Dee74

Hi guys

Valentines Day can be tricky for a lot of us - especially if you're newly sober.

Those 'attached' have the problem of how to celebrate sober, those 'single' or estranged or mourning a loved one, often have a pretty rough time on this day.

Both sides have to deal with the temptation to drink or use.

Just wanted to reassure everyone that no one needs to do this alone - if you need help - ask for it

Post here if you need support or need reminding that you're awesome

Lets all make it a sober Valentines day !

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Tinkerbeau

Thanks dee i always feel a bit raw on valentine's, nice to have some support

Steely

Here's to you Tinkerbeau.

Purplrks3647

Tinkerbeau

Thanks steely

cantsleep123

I'd like on of those "you are awesome" posts

Anna

Thanks for this thread, Dee.

I hope everyone feels the love on Valentine's Day.

brighterday1234

Hevyn

Great idea, Dee. You're always having those.

I appreciated the reminder that I'm awesome.

Love out to everyone. You all matter greatly.

Dee74

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venuscat

Oh my gosh....got really excited for a second there....thought we were all getting a car! s

Kidding aside....Valentine's Day was a giant thorn in my side for a very long time.
So here for support and "awesomeness" reminders.

Kjma

As one of those folks who will spend Valentine's Day without a love interest once again, I say let's support each other!! So here's to all you who need a Valentine and some roses:

Bekindalways

Would you all please be my valentine!!! I'm going for quality AND quantity!!!

I was forgetting that tomorrow is valentine's day . . . .hmmm . . . .I think I will practice a bit extra self-love!

mikoss

Thank you Dee and everyone.

I so want to drink tomorrow for Valentine's day but have to say no.

Ugh, this is tough.

Dee74

If valentines day is not a reason to celebrate for you, I'd try to think of it as just another day, another Friday, another end of the week, Mikoss.

We're all here for support

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mikoss

Thank you Dee.

I just have this feeling for some reason that I could drink for Valentine's Day and then go back to not drinking again. Like a celebration for hitting 7 days of sobriety. I am at 6 days so far.

But that is what happened on my last relapse. I celebrated my sobriety with alcohol figuring oh well I will just have a little alcohol and everything will go back to normal as dumb as that sounds.

I just need to avoid any temptation to drink alcohol but it is so hard especially on Valentine's Day.

Kjma

Mikoss, post, post, post-- get that support that's so abundant here. Makes no sense to celebrate sobriety by drinking, does it?? How about celebrate with some chocolates, popcorn and a movie?

mikoss

That does sound like a good idea to have some popcorn or chocolate and watch some movies and stay out of trouble.

Dee74

yeah do not confuse abstinence with control - they are not the same thing...

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mikoss

I never thought about it that way but it makes perfect sense.

That way I don't see sobriety on Valentine's Day as a punishment or like I have to not drink because I am not supposed to but because I can control it if I just give sobriety a chance.