10:30am on Monday is always a dangerous time for me
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Some people write down their 'craving' time. It not only gives you a better idea of what triggers you, but a better assessment of the frequency of cravings. You may not be aware because cravings always feel as good as new, but they decrease pretty fast.
This meant (in my case) that instead of thinking of drinking all day long (buying alcohol, consuming alcohol, hiding alcohol, disposing of bottles, planning next buy, etc) you will start having 'Alcohol Free' moments. Slowly your mind will readjust, your routines will change and you will have more and more alcohol free time.
And then, when you less expected you will realise that a craving is the exception. This happened to me around the 6 months mark. It felt like I was not making enough progress for a long time, because I was not paying attention to the progress. I was only paying attention to where I wanted to be (not living in the present seems to be a thing for alcoholics)
This meant (in my case) that instead of thinking of drinking all day long (buying alcohol, consuming alcohol, hiding alcohol, disposing of bottles, planning next buy, etc) you will start having 'Alcohol Free' moments. Slowly your mind will readjust, your routines will change and you will have more and more alcohol free time.
And then, when you less expected you will realise that a craving is the exception. This happened to me around the 6 months mark. It felt like I was not making enough progress for a long time, because I was not paying attention to the progress. I was only paying attention to where I wanted to be (not living in the present seems to be a thing for alcoholics)
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Hi freedomfries. How are you?
I get paid once a fortnight on a Tuesday and have pretty much the same problem / temptation / cravings for a drink when that day comes around. And like yourself going into payday I've usually been broke for a period of time (usually a week to a week and a half for me). Sometimes accompanied by an important bill that I've not paid because the money was spent on alcohol. I think I've ran out of excuses with my phone / broadband company and gas / electricity company why I was late making a payment. Of course leaving it to next time to pay means another bill doesn't get paid on time.
It's getting through the first two or three days after I get paid that is crucial. Last time (last Tuesday, 25 Feb) I kept myself busy on that day and in the couple of days that followed and then later in the week I treated myself to a new pair of Nike trainers instead of wasting my money on alcohol. It might not amount to much (though I did need new trainers) but I felt happy that I'd bought something I really needed rather than ending up with no money and nothing but a hangover to show for it.
I looked it up in the Collins English Dictionary - it's there!
adverb
in an alcoholic manner
So your sentence would read "I've been drinking in an alcoholic manner for seven and a half years".
Originally Posted by freedomfries 
I get paid on Mondays so I have money and the off licence opens at 10:30am.
Lot of AV activity around this time
Trying to recognize and ignore it
I've been broke since my last bender (day 5 now) so I haven't had the option to drink
Lot of AV activity around this time
Trying to recognize and ignore it
I've been broke since my last bender (day 5 now) so I haven't had the option to drink
It's getting through the first two or three days after I get paid that is crucial. Last time (last Tuesday, 25 Feb) I kept myself busy on that day and in the couple of days that followed and then later in the week I treated myself to a new pair of Nike trainers instead of wasting my money on alcohol. It might not amount to much (though I did need new trainers) but I felt happy that I'd bought something I really needed rather than ending up with no money and nothing but a hangover to show for it.
Originally Posted by freedomfries
I've been drinking alcoholically for seven and a half years
Is "alcoholically" a word? Is that the correct spelling? Autocorrect doesn't like it
Is "alcoholically" a word? Is that the correct spelling? Autocorrect doesn't like it
adverb
in an alcoholic manner
So your sentence would read "I've been drinking in an alcoholic manner for seven and a half years".
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Originally Posted by freedomfries
Currently 9:43am
I get paid on Mondays so I have money and the off licence opens at 10:30am.
Lot of AV activity around this time
Trying to recognize and ignore it
I've been broke since my last bender (day 5 now) so I haven't had the option to drink
Remembering my reasons for quitting
Better relationship with family
Save money
No horrible anxiety afterwards
better health
I'm determined to make it through today sober. Posting here for accountability
I get paid on Mondays so I have money and the off licence opens at 10:30am.
Lot of AV activity around this time
Trying to recognize and ignore it
I've been broke since my last bender (day 5 now) so I haven't had the option to drink
Remembering my reasons for quitting
Better relationship with family
Save money
No horrible anxiety afterwards
better health
I'm determined to make it through today sober. Posting here for accountability
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wherever you are I wish you a great day sober.
I took quite a bit for me to feel 'better' as others reported: full of energy and feeling the pink cloud (still waiting for that pink cloud). However, day 10 was a big milestone. It came with powerful cravings but also with the knowledge I could fight them and that I did not want to go back to day zero.
I always recommend to read 'the obstacle course' by a blogger you can find googling 'mummywasasecretdrinker'. Once I hit double digits it became increasingly difficult o give in my AV
I took quite a bit for me to feel 'better' as others reported: full of energy and feeling the pink cloud (still waiting for that pink cloud). However, day 10 was a big milestone. It came with powerful cravings but also with the knowledge I could fight them and that I did not want to go back to day zero.
I always recommend to read 'the obstacle course' by a blogger you can find googling 'mummywasasecretdrinker'. Once I hit double digits it became increasingly difficult o give in my AV
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Congrats on Day 9, freedomfries.
Do you have plans for the weekend, and plans for keeping the weekend sober? And maybe more critically, Monday? (But it is still one day at a time to get there, for you and the rest of us.)
Do you have plans for the weekend, and plans for keeping the weekend sober? And maybe more critically, Monday? (But it is still one day at a time to get there, for you and the rest of us.)
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