places out there, but also a lot of scammers. There's a TON of money to be made in rehabs. So if you decide to go definitely do your research.

Reid82

I think personally it would be a good idea Jeff- think of it as an investment in yourself. It would give you a good start in your recovery and lay the foundations. But at the end of the day, you still have to put in the work to stay sober with whatever tools you use.

Dee74

I think you need to do something more than posting here.

I have no experience with Rehab Jeff - but folks I've known for a while like Obladi and Reid do and I'd trust their judgement. The idea of a break, a fresh start and some medical attention is not a bad option.

Personally, I'm wondering if medication would help you, but thats based on my own experience with depression self loathing despair and alcoholism.

Your Doctor might be a good first port of call.

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DontRemember

No offense but, going to your buddy's dog training farm seemed like a good idea the other day. Continually running away from my issue (drinking) kept me drinking. Read your past 'pattern(s)/threads', dude. You need some help. I did too.

lessgravity

What's up man. So sorry to hear that you've been deciding to drink. Like many here, I think you know I'm in your corner. What's it going to take for you to put the poison down for good? I know it's in you to do so.

Delilah1

I really think you do Jeff. I have been following your story since you started on SR, you’ve had some food stretches of sober time, but I have seen you struggling the past few months. I truly believe rehab is exactly what you need, and you are worth it.

Insurance should cover some of the costs, maybe if you head to the Ear they can help with the withdrawals and work with your insurance to get your into a program.

I know you can do this, and you know you deserve to be happy, sobriety is the foundation you need for happiness to happen.

❤️ Delilah

MaximusD

I jeff, there seems to be many on here that remember you. Seems you left a good impression. I think more people care about you than you realize.

Reid82

I can state categorically that I would not be in the position I'm in today without Rebab (twice!) But, at the end of the day that's only been my own personal experience. I know a lot
of people who haven't done it and are doing good. Jeff, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain from it.

Steely

I reckon 90 days would be good Jeff. Three whole months to get your head in order and be around others going through same. You would have much to contribute as well.

thomas11

Went to the hospital. The most worthless time of my life. But entertaining. All night long people on drugs and alcohol having seizures, passing out, freaking out, screaming and yelling. It was crazy.

Surrendered19

What did the docs tell you about your situation Jeff? Any help with withdrawal or discussions about some treatment or rehab? Despite the circus that can be a visit to the ER, I hope you were able to get some relief and a few answers or suggestions from the docs.

thomas11

I got no relief. One adivan tablet. 2 IV bags to hydrate. Could have done it at home.

Surrendered19

Hopefully you can get some rest this weekend and maybe get outside a bit. Do some self care. I think talking about rehab or treatment options with a specialist on the telephone, in a non-emergent situation, will lead to better suggestions and options for you to consider.

Hawkeye13

I agree with others that 90 days would really jumpstart your permanent recovery. That’s enough time to really dig out some of the deep issues and get a strong habituation to sobriety again. If you have good insurance, why wouldn’t you take this step?

You have a whole lot to lose and much to gain. Your wife is part of this equation. You simply cannot keep having these catastrophic relapses and expect her to keep managing you and picking up the pieces. It is unfair and untenable in the long term. Remember I told you that I nearly lost my marriage over the same behavior? You run out of chances so you better change your strategy. You both deserve a healthy, sober Jeff. You are a good man who is in pain. You need some help to deal with your pain and build a better coping toolbox. A strong rehab can help you create that strong foundation.

I suggest careful research to make sure you get a quality facility, as that is key. I know Obladi had a lot good to say about where she just went—why not pm her and get some feedback and information?

Sending you a hug. Someday when I get yo Minneapolis, I want to meet you and your wife for a coffee and maybe some lunch at the Mercado Central. Better times are coming. Only way out is through, as I have posted too many times to count.

Delilah1

I’m glad that you went. Did you talk to the doctor about possible rehab options? This week when you call your insurance to check into rehab options you can tell them you went to the ER on Friday night, it might help get things moving quicker. You also may be able to talk to the counselor you’ve been seeing, they may be able to steer you in the right direction.

I know you’ve been hesitant to go to rehab, but I truly feel you need this time to reset and get yourself back on track. You have some time right now, and your wife seems really supportive, and I am sure she wants to see you healthy and able to enjoy life again. Take the leap this time and give rehab a shot.

I know you can do this Jeff!

❤️ Delilah

Obladi

Dude, yes.
It's by no means a panacea - you have to do the work and regardless of what anyone tells you, no one knows what exactly you'll get out of the experience because it's entirely up to you. But I know in my bones from reading you over time that you would do that work. Because you really want this.

I'm going to PM you.

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Obladi

Yeah, that's why I was suggesting going to a detox unit or rehab. I've done the waiting room detox and it is horrible, for sure. Seems like you need to have a seizure right there in front of them to get help quickly. It's really insane, not to mention inhumane. The last time I went to the hospital, my alcohol level was down around .01% by the time they actually took me back to the ED, and then they hooked me up for monitoring. I mean, it makes sense to monitor me, but what about the 13 hours I was pacing the waiting room in acute withdrawal? They couldn't give me a librium every six hours or something while I wait???

For anyone reading, the best way to get good care when you present at the emergency room in the USA is to say that you no longer see a reason to stay alive (which is likely true) OR that you are suicidal (if true) - that should get you a ticket right in for immediate care. It's important to advocate for yourself. And since I work in health care, I'd like to also toss in that there's no need to get belligerent - in fact, that's counter-productive. The staff will treat you best if you treat them well; you can do that while standing up for yourself in a respectful way.

Steely

Never once have I found the suffering of another alcoholic (ER) "entertaining". Are you above all of that Jeff?

Better class of alcoholic? There but for the grace of god.

If you can do it all yourself, why don't you?