I can’t keep drinking
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I am in the same boat. I can't afford rehab otherwise I would check in for a month. I do well if I go to AA every day because I live alone and am quite isolated. Boredom and anxiety are my main triggers. Very hard to do it alone.
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Originally Posted by Wastinglife 
I am in the same boat. I can't afford rehab otherwise I would check in for a month. I do well if I go to AA every day because I live alone and am quite isolated. Boredom and anxiety are my main triggers. Very hard to do it alone.
My parents will pay for rehab. I just don’t want to do that. I want to do it by myself.
I don’t believe in AA.
as I say I’ve done it before for a few months. Obviously I need to work on issues to get over why I drink.... but for the first time, day 1 is soooo hard 😞. Maybe too hard
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Originally Posted by Al34
I really don’t want to go to rehab or get any help.
I wanna do it alone.
I equate recovery to learning a language. Some people can do it reading a textbook, listening to language tapes...
...others need to sit in a classroom.
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
It can be done. But not everyone can.
I equate recovery to learning a language. Some people can do it reading a textbook, listening to language tapes...
...others need to sit in a classroom.
I equate recovery to learning a language. Some people can do it reading a textbook, listening to language tapes...
...others need to sit in a classroom.
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Whatever way we think about it, and with whatever method we choose, we all do it alone. Just good to connect with others going through same. Support and encouragement vital in the early days imho.
Keep coming here and build up some sober time.
I couldn't continue to drink either. It's not rocket science hey?
Keep coming here and build up some sober time.
I couldn't continue to drink either. It's not rocket science hey?
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Originally Posted by doggonecarl
It can be done. But not everyone can.
I equate recovery to learning a language. Some people can do it reading a textbook, listening to language tapes...
...others need to sit in a classroom.
I equate recovery to learning a language. Some people can do it reading a textbook, listening to language tapes...
...others need to sit in a classroom.
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It can be done - 'alone' - but even then I relied on the SR community,
Every time I felt like drinking I came here first.
Sometimes I posted for help, most times I posted to others...but I stayed here uintil the drinking feeling left.
If you think you can do that - coming here everytime before you drink - it's worth a shot - but if you find you can't do that, you're going to have to look at other options Al.
Every time I felt like drinking I came here first.
Sometimes I posted for help, most times I posted to others...but I stayed here uintil the drinking feeling left.
If you think you can do that - coming here everytime before you drink - it's worth a shot - but if you find you can't do that, you're going to have to look at other options Al.
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Day 1 is excruciating from a mental standpoint. 24 panic attack, no sleep, no appetite. I can tolerate the physical symptoms if the are mild.
Knowing a couple beers will bring instant relief is hard to resist...
Knowing a couple beers will bring instant relief is hard to resist...
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Originally Posted by Wastinglife
Day 1 is excruciating from a mental standpoint. 24 panic attack, no sleep, no appetite. I can tolerate the physical symptoms if the are mild.
Knowing a couple beers will bring instant relief is hard to resist...
Knowing a couple beers will bring instant relief is hard to resist...
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Originally Posted by Wastinglife
I am in the same boat. I can't afford rehab otherwise I would check in for a month. I do well if I go to AA every day because I live alone and am quite isolated. Boredom and anxiety are my main triggers. Very hard to do it alone.
Your relapse cycle is literally killing you. How many hospital runs in just the past 12 months WL?
What will it take for you to take some new action to free yourself?
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I think, you can do it alone, if you have the motivation. Motivation is the key. Make a plan as to what you will do each day to help you stay sober and make use of SR. Check out our Book List :
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ependence.html (Books on Recovery, Spirituality & Codependence)
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ependence.html (Books on Recovery, Spirituality & Codependence)
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A lot of people have attacked alcohol "alone", myself included. But if you look down through these posts you're not really alone! Just a different kind of group. You have to have a plan though. Even if it's just checking in on the daily support threads or posting here when you're craving. Most importantly, it just takes time. 1 day at a time. It gets easier though, especially when you feel better. You got this!
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I successfully quit drinking for over six years with my only support coming from SR. There's no doubt that it can be done, but one definitely needs to be disciplined enough to make the commitment to remain sober, one day at a time.
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Originally Posted by Al34
I really can’t.
I’ve stopped before for a a couple/3 months at times. Just don’t know if can do it alone.
I really don’t want to go to rehab or get any help.
I wanna do it alone.
I’ve stopped before for a a couple/3 months at times. Just don’t know if can do it alone.
I really don’t want to go to rehab or get any help.
I wanna do it alone.
But there are many free options in front of you. You can do it alone (maybe), but you certainly don't have to. You only need to do what you have to do to quit, but there's a lot there to choose from. If alone doesn't work, you don't have to do it alone.
I tried it alone for many years, not really to quit, but to control. That alone did not work for me. I had to reach out, at least to get myself over the first humps. I'm happy I did. It was the best free thing, I never paid for in my life.
Good luck.
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