Al34

Me and my ex broke up.

Everything was great till i decided to drink again.

Then we ended up not good and then broke up.

Obviously the story is much more complex.

Anyway wanted to know, has anyone got sober and realised what they’ve lost and sorted it?

thomas11

Alcohol is not shy about taking everything it can from you. Sorry to hear about the break up. Soldier on. Its all we can do.

Dee74

Hi Al

I lost a lot of things through drinking.
The most important thing I lost was me.

Get sober for you. You matter you're worth it.

You may not get everything you want back - some ships sail, for good - but you'll be in a great position to find something even better, sober.

D

Anna

Welcome! Get sorted for yourself, and stay sober. The rest will fall into place. Some things can be fixed and others can't, but it all depends on your sobriety.

DriGuy

I don't believe the relationship between my ex and I had much to do with drinking. Nor did either of us ever have a desire to get back together, although we did remain friends. I do think that it was easier to quit without her, because she didn't see drinking as an actual problem. I told her I had quit drinking a few years after we were divorced and the tone of her reaction was, "OK, cool. I guess." This was not said as some sort "blow off." It had the tone of a person who just doesn't get it.

Wastinglife

If I wasn't drinking, I doubt I would have ever even met or been with any of my exes. Every single girl I met while intoxicated to some degree. I wish I had done things differently with some but when it's time to move on, move on.

Delilah1

I think Dee sums it up perfectly, do this for you, you’ll find who you are and new opportunities will open for relationships and life in general.