Horses for Courses - Weekender 28 February- 02 March 2020
saoutchik
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: London
Posts: 16,187
I think that is an excellent suggestion about leaving your keys in the locker MantaLady. Physical tiredness is an underrated ally in defeating cravings in my opinion.
Well done Forwards, I'm glad the job hunt is starting to yield results. Fingers crossed.
Vinny, good luck with the insurance claim. It does sound like it should be covered by your policy.
Well done Forwards, I'm glad the job hunt is starting to yield results. Fingers crossed.
Vinny, good luck with the insurance claim. It does sound like it should be covered by your policy.
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Join Date: May 2018
Posts: 8,762
Thanks Mags! Late to the party this time, but I’m early for the next weekender 
Happy birthday Freedomfries I started trying to get sober at 50, and I’m still trying, nearly 2 years on! I wish I’d done it years ago....
Sao I love that castle and all old castles actually ❤️
Well done Manta on posting through everything! I didn’t. I was MIA and I screwed up my weekend by drinking and I am so furious with myself because I’ve felt like complete and utter crap since, and guilty and depressed, and the cravings are once again even harder to resist. The more days under our belt the easier it gets. But I’m back on track on for three days now, and I am absolutely determined not to let it happen again. You’re right. Reaching out to SR when we need help instead of withdrawing, is really really important!
Happy birthday Freedomfries
I started trying to get sober at 50, and I’m still trying, nearly 2 years on! I wish I’d done it years ago....Sao I love that castle
and all old castles actually ❤️Well done Manta on posting through everything! I didn’t. I was MIA and I screwed up my weekend by drinking and I am so furious with myself because I’ve felt like complete and utter crap since, and guilty and depressed, and the cravings are once again even harder to resist. The more days under our belt the easier it gets. But I’m back on track on for three days now, and I am absolutely determined not to let it happen again. You’re right. Reaching out to SR when we need help instead of withdrawing, is really really important!
Ocean Lover!
Join Date: Apr 2018
Location: You know nothing Jon Snow - UK
Posts: 2,604
Hey Willow xx I feel your frustration and are right there with you. Accountability I am learning is key, it’s too easy to let myself down but much harder when I have promised or committed to another. I hate that I have to do this but I’ve repeat evidence that not doing it doesn’t work to well for me. xx
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Join Date: Jan 2020
Location: NC
Posts: 5,152
MLD! 63 months is awesome. Congrats!
willow and manta I am so glad y'all are sticking around and most importantly keeping up the good fight.
Accountability100%
We, as alcoholics, can convince OURSELVES of any reason to drink if left alone long enough.
However those on the outside looking in can see through that BS and convince us otherwise.
The next time you want or "need" to drink, no matter how low you feel or or how convincing your AV is, POST!
You may not want to at that moment, you may be in a &*^% it mood but remember the feeling AFTER the drink is over. Where you are now.
And POST up!
IT WORKS!
When I 1st joined SR, about a week in or so, I was scrolling through and a post popped up asking for help.
I am a week in. I know squat about staying sober.
I read it and replied, they replied, I replied, they replied, you get it.
Believe it or not they got through the crisis just by posting.
I, a week in, 0 credibility on staying sober, helped someone stay sober! I can't tell you how good that felt!
It wasn't any special knowledge I had. I take no credit in being the sober whisperer. I was probably talking out of the side of my neck but who cares, I simply replied to a call for help and It Worked!
I found out during the conversation this person had a few years sober and was on the edge of losing it.
Make a post, send a PM, find a meeting, whatever you have to do.
I know you can do it. You just can't do it alone.
willow and manta I am so glad y'all are sticking around and most importantly keeping up the good fight.
Accountability100%
We, as alcoholics, can convince OURSELVES of any reason to drink if left alone long enough.
However those on the outside looking in can see through that BS and convince us otherwise.
The next time you want or "need" to drink, no matter how low you feel or or how convincing your AV is, POST!
You may not want to at that moment, you may be in a &*^% it mood but remember the feeling AFTER the drink is over. Where you are now.
And POST up!
IT WORKS!
When I 1st joined SR, about a week in or so, I was scrolling through and a post popped up asking for help.
I am a week in. I know squat about staying sober.
I read it and replied, they replied, I replied, they replied, you get it.
Believe it or not they got through the crisis just by posting.
I, a week in, 0 credibility on staying sober, helped someone stay sober! I can't tell you how good that felt!
It wasn't any special knowledge I had. I take no credit in being the sober whisperer. I was probably talking out of the side of my neck but who cares, I simply replied to a call for help and It Worked!
I found out during the conversation this person had a few years sober and was on the edge of losing it.
Make a post, send a PM, find a meeting, whatever you have to do.
I know you can do it. You just can't do it alone.
Giving up is NOT an option.
Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Western Wisconsin
Posts: 7,808
I firmly feel that the second most important AA Step is step 12:
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
It really works better if we give it away. In other words: we help ourselves and others by being there to help and share our own stories and hope. You never know when something you say can save someone's life. I'm not exaggerating.
And reaching out for help is one of the most important things anyone who is struggling can possibly do.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
It really works better if we give it away. In other words: we help ourselves and others by being there to help and share our own stories and hope. You never know when something you say can save someone's life. I'm not exaggerating.
And reaching out for help is one of the most important things anyone who is struggling can possibly do.
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Location: German Village, Columbus with my love ♥
Posts: 88,446
Originally Posted by MLD51 
I firmly feel that the second most important AA Step is step 12:
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
It really works better if we give it away. In other words: we help ourselves and others by being there to help and share our own stories and hope. You never know when something you say can save someone's life. I'm not exaggerating.
And reaching out for help is one of the most important things anyone who is struggling can possibly do.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
It really works better if we give it away. In other words: we help ourselves and others by being there to help and share our own stories and hope. You never know when something you say can save someone's life. I'm not exaggerating.
And reaching out for help is one of the most important things anyone who is struggling can possibly do.
s xxCongrats on 63 months love.
❤️...our sobriety date is very close.....you are Nov 14 I think? I am Oct. So same. xxxx
s xx
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Join Date: May 2018
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Congratulations on 63 months Marty! And Suze! Awesome stuff
Fantastic post about accountability Fish! Really true.
And Fish and Marty, what you both said about helping others is so very true we were just talking about that in another thread
Thanks everybody for the support.
Manta we can do this, we need to remember all those things we learned when we had our long stretch of sobriety. I’m still posting in the May 2018 class from back when I started. You’re always welcome back there too It’s pretty quiet these days, but Bumblebee is still there and the amazing Dee pops in with great words of wisdom (thanks Dee) and a few others occasionally pop in too.
Sao I sometimes feel like a failure for having stuffed up my sobriety again but then I remind myself that I’m still here and still trying and have learned lots of things along the way, and at least I haven’t disappeared off “outside” which I know would be so easily to happen.
See you on the next weekenders! I’m going hiking in the bush all day on Saturday, up a mountain. Some recharging of my soul ❤️
But other than that, I’m going to be sticking close to SR this weekend
Fantastic post about accountability Fish! Really true.
And Fish and Marty, what you both said about helping others is so very true
we were just talking about that in another threadThanks everybody for the support.
Manta we can do this, we need to remember all those things we learned when we had our long stretch of sobriety. I’m still posting in the May 2018 class from back when I started. You’re always welcome back there too
It’s pretty quiet these days, but Bumblebee is still there and the amazing Dee pops in with great words of wisdom (thanks Dee) and a few others occasionally pop in too. Sao I sometimes feel like a failure for having stuffed up my sobriety again but then I remind myself that I’m still here and still trying and have learned lots of things along the way, and at least I haven’t disappeared off “outside” which I know would be so easily to happen.
See you on the next weekenders! I’m going hiking in the bush all day on Saturday, up a mountain. Some recharging of my soul ❤️
But other than that, I’m going to be sticking close to SR this weekend
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Originally Posted by MLD51
It really works better if we give it away. In other words: we help ourselves and others by being there to help and share our own stories and hope. You never know when something you say can save someone's life. I'm not exaggerating.
Magsie
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Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: UK
Posts: 26,644
Morning Weekenders
CityBoy, talking about your experiences not only helps you but others too. Something might just click with somebody and they get the ahah moment! Keeping talking.
Marty congratulations
Willow good to see you, the 24 hour thread is great for being accountable. (I think I’ve seen you there too) at first it was confirming I was sober for the day then I got reading others posts and thought wow! What amazing bunch of people, all giving 24 hours of sobriety.
Fishkiller great post of accountability!
See you later xx
CityBoy, talking about your experiences not only helps you but others too. Something might just click with somebody and they get the ahah moment! Keeping talking.
Marty congratulations
Willow good to see you, the 24 hour thread is great for being accountable. (I think I’ve seen you there too) at first it was confirming I was sober for the day then I got reading others posts and thought wow! What amazing bunch of people, all giving 24 hours of sobriety.
Fishkiller great post of accountability!
See you later xx
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