Well... it happened. She's gone.
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Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 1,254
So sorry for your loss free owl, my ex husband was found dead last april due to alcohol. And although i hadnt seen or spoke to him for 6ish years due to his behaviour I still felt a huge amount of guilt for not helping him more and just walking away from him, to protect our child. I let that eat me up and myself stupidly have drank too much last year to try to cope. Big mistake, helped nothing, made everything worse. I'm dealing with it now and understanding it was no way my fault as sadly some people just won't be helped, no matter how much we would want to. Stay strong and thinking of you
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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FreeOwl - You never ramble, and certainly not in that post. I can feel your heartbreak & regret. I'm so glad you chose to talk to us about it. Please think of us as your family too - we love you, and we care. Condolences & prayers go out to you and your family. I'm sure your sister would never want you to focus on not having chance to say goodbye. She would undoubtedly want you to lead a wonderful, full life - not weighed down by regret. In my final days of drinking I was a reckless fool - taking chances with my precious life and not listening to anyone. No words made a difference, no lectures, no heartfelt advice, no intervention. You did all you possibly could have.
I'm glad you're back - lean on us.
I'm glad you're back - lean on us.
Sobriety is Traditional
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Orcas Island, Washington
Posts: 9,057
I am so sorry for your loss, FreeOwl. My wife lost her sister to alcoholism, and it is sad how many of us here have been touched by this. Please stay sober and stay strong!
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Join Date: Oct 2018
Location: Christchurch, NZ
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Sorry to hear that FreeOwl.
Same thing happened with my sister about 2 years ago.
So many people underestimate this wretched thing and when the cliff fall comes and it most assuredly will, they don't survive it.
I haven't got any magic words for you other than to try to accept that some of us just don't make it.
Same thing happened with my sister about 2 years ago.
So many people underestimate this wretched thing and when the cliff fall comes and it most assuredly will, they don't survive it.
I haven't got any magic words for you other than to try to accept that some of us just don't make it.
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,183
I just want to offer my condolences, 28 is so young. What you wrote about the denial of her condition because of the stigma attached to alcoholism (and wider addiction tbh) struck a chord. It is galling that this should be so in 2020.
Look after yourself FreeOwl.
Look after yourself FreeOwl.
Alcohol spares no one. 
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Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: Nashville, TN
Posts: 80
I'm so very sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your sister, especially at such a young age - I can only imagine how devastated you must feel.
Thanks for reaching out to us - this is a good thing for you to do at this time and please know you are not alone.
Heartfelt prayers to you and your family.
Thanks for reaching out to us - this is a good thing for you to do at this time and please know you are not alone.
Heartfelt prayers to you and your family.
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