Miserable. I cannot stop.
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4 days!! I am sleeping so much better and my shakes are gone. Last night my cravings were intense because it was Friday night and we usually make margaritas, but I just sipped on a Diet Coke and that helped it feel like a treat still! Taking it one day at a time!
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You are doing great. I found jigsaw puzzles and fantasy fiction really helpful when cravings hit in early sobriety. Get a list of distraction ideas ready, and premium favorite ice cream for defcon 4 cravings. Other things might be adult coloring books, making a journal entry, or doing your nails. The cravings will pass quickly—usually 20 minutes or less- and you can stay on track with more than willpower 
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I had intense post partum depression and severe anxiety after my second. I actually stopped drinking in the hope it would help, but I would have done anything to feel better. I am glad to hear you are seeing someone because it can be serious. Was for me.
Re cravings, it sounds silly, but what helped me with an intense carving was to DO something to break it. I would twirl around a few times.
Re cravings, it sounds silly, but what helped me with an intense carving was to DO something to break it. I would twirl around a few times.
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Hi pinkbutterfly. Hope your Saturday was good too. Is it workable for there to be no Friday night margaritas or other similar rituals in your house for the time being? That would have been impossible for me early on. I hope this morning finds you sober, calm and healthy.
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Originally Posted by Surrendered19 
Hi pinkbutterfly. Hope your Saturday was good too. Is it workable for there to be no Friday night margaritas or other similar rituals in your house for the time being? That would have been impossible for me early on. I hope this morning finds you sober, calm and healthy.
yes I was able to finally talk to my husband about all that is going on and he was so supportive! So no more alcohol in the house for now and we are having soft drinks or sparkling water with limes for now on Fridays!
thankful for 5 days sober nearly 6!
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Originally Posted by Surrendered19
Hi pinkbutterfly. Hope your Saturday was good too. Is it workable for there to be no Friday night margaritas or other similar rituals in your house for the time being? That would have been impossible for me early on. I hope this morning finds you sober, calm and healthy.
yes I was able to finally talk to my husband about all that is going on and he was so supportive! So no more alcohol in the house for now and we are having soft drinks or sparkling water with limes for now on Fridays!
thankful for 5 days sober nearly 6!
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Back to day one. I’m so upset with myself and so discouraged. We went over to a neighbors house last night for a bbq and I had a few drinks. I think I got over confident and felt like I could just slip back in and it not be a big deal...not true. I need to avoid all situations like that one for now, or be more honest with myself and my husband that I really can’t drink right now at all, I just don’t know how to have one drink.
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Yeah, you and me can't have just one or two pinkbutterfly. That's just not how we roll at all. I hope you don't feel too rough this morning. Chalk yesterday up to a learning experience. Take care of yourself today, take a breath, eat whatever you want, stay hydrated and then let's get back to it. Remember every person with a thousand days sober has a day one. Mind your AV today as it will start its usual nonsense "well we drank yesterday, so just do it today, we can get some relief, then start tomorrow." Don't fall for that $hy+.
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Originally Posted by Surrendered19
Yeah, you and me can't have just one or two pinkbutterfly. That's just not how we roll at all. I hope you don't feel too rough this morning. Chalk yesterday up to a learning experience. Take care of yourself today, take a breath, eat whatever you want, stay hydrated and then let's get back to it. Remember every person with a thousand days sober has a day one. Mind your AV today as it will start its usual nonsense "well we drank yesterday, so just do it today, we can get some relief, then start tomorrow." Don't fall for that $hy+.
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Hey Pink. Yeah, that's always the lesson isn't it? I am the same and it's taken me so long to accept that I can't moderate in any way shape or form.
You managed to get a few sober days in there though, which is a brilliant start and I was so happy to read that your husband has been so supportive. It's just figuring out a plan now of what will work for you and listening out for your AV telling you lies. You can do it! Keep in the positive. Gabe x
You managed to get a few sober days in there though, which is a brilliant start and I was so happy to read that your husband has been so supportive. It's just figuring out a plan now of what will work for you and listening out for your AV telling you lies. You can do it! Keep in the positive. Gabe x
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None of us on this site are moderate drinkers. We tried that, every one of us did.
From the first paragraph of Chapter 3 in AA's Big Book, "Alcoholics Anonymous"
https://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt3.pdf
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The book is free and available in full to read online.
I think squashing that idea of having one or two has to be the First Step.
From the first paragraph of Chapter 3 in AA's Big Book, "Alcoholics Anonymous"
Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellows. Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people. The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.
linked by permission AA World Services Inc
The book is free and available in full to read online.
I think squashing that idea of having one or two has to be the First Step.
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