Originally Posted by Anna
(Post 7401761)
It sounds like you're doing really well with your recovery and that you are continuing to work on yourself every day. I hope you can relax and enjoy your new relationship and have faith that things will work out as they should. |
Originally Posted by DreamCatcher17
(Post 7401847)
From my experience, I now run when I see a red flag. I just ended my engagement in January. It would not have gone that far had I NOT ignored the red flags. Best of luck These are more fears about whether we can really connect deeply. We love our time with each other. But I sense perhaps some some lack of emotional availability on her part. I'm not entirely sure, I also sense great affection for me though. I worry at times we have a lack of things to talk about, perhaps a lack of connection in interests. There is a large age gap between us though we do share interests. Much of this again comes down to just getting to know each other better and being comfortable with each other. Most of these are honestly fears I obsess over when we aren't together. When we are, so far things seem to go very well. |
Originally Posted by Headstock
(Post 7401868)
Hey congratulations on 2 years that’s great! But please be vigilant I let my guard down after 2 years and like you I had no intention to drink I thought I had it neat forever then on the 25th month I drank and spiralled to a mess I’m now 3 days sober I’m just saying never forget the dangers because I let my guard down and the beast saw an opening and dropped me in my ass. Always be on guard and good luck |
Congratulations on 2 years! That is definitely something to be proud of. I think you are overthinking this relationship thing. You've been on 4 dates. Just be honest with her about your mental health (depression) issues and how it affects your life and how it might affect her life. My ex-wife would tell her to run!! :) |
These are more fears about whether we can really connect deeply. We love our time with each other. But I sense perhaps some some lack of emotional availability on her part. I'm not entirely sure, I also sense great affection for me though. I worry at times we have a lack of things to talk about, perhaps a lack of connection in interests. There is a large age gap between us though we do share interests. Much of this again comes down to just getting to know each other better and being comfortable with each other. Most of these are honestly fears I obsess over when we aren't together. When we are, so far things seem to go very well. If it is , it'll pretty hard to make a wrong move. If it's not, you'll know soon enough . In my experience things just work, or they don't Smilax try not to worry, obsess, or need to control stuff :) |
I believe it is also critical that the other person accepts you with your challenges and realities. Not letting someone make me feel less than, having someone who says it's no big deal if I don't drink, working my recovery program and taking care of me - the space and the encouragement to do this by the other person are hallmarks of a good, mature relationship. |
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