Another Relapse
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I made it to 10 days only to have yet another relapse.
I had a very stressful situation with family. Just absolute distrust in family, very disappointed, and just disgusted with family to the point where I can't trust any family or friends or anybody anymore. Only here can I talk about things and trust people here.
So I started drinking again. I have plenty of alcohol and a full bar pretty much with bottles of vodka, gin, rum, tequila, cognac, scotch, bourbon, Irish whiskey, sake, wine, champagne, and much more but I didn't touch the liquor/spirits so I do have self control. I am only drinking wine for now to drink responsibly and moderately and keep it under control and just stick to wine for now since it is safer and a more relaxed and calm type of drinking. I am just drinking until I can calm down and figure things out and come up with a plan to stop drinking later on.
Just when I thought I could stop drinking, this situation with family happens and now I am drinking again after 10 days of sobriety.
I just feel so pissed at family and they just make things worse with no help at all and just bring more misery, stress, disgust, and anger towards them. I just hate it. They don't understand anything and just make my condition worse.
I don't even know if I can stop drinking with all of this stress with family. It just seems hopeless and I feel hopeless right now.
The sad part is that I don't even feel guilty for drinking again, at least not right now. I feel partially intoxicated and feel pretty good actually and I like it. I know that is a terrible thing to say but it is true. I don't want to drink anymore but I am just trying to get through this stressful situation with family.
I am just so stressed that all I want to do is drink wine and oil paint. The only two things that are helping me calm down for now.
I am just at my wits end with drinking. I want to stop but just when I seem to make progress, more stressful stuff with family occurs and I am back again drinking.
Sorry for the rant. I am just feeling frustrated right now.
I had a very stressful situation with family. Just absolute distrust in family, very disappointed, and just disgusted with family to the point where I can't trust any family or friends or anybody anymore. Only here can I talk about things and trust people here.
So I started drinking again. I have plenty of alcohol and a full bar pretty much with bottles of vodka, gin, rum, tequila, cognac, scotch, bourbon, Irish whiskey, sake, wine, champagne, and much more but I didn't touch the liquor/spirits so I do have self control. I am only drinking wine for now to drink responsibly and moderately and keep it under control and just stick to wine for now since it is safer and a more relaxed and calm type of drinking. I am just drinking until I can calm down and figure things out and come up with a plan to stop drinking later on.
Just when I thought I could stop drinking, this situation with family happens and now I am drinking again after 10 days of sobriety.
I just feel so pissed at family and they just make things worse with no help at all and just bring more misery, stress, disgust, and anger towards them. I just hate it. They don't understand anything and just make my condition worse.
I don't even know if I can stop drinking with all of this stress with family. It just seems hopeless and I feel hopeless right now.
The sad part is that I don't even feel guilty for drinking again, at least not right now. I feel partially intoxicated and feel pretty good actually and I like it. I know that is a terrible thing to say but it is true. I don't want to drink anymore but I am just trying to get through this stressful situation with family.
I am just so stressed that all I want to do is drink wine and oil paint. The only two things that are helping me calm down for now.
I am just at my wits end with drinking. I want to stop but just when I seem to make progress, more stressful stuff with family occurs and I am back again drinking.
Sorry for the rant. I am just feeling frustrated right now.
And on top of that the physical and mental side effects and it's a cocktail for disaster.
Your pain and suffering is real - but alcohol will never do anything but continue to bring you more pain and suffering under the guise of a temporary fix.
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I had a family situation over a year ago that set me off on a month long bender so no judgement here. Although, it doesn't take much to set me off, it was my mother's death that I used as justification for an epic binge.
Sounds like you haven't gotten to the point where withdrawal symptoms are an issue so stop now before you really get into the booze.
Sounds like you haven't gotten to the point where withdrawal symptoms are an issue so stop now before you really get into the booze.
This here is life saving advice.
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Hopefully I can quit but just trying to take it easy.
It is this wine box stuff called Franzia. It says it is 9.0% alcohol and figured it is less than the 40% to 50% alcohol spirits I was drinking and would be okay but this stuff is making me feel pretty drunk. I just wanted some inexpensive wine.
I just need to quit drinking but it is so hard. I need a new plan or just separate from any contact with family for a bit and avoid stress. I just don't know anymore. I just feel hopeless.
It is this wine box stuff called Franzia. It says it is 9.0% alcohol and figured it is less than the 40% to 50% alcohol spirits I was drinking and would be okay but this stuff is making me feel pretty drunk. I just wanted some inexpensive wine.
I just need to quit drinking but it is so hard. I need a new plan or just separate from any contact with family for a bit and avoid stress. I just don't know anymore. I just feel hopeless.
Hopefully I can quit but just trying to take it easy.
It is this wine box stuff called Franzia. It says it is 9.0% alcohol and figured it is less than the 40% to 50% alcohol spirits I was drinking and would be okay but this stuff is making me feel pretty drunk. I just wanted some inexpensive wine.
I just need to quit drinking but it is so hard. I need a new plan or just separate from any contact with family for a bit and avoid stress. I just don't know anymore. I just feel hopeless.
It is this wine box stuff called Franzia. It says it is 9.0% alcohol and figured it is less than the 40% to 50% alcohol spirits I was drinking and would be okay but this stuff is making me feel pretty drunk. I just wanted some inexpensive wine.
I just need to quit drinking but it is so hard. I need a new plan or just separate from any contact with family for a bit and avoid stress. I just don't know anymore. I just feel hopeless.
And yes, quitting is hard. But nothing will change until you do. Makijng a plan and changing things with your family are important, but irrelevant until you can quit drinking. Dump out what you have, drink some water and get some rest.
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Going out and buying 2 boxes of wine when you have a full bar stocked better than most public bars? I think you are trying to convince yourself wine is not bad. There is logic in wine being less harmful than spirits but I guarantee after a couple days drinking the wine and you will be drinking the spirits.
All alcohol is off limits for alcoholics. You do need to get rid of all alcohol from your house and stop having a romantic view of alcohol.
10 days sober and 2 days relapse is bad but 10 days sober followed by a 10 month relapse will be hell.
All alcohol is off limits for alcoholics. You do need to get rid of all alcohol from your house and stop having a romantic view of alcohol.
10 days sober and 2 days relapse is bad but 10 days sober followed by a 10 month relapse will be hell.
Sorry you are feeling this way.
How about selling all the fancy booze and paraphernalia on e-bay? Find some other collectible to satisfy your OCD. Van Gough's paint brushes? Easel? Mixing pots? A collection worth your while.
Never in a million years is alcohol going to satisfy your need to be free, it'll keep you trapped longer than cavewoman painted first rock art.
Ochre's pretty cheap. More colours than you can imagine, direct from the earth. Alcohol's pretty black and white, if you ask me.
I do wish you well.
How about selling all the fancy booze and paraphernalia on e-bay? Find some other collectible to satisfy your OCD. Van Gough's paint brushes? Easel? Mixing pots? A collection worth your while.
Never in a million years is alcohol going to satisfy your need to be free, it'll keep you trapped longer than cavewoman painted first rock art.
Ochre's pretty cheap. More colours than you can imagine, direct from the earth. Alcohol's pretty black and white, if you ask me.
I do wish you well.
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I looked at this site obviously within 10 days when you were talking about coke. No longer can I relate.
Box wine
A bar there for looks.
Sophisticates savor it and don't drink to get drunk or to escape.
Think about why you have it.
Trying to figure out why I care you relapsed and are blaming your family
Maybe just maybe they see the truth in some things?
Ever tried to figure out why you can't cope with life's stuff?
I'm in withdrawal today from coke. Telling myself I can't do this and work. I can't go home and lie to my wife about why I feel like ****
Maybe I will just stop quitting for today too
Box wine
A bar there for looks.
Sophisticates savor it and don't drink to get drunk or to escape.
Think about why you have it.
Trying to figure out why I care you relapsed and are blaming your family
Maybe just maybe they see the truth in some things?
Ever tried to figure out why you can't cope with life's stuff?
I'm in withdrawal today from coke. Telling myself I can't do this and work. I can't go home and lie to my wife about why I feel like ****
Maybe I will just stop quitting for today too
Hi Mikoss - sorry you're drinking. I must have drunk an oceans worth of booze trying to deal with the stress in my life, my family and my job. I was never able to drink enough to solve any of those problems but I created a whole lot more.
Whatever the solution is to your problems, you won't find them in a bottle or a wine box Mikoss.
I hope you'll think about healthy ways to deal with whatever is upsetting you
It sounds like its time for change for you Mikoss.
I needed to make changes in my life. My drinking defined me. I had to find other ways to define myself as a sober person.
and OCD or not please dump the wine. Cheap wine is one of the worst things to drink because it gets you really drunk increases the danger of injuries and makes you really sick.
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Whatever the solution is to your problems, you won't find them in a bottle or a wine box Mikoss.
I hope you'll think about healthy ways to deal with whatever is upsetting you
It sounds like its time for change for you Mikoss.
I needed to make changes in my life. My drinking defined me. I had to find other ways to define myself as a sober person.
and OCD or not please dump the wine. Cheap wine is one of the worst things to drink because it gets you really drunk increases the danger of injuries and makes you really sick.
D
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Reasons for drinking (or any compulsive behavior) are driven by emotional factors, usually feelings of helplessness (about whatever in life makes a person feel overwhelmingly trapped, powerless and lacking control).
The antidote is to reverse engineer this concept and empower yourself with some other high value behavior that enables you to regain control of your feelings. Of course this is easier said than done but is doable.
Find something you value like exercise, music, painting, prayer, journaling, etc.
The bottom line is that life is never going to be fair, easy and painless and you are never always going to get what you want. Find new values and purpose in life and replace them with your drinking. This is exactly what non drinkers and non abusers due. It's not magic. Recognize the emotional situations that set you off, Reframe the pros and cons and Replace your old behavior with new high value behavior.
Don't kid yourself, the only way you will stop desiring heavy substances and change your behavior is by seeing more happiness in the change than in the using. You must reach that conclusion yourself because, as Aristotle said, “We desire in accordance with our deliberation.” Go for the BBO: the Bigger Better Offer, look at the Forest through the Trees!
The antidote is to reverse engineer this concept and empower yourself with some other high value behavior that enables you to regain control of your feelings. Of course this is easier said than done but is doable.
Find something you value like exercise, music, painting, prayer, journaling, etc.
The bottom line is that life is never going to be fair, easy and painless and you are never always going to get what you want. Find new values and purpose in life and replace them with your drinking. This is exactly what non drinkers and non abusers due. It's not magic. Recognize the emotional situations that set you off, Reframe the pros and cons and Replace your old behavior with new high value behavior.
Don't kid yourself, the only way you will stop desiring heavy substances and change your behavior is by seeing more happiness in the change than in the using. You must reach that conclusion yourself because, as Aristotle said, “We desire in accordance with our deliberation.” Go for the BBO: the Bigger Better Offer, look at the Forest through the Trees!
My alcoholism wants me dead. No matter what, that is what it wants from me. When I tried to quit in my past, it was very hard not to drink, eventually.
25 years of hard alcoholic drinking and I finally had had enough.
Don't wait that long. Get yourself help as soon as you can. Stop fighting alcohol, surrender to the fact that you can't drink safely. It helped me. Along with those 12 steps.
I wish you well!
25 years of hard alcoholic drinking and I finally had had enough.
Don't wait that long. Get yourself help as soon as you can. Stop fighting alcohol, surrender to the fact that you can't drink safely. It helped me. Along with those 12 steps.
I wish you well!
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Stress is one of those emotions that many of us have used to justify drinking (and coke in your case). Make a new plan and get this done. As said above, alcohol is alcohol. You really can't justify cheap wine over anything else.
Hi Mikoss,
I’m sorry you’re drinking again, and doesn’t sound like you’ve got a plan to try to stop at this point.
I have learned that I can’t control things my family or friends say/do, I can only control my response. I have put distance between me and people who drain me emotionally. I wish them nothing but happiness, but I cannot be involved in the drama.
There will always be stress in life, and unfortunately when you drink to deal with it the stress is still there the next day.
I hope you decide you are worth getting sober for. I hope you can find someone to give your fancy alcohol too, and you can replace it with sparkling water and juice.
Hope you’ll check in tomorrow and be on day one of sobriety.
I’m sorry you’re drinking again, and doesn’t sound like you’ve got a plan to try to stop at this point.
I have learned that I can’t control things my family or friends say/do, I can only control my response. I have put distance between me and people who drain me emotionally. I wish them nothing but happiness, but I cannot be involved in the drama.
There will always be stress in life, and unfortunately when you drink to deal with it the stress is still there the next day.
I hope you decide you are worth getting sober for. I hope you can find someone to give your fancy alcohol too, and you can replace it with sparkling water and juice.
Hope you’ll check in tomorrow and be on day one of sobriety.
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Thank you so much everyone for all of the advice.
I will read over everything again and try to come up with a plan to stop this drinking. I ended up passing out I guess from too much wine plus I was already sick and just not well. Emotionally and physically. I just woke up.
I didn't do any cocaine. None whatsoever. I don't even want to go back to that or deal with the comedown.
A friend of mine did come over before I fell asleep and she gave me a bottle of this whiskey called Southern Comfort. I think I have had this before years ago. But I resisted drinking it. She said it would help me with the cold or flu like symptoms I have by warming it up with lemon and honey but I don't want to chance it and make my condition worse. Plus it is just more drinking. But I appreciated her bringing it over.
Now I am just here drinking more of this inexpensive wine in a box. As convenient as it is I think these are also designed to make people drink more. You just open the spigot and out comes more wine. A clever idea and convenient but it can make you drink more. So I put the boxes away on the bathroom counter to distance myself from them instead of having them out on the kitchen counter where I was drinking too much of it earlier.
I just need to stop somehow and try to get a hold of myself. I am not guzzling the wine or drinking like crazy just taking it slow until I can figure out how to stop drinking and try to sort things out.
Not to mention I woke up with extreme anxiety a while ago. It went away though. No bad dreams or nightmares.
But yes Steely I do like ochre colors a lot when painting. Mostly as background colors. I mix a lot of my paints from pigments. Stuff I collect from all over and buy from different sources or friends. And I like mixing my own mediums and experimenting.
Turpentine mixed with various linseed oils in different proportions depending on what I am using it for. And rabbit skin glue with lead based agents and certain mineral dusts and chemicals. It is all very fascinating trying to make different mediums and resins and paints and prepping agents for the canvas. I have a part of the house which is like my little laboratory where I can mix and experiment with mediums and pigments and so forth.
As far as brushes, yes I have experimented with making my own brushes from certain fibers. Mostly I just buy them but I make some of them too.
Right now I am working on a squirrel painting. A small painting I have worked on slowly in my spare time for fun. I love squirrels. I like studying them and I find them very relaxing to watch.
But right now I am just trying to get my wine drinking under control too. And figure out how to manage this and finally stop drinking. It is just so frustrating. If I don't drink then I feel bad and if I drink then I feel better and not as bad as before. Then I feel bad about the drinking and drink more and then quit to feel better only to feel bad from not drinking. It is just so hard and feel so confused and hopeless.
I will read over everything again and try to come up with a plan to stop this drinking. I ended up passing out I guess from too much wine plus I was already sick and just not well. Emotionally and physically. I just woke up.
I didn't do any cocaine. None whatsoever. I don't even want to go back to that or deal with the comedown.
A friend of mine did come over before I fell asleep and she gave me a bottle of this whiskey called Southern Comfort. I think I have had this before years ago. But I resisted drinking it. She said it would help me with the cold or flu like symptoms I have by warming it up with lemon and honey but I don't want to chance it and make my condition worse. Plus it is just more drinking. But I appreciated her bringing it over.
Now I am just here drinking more of this inexpensive wine in a box. As convenient as it is I think these are also designed to make people drink more. You just open the spigot and out comes more wine. A clever idea and convenient but it can make you drink more. So I put the boxes away on the bathroom counter to distance myself from them instead of having them out on the kitchen counter where I was drinking too much of it earlier.
I just need to stop somehow and try to get a hold of myself. I am not guzzling the wine or drinking like crazy just taking it slow until I can figure out how to stop drinking and try to sort things out.
Not to mention I woke up with extreme anxiety a while ago. It went away though. No bad dreams or nightmares.
But yes Steely I do like ochre colors a lot when painting. Mostly as background colors. I mix a lot of my paints from pigments. Stuff I collect from all over and buy from different sources or friends. And I like mixing my own mediums and experimenting.
Turpentine mixed with various linseed oils in different proportions depending on what I am using it for. And rabbit skin glue with lead based agents and certain mineral dusts and chemicals. It is all very fascinating trying to make different mediums and resins and paints and prepping agents for the canvas. I have a part of the house which is like my little laboratory where I can mix and experiment with mediums and pigments and so forth.
As far as brushes, yes I have experimented with making my own brushes from certain fibers. Mostly I just buy them but I make some of them too.
Right now I am working on a squirrel painting. A small painting I have worked on slowly in my spare time for fun. I love squirrels. I like studying them and I find them very relaxing to watch.
But right now I am just trying to get my wine drinking under control too. And figure out how to manage this and finally stop drinking. It is just so frustrating. If I don't drink then I feel bad and if I drink then I feel better and not as bad as before. Then I feel bad about the drinking and drink more and then quit to feel better only to feel bad from not drinking. It is just so hard and feel so confused and hopeless.
I come from australia mikoss and we have the dubious honour of inventing that box wine with tap. The silver bladder can be used as a pillow if ever you find yourself homeless, and need to rest your head. It has the nickname here as a Goon, or Goonie.
The box and the wine it contains was specifically developed by the alcohol industry for a niche market.....poor people, who wanted bang for their buck. Often alcoholic. The industry made a killing in more ways than one. The wine itself is loaded with chemicals, and poison to the human body. Ugh!
Hope you decide to close the tap mikoss. Your emotional and physical self will thank you for it.
The box and the wine it contains was specifically developed by the alcohol industry for a niche market.....poor people, who wanted bang for their buck. Often alcoholic. The industry made a killing in more ways than one. The wine itself is loaded with chemicals, and poison to the human body. Ugh!
Hope you decide to close the tap mikoss. Your emotional and physical self will thank you for it.
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I come from australia mikoss and we have the dubious honour of inventing that box wine with tap. The silver bladder can be used as a pillow if ever you find yourself homeless, and need to rest your head. It has the nickname here as a Goon, or Goonie.
The box and the wine it contains was specifically developed by the alcohol industry for a niche market.....poor people, who wanted bang for their buck. Often alcoholic. The industry made a killing in more ways than one. The wine itself is loaded with chemicals, and poison to the human body. Ugh!
Hope you decide to close the tap mikoss. Your emotional and physical self will thank you for it.
The box and the wine it contains was specifically developed by the alcohol industry for a niche market.....poor people, who wanted bang for their buck. Often alcoholic. The industry made a killing in more ways than one. The wine itself is loaded with chemicals, and poison to the human body. Ugh!
Hope you decide to close the tap mikoss. Your emotional and physical self will thank you for it.
I never knew the bag inside was called a Goon or Goonie. I have had many friends that drink box wine and have always saved the bags. I would use them to put water in it for traveling or to make an ice pack, but never thought about using it as a pillow. I will have to try it one day.
I have a friend and she loves the box wine. She likes Bota Box. She is always with her Bota Box in her kitchen and even carrying it with her around the house sometimes. She calls it her other little pet.
I didn't know that they put certain chemicals in the box wine. I have to check out the label. It does say it contains sulfites.
I know they are popular here. Bota Box, Franzia, Black Box, House Wine, all of those brands. People really love it here as I am sure everywhere else because they are convenient and easy to carry and you get a lot of quantity.
The ones I got are 5 liters each. It says it is enough for 34 glasses of 5 oz. each or the equivalent of 6.7 bottles of 750 ml which is a little over a case of wine in each box. That is a lot of wine.
I need to quit drinking it though. It is very addicting in flavor so I can see how people can get addicted to this box wine stuff. This one is Franzia brand. But I suppose they are all bad for you. I just need to quit drinking it.
What makes it so addicting I think is the ease of the spigot and out comes more wine. And the ease at which you can carry it anywhere around the house. Either way I need to stop drinking it.
Either way I need to stop drinking it.
Dump the rest of it now.
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