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One Year Sober
Given my propensity for rambling, I'll keep this relatively short. Yesterday I reached 366 days sober. What worked for me was committing to making a daily post here on SR, reading others' stories (and listening to stories of recovery online), and noticing the small things - good and bad. My ups and downs, as well as a cartload of mundane stuff is recorded in those daily posts. I mention this because a year ago, I came back to SR tired and looking for other people's stories. Now I have one (however brief as yet), too 
To the freshly sober, I have some recommendations. As I mentioned - notice the little things, good and bad. Find your way to accept the good and the bad the way they are; deal with the bad, don't try to escape it, and enjoy the good as it comes. You'll experience both. Instead of thinking about 3 months or 6 months or one year... or, fortunes forbid, 'Forever', which all seem incredibly daunting; just focus on today. You can't be sober tomorrow today, so just put a day's worth of forever into every 24 hours. And then do it again when the morning comes (even if it comes after a restless and sleepless night, people are 'mean', things are wrong, and the world is being a di*k about it all). That's how you learn to take responsibility for your own actions. Which brings me to the last pointer - thinking cannot get you sober, only doing can do that. So...do 
Last but not least, I'd like to extend my sincere gratitude to everyone who offered support during these first 366 days - your help was and continues to be invaluable
To the freshly sober, I have some recommendations. As I mentioned - notice the little things, good and bad. Find your way to accept the good and the bad the way they are; deal with the bad, don't try to escape it, and enjoy the good as it comes. You'll experience both. Instead of thinking about 3 months or 6 months or one year... or, fortunes forbid, 'Forever', which all seem incredibly daunting; just focus on today. You can't be sober tomorrow today, so just put a day's worth of forever into every 24 hours. And then do it again when the morning comes (even if it comes after a restless and sleepless night, people are 'mean', things are wrong, and the world is being a di*k about it all). That's how you learn to take responsibility for your own actions. Which brings me to the last pointer - thinking cannot get you sober, only doing can do that. So...do Last but not least, I'd like to extend my sincere gratitude to everyone who offered support during these first 366 days - your help was and continues to be invaluable 
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That is brilliant kk1k5x!! Inspiring post. I'm coming up on six months. Best 6 months of my life. I wasted 3+ decades but I am grateful for the opportunity to live my final decades sober and calm and clear. I have read many of your posts and you are always helpful and supportive. Congrats on a year!!!
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Originally Posted by kk1k5x 
Given my propensity for rambling, I'll keep this relatively short. Yesterday I reached 366 days sober. What worked for me was committing to making a daily post here on SR, reading others' stories (and listening to stories of recovery online), and noticing the small things - good and bad. My ups and downs, as well as a cartload of mundane stuff is recorded in those daily posts. I mention this because a year ago, I came back to SR tired and looking for other people's stories. Now I have one (however brief as yet), too To the freshly sober, I have some recommendations. As I mentioned - notice the little things, good and bad. Find your way to accept the good and the bad the way they are; deal with the bad, don't try to escape it, and enjoy the good as it comes. You'll experience both. Instead of thinking about 3 months or 6 months or one year... or, fortunes forbid, 'Forever', which all seem incredibly daunting; just focus on today. You can't be sober tomorrow today, so just put a day's worth of forever into every 24 hours. And then do it again when the morning comes (even if it comes after a restless and sleepless night, people are 'mean', things are wrong, and the world is being a di*k about it all). That's how you learn to take responsibility for your own actions. Which brings me to the last pointer - thinking cannot get you sober, only doing can do that. So...do Last but not least, I'd like to extend my sincere gratitude to everyone who offered support during these first 366 days - your help was and continues to be invaluable
To the freshly sober, I have some recommendations. As I mentioned - notice the little things, good and bad. Find your way to accept the good and the bad the way they are; deal with the bad, don't try to escape it, and enjoy the good as it comes. You'll experience both. Instead of thinking about 3 months or 6 months or one year... or, fortunes forbid, 'Forever', which all seem incredibly daunting; just focus on today. You can't be sober tomorrow today, so just put a day's worth of forever into every 24 hours. And then do it again when the morning comes (even if it comes after a restless and sleepless night, people are 'mean', things are wrong, and the world is being a di*k about it all). That's how you learn to take responsibility for your own actions. Which brings me to the last pointer - thinking cannot get you sober, only doing can do that. So...do Last but not least, I'd like to extend my sincere gratitude to everyone who offered support during these first 366 days - your help was and continues to be invaluable 
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