How do you get out of a bender
 

I know the simple answer is put the drink down. But when you can’t I’m days in and only people here would understand. I’m not even sure why I’m asking. We all know what comes after a bender but this one won’t stop.

They run their own course.

One of these mornings, you just won't be able to stomach another drink and that'll be the end of that bender.

The real question is what to do with your time after this one .... to prevent the next one.

Here's where you have to start. The bender isn't something that's happening to you like the weather, you are choosing to keep drinking. You need to grab hold of that choice and turn it down next time, and then the next time. It's hard, deep in the muck of a drunk, but it's the way out. You have the control at the end of the day.

Yeah, it's up to you to take the action needed. It's horrible to think of how bad you will feel afterwards, but it's going to happen. Stop now and this can be the end. If you are concerned about your health, go to an ER for help. We do understand how hard this is.

My thought is it is kind of a blend of LG's response and Anna's response. Its up to you, but if you think there is real trouble ahead, you need to seek medical help. So, I think you need to mentally prepare that you are going to sober up, go through withdrawals etc...and if you can't do it on your own, let people help you. If you go the medical route, its pretty painless in my opinion, but its vital to stay sober after you get out. Or you'll be back. I don't envy you and wish you the best.

I hear you all. The next drink is so pulling. This is so tough I need to sleep but know what I will want for breakfast.

Is it normal to just disengage from the world?

I am on Day 3. Have not slept a wink even. Day 1 was shakes/sweats and intense anxiety. No appetite. Day 2 a little better and ate dinner. Currently, Friday afternoon day 3. Really want to sleep but still anxious, had breakfast.

I have basically holed up in my apartment watching TV and surfing the net. Just passing time. It's miserable. I have several panic attacks a day. But every hour I get better. This too shall pass. Just gotta bite the bullet and do it.

I'm not sure if its normal, but its a sign that things are getting pretty bad. Many, many of us have been there. Please try and get yourself together and get sober and back to a "relatively" normal life. Also, I think posting is very important. So I am very pleased to see you post.

Wasting

I’ve done the no sleep guess we all have. 100% that does get better.

There are a lot of sober people on this site and I love sober just can’t stick to it. I know is a day at time and all that.

Thomas

I don’t post enough. Read your posts sir so perhaps I need to post too. Kind of think I’m ok as If.

Guess what we do hero each other!

It's that "what comes after" that's probably keeping you drinking. Withdrawals can be terrible. And terrifying. And keep us locked in the cycle of drinking to avoid them.

I would suggest medical detox, but if I recall, you are in the UK and they are almost 3rd world in their medical response to alcohol and drug detox.

Perhaps visiting the emergency room can help in getting you through the worst.

Generally putting down the drink is the way to go but perhaps you can taper this bender away? I know that can be fraught with peril in terms of not quitting, but it might soft land things a bit.

But like others have said, if bad withdrawals are the bigger concern, medical attention is probably warranted. Hang in there! :)

You really need a moment of clarity. When i'm in the cups of alcoholism life is skewed and my character defects are amplified. For me it was early in the morning when i woke up out of a blackout. Incomprehensible demoralization sets in and you really have to WANT to do something about it.

Yep Uk is 3rd world in detox. What comes after Carl

So much support on this site. Thank you so much.

Yeah, it's a bit of gamble in the uk. They might give you a day or twos benzos if you have severe withdrawal, but then they want you gone.

I hate that place where you're sick of drinking but scared of withdrawals. You can gear yourself up, accept your going to feel rough for a while, get in aspirin, tinned soup etc.

I think I would prefer being holed up Coronavirus to be honest!

I’m going to get through the withdrawals. You pay your money you pay the cost.

But CoronaVirus didn’t pay for that!!.