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Old 06-13-2020, 10:46 AM
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I Will Not Drink Today

I celebrated 8months this week. Now for the not so good, my mother passed away this morning and I have an empty house because the girlfriend and kids are away for the week. I will not drink because I know it will only add to my problems. I just needed to get that out, thanks.
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Old 06-13-2020, 10:51 AM
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Really sorry to about your mother, my condolences!

Great attitude and you know you'll regret it if you do/ and it won't help at all.

Defo keep posting here but is there anything else you can do to take your mind off it e.g run, book etc.

Might be a good idea to deflect your attention elsewhere
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Old 06-13-2020, 10:53 AM
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Obviously big congratulations on the 8 months. Massive achievement!

Well done man!
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Old 06-13-2020, 11:13 AM
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Having a strong recovery support behind you and with you
during unexpected situations that pop up in life can be very
helpful to you during this time.

I am also sorry to hear of your moms passing. Stay sober,
stay focused on what is needed from you at this time and
hold onto your support tightly.

Call someone in recovery. Have someone in recovery with
you in person for moral support if you can. Stay logged in here
to SR to talk about your feelings and ask for much needed
suggestions from others to guide you along the way.

You never have to go thru any situation in life alone or
by yourself. Support here in SR can be a strong lifeline to
hold onto thru everything in life. Thru good times as well
as tough times.

Condolences, support, care and understanding sent your way.
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Old 06-13-2020, 11:50 AM
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I'm very sorry about the loss of your mother.

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Old 06-13-2020, 11:53 AM
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I'm sorry for your mom's death. Congrats on your 8 months sober.
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Old 06-13-2020, 12:09 PM
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Sorry for your loss
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Old 06-13-2020, 01:36 PM
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Thank you all, I’m just staying focused on my sobriety and the positive things it brings. I have a great voicemail from her that I will cherish.
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Old 06-13-2020, 01:51 PM
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Condolences on your mother’s passing. It doesn’t matter how old a loved one is, we can never really prepare for it. It’s fortunate that you have eight months of sobriety behind you. You’ll probably feel like a drink today, but you’ll be glad you didn’t.

My parents both died recently. My dad last August any my mum in February. It’s sinking in a bit more of late. They were both in their mid-80s, but they deteriorated rapidly and their last months weren’t pleasant. However, life goes on, and it’ll be all the better for keeping sober.

Condolences again and well done on eight months.
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Old 06-13-2020, 02:35 PM
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Sorry for your loss SWB. I'm sure you mum would have been proud of you turning your life around and it is so great that you have a voicemail to remember her and have her present when you need. Eight months is a great achievement - definitely not something to lose - so great that you are keeping it as your focus.

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Old 06-13-2020, 04:10 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss SWB.
Remember we're here for support.

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Old 06-13-2020, 04:13 PM
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Really sorry to hear that. Glad you’re posting here.
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Old 06-14-2020, 12:34 AM
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SWB, sorry to hear about that but good on you for checking in here!
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Old 06-14-2020, 12:44 AM
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Sorry to hear of your loss. We are all here for you.
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Old 06-14-2020, 01:51 AM
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I'm so sorry about the loss of your mother SWB. ❤️

Congratulations on your 8 months though. Me approaching 6 months. I lost my beautiful brother recently and did not drink over it. Thank goodness, because like you knew that it would make things worse. Much worse.

Coming here and "getting it out" a much better move. We get to process the grief, not suppress it. Well done.

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Old 06-14-2020, 01:54 AM
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Very sorry for your loss but you’re absolutely right that drinking will solve nothing and make you feel worse. Congratulations on 8 months sober.
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Old 06-14-2020, 01:56 AM
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So sorry about your Mum, lots of support here, should you need it
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Old 06-14-2020, 04:17 AM
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SWB, my condolences.

I've no idea how it feels to have your mother die, but I sure do recognize what an opportunistic pos addiction is to capitalize on this event.

With regard to that knee-jerk thought, I hope you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that's not "you." It's just your brain doing what it does.

Glad you have something that gives you comfort.

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