What to do
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What to do
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I hope your holiday went well. I have had better ones. First, my parents seem to always be upset with me, and they have every reason to be. As well as my boyfriend, and I don't know if he wants to give me the chance to make it up to him. Lately, I have done many people wrong, and they are all sick of my crap. Everyday I hear how much I have screwed up in my past, and it seems that no matter how much I try to make it up to people it's not good enough. Sometimes I feel like giving up, and just going back to my normal. Nobody seems to notice the difference, and then I FEEL the differnce in myself. Nevertheless, it is one major hurdle to get over every morning. How much you have F*@#ed up in the past. Does any one have any advice on how to live down your past. How do you prove to others that you are trying to change your ways if they will give you half a chance. I need to talk to someone, even if it is about everyday crap
Thank-you Michele :insane
I hope your holiday went well. I have had better ones. First, my parents seem to always be upset with me, and they have every reason to be. As well as my boyfriend, and I don't know if he wants to give me the chance to make it up to him. Lately, I have done many people wrong, and they are all sick of my crap. Everyday I hear how much I have screwed up in my past, and it seems that no matter how much I try to make it up to people it's not good enough. Sometimes I feel like giving up, and just going back to my normal. Nobody seems to notice the difference, and then I FEEL the differnce in myself. Nevertheless, it is one major hurdle to get over every morning. How much you have F*@#ed up in the past. Does any one have any advice on how to live down your past. How do you prove to others that you are trying to change your ways if they will give you half a chance. I need to talk to someone, even if it is about everyday crap
Thank-you Michele :insane
Hi Michele,
I'm not sure how long you've been sober, but I gather that it's fairly recent. I think it's a typical situation to be in when we stop drinking/using, we feel that we've made a big change and everyone should see it. But, it doesn't usually work that way. The people who have watched us mess up are usually reluctant to forgive us too soon. I think you need to be patient and keep on staying on track. At this point, all you can do is show your family by your actions every day that you've changed.
Hang in there.
Anna
I'm not sure how long you've been sober, but I gather that it's fairly recent. I think it's a typical situation to be in when we stop drinking/using, we feel that we've made a big change and everyone should see it. But, it doesn't usually work that way. The people who have watched us mess up are usually reluctant to forgive us too soon. I think you need to be patient and keep on staying on track. At this point, all you can do is show your family by your actions every day that you've changed.
Hang in there.
Anna
Dear Michele--This is one of the situations where the Serenity Prayer comes in handy. You cannot change how your loved ones feel or react to you. You CAN change how you react to them. If you stay sober, and keep doing the right thing, eventually they will all see the difference. I have wasted a lot of time worrying and stressing out about what others think of me. I know today that the only thing that matters is how I feel about myself. Hang in there and it will get better.
Hi Michelle,
I spoke with my sponser about this last night - this very subject amongst others. It took time for me to earn the disrespect and other things too. If we are truely grateful for sobriety within a recovery programme such as the 12 Steps, it is clear that we have alot of work to do. It takes time but the rewards are worth it and in time you will be lauded for getting better and making the lives around you better!
We earned through active addiction their mistrust etc and need to get some good Recovery under our belts to earn back respect. But this we can do and that is the good news. God I am so lucky and I do forget as I am forgiven and thanked for any sobriety I give my loved ones. Thank you for reminding me of that. Our lives will improve if we keep well. And yours will too....Lets keep getting better together Luvs Ama
I spoke with my sponser about this last night - this very subject amongst others. It took time for me to earn the disrespect and other things too. If we are truely grateful for sobriety within a recovery programme such as the 12 Steps, it is clear that we have alot of work to do. It takes time but the rewards are worth it and in time you will be lauded for getting better and making the lives around you better!
We earned through active addiction their mistrust etc and need to get some good Recovery under our belts to earn back respect. But this we can do and that is the good news. God I am so lucky and I do forget as I am forgiven and thanked for any sobriety I give my loved ones. Thank you for reminding me of that. Our lives will improve if we keep well. And yours will too....Lets keep getting better together Luvs Ama
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