Day 34
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Day 34
I've noticed for the past few days I'm feeling sort of numb. I don't know how else to describe it. It's a strange feeling. I'm not sure what to do about it.
I'm doing my usual daily activities but this numb feeling is there all the time. Maybe what alcohol was covering up I have to face now.
I'm doing my usual daily activities but this numb feeling is there all the time. Maybe what alcohol was covering up I have to face now.
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The proper functioning of our brain and psyche take a while to return to normal. We have also lost our ability to identify and name our feelings. Booze just numbed all of that. Could it be that you are not accustomed to feeling calm all the time? I've sometimes read on here that boredom is an issue that folks have to deal with. But a numbness or an emptiness I think is really typical and a common side effect of early sobriety. Could be a mixup of all of those. Answer this question for me - Is what you are feeling preferable to your typical hangover?
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I brought up the boredom issue a couple days ago and had it put in perspective for me. I was so used to the absolute highs and lows that alcohol brought. Now without alcohol, I am comfortably in the middle. That is uncharted territory for me. It’s going to take some time for mind to find this acceptable again. I’ll get there and so will you.
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Originally Posted by VinnyMcM 
I brought up the boredom issue a couple days ago and had it put in perspective for me. I was so used to the absolute highs and lows that alcohol brought. Now without alcohol, I am comfortably in the middle. That is uncharted territory for me. It’s going to take some time for mind to find this acceptable again. I’ll get there and so will you.
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Originally Posted by Surrendered19
Can you talk with anyone about symptoms of depression Mary88 and perhaps get that evaluated? I think a feeling of numbness or feeling disconnected can be a sign that was formerly medicated by booze?
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It will take time as many have shared for the mind
and body to follow addiction recovery. 34 days for
us just starting out may seem like a lifetime as we
begin to distance ourselves from alcohol and substance
abuse to our selves.
For me, I was in a 28 day rehab stay when I began
my first day sober. Then for rest of my rehab stay
I was going thru my withdrawal symptoms, sweating
it out with daily exercise trying to purge all those toxins
out of my body.
While in a supervised environment, we ate in a
group, studied, sat in groups, exercised, watched
tv, attended meetings and lights out at a particular
time and up and ready for breakfast each and
everyday.
It wasn't a vacation place for anyone. We had
to learn how to replace old habits with new and
healthy ones so that once we were released we'd
have at least some sort of a head start living life
sober.
28 days I heard often wasn't much sober time
and no more than a drop of water in a bucket
and it would take a long time to fill it up while
applying a program of recovery in my everyday
life.
Slowly that bucket did begin to fill up.
So, keep learning and keep filling your recovery
bucket up each day you remain sober.
Always feel free to use your physicians for health
issues as they are their to help us strive for
a healthy happy mind and body for years to come,
remembering to be honest with them about your
addiction and recovery so you can be treated accordingly.
and body to follow addiction recovery. 34 days for
us just starting out may seem like a lifetime as we
begin to distance ourselves from alcohol and substance
abuse to our selves.
For me, I was in a 28 day rehab stay when I began
my first day sober. Then for rest of my rehab stay
I was going thru my withdrawal symptoms, sweating
it out with daily exercise trying to purge all those toxins
out of my body.
While in a supervised environment, we ate in a
group, studied, sat in groups, exercised, watched
tv, attended meetings and lights out at a particular
time and up and ready for breakfast each and
everyday.
It wasn't a vacation place for anyone. We had
to learn how to replace old habits with new and
healthy ones so that once we were released we'd
have at least some sort of a head start living life
sober.
28 days I heard often wasn't much sober time
and no more than a drop of water in a bucket
and it would take a long time to fill it up while
applying a program of recovery in my everyday
life.
Slowly that bucket did begin to fill up.
So, keep learning and keep filling your recovery
bucket up each day you remain sober.
Always feel free to use your physicians for health
issues as they are their to help us strive for
a healthy happy mind and body for years to come,
remembering to be honest with them about your
addiction and recovery so you can be treated accordingly.
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This is not the best you're gonna feel Mary.
I think many of us underestimate the toll on mind and body many years of drinking can have..
a month is great but ..its a month, 4 weeks.
it make take a little while for things to improve, but they will
D
I think many of us underestimate the toll on mind and body many years of drinking can have..
a month is great but ..its a month, 4 weeks.
it make take a little while for things to improve, but they will
D
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Good morning, Mary.
I think it's helped me a lot to see early sobriety as a time of... slow unveiling. Almost every day it seems there is something new to notice, to consider, to feel, to "process." For me, this is a rather chaotic and difficult thing, but I also am finding it to be highly rewarding. I've learned to use the wisdom and counsel of my resources to help me through - SR, my sponsor, the Big Book, my therapist, contemplation, and my friends.
My best advice is to be patient with yourself, pay attention to how you feel, and keep talking.
O
I think it's helped me a lot to see early sobriety as a time of... slow unveiling. Almost every day it seems there is something new to notice, to consider, to feel, to "process." For me, this is a rather chaotic and difficult thing, but I also am finding it to be highly rewarding. I've learned to use the wisdom and counsel of my resources to help me through - SR, my sponsor, the Big Book, my therapist, contemplation, and my friends.
My best advice is to be patient with yourself, pay attention to how you feel, and keep talking.
O
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I have the same amount of days as you Mary. Funny you mentioned that feeling. I felt the same way yesterday afternoon. It was a strange feeling of emptiness I just went to bed early so let see what today brings.
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There is gonna be different feelings emerge after
we drop alcohol or drugs from our system(body)
and everyday life.
We will be sad, upset, aggravated, restless, irritable,
discontent, loneliness, having pity parties, the poor
me's, angry, etc.
We will have to learn how to let go of these feelings.
We will have to learn how to bury alcohol from our
lives. To say goodbye to it.
As angry as we may feel about letting it go, as sad
as we have it leave our lives, we have to let it go for good.
Maybe sit and write a goodbye note or letter to
alcohol and your addiction to it, all your feelings
you've had for it or what it has done to you and in
your life, then, burn it. bury it deep.
Then, learn how to replace alcohol with healthy
tools, routines, knowledge so that alcohol will
never have any kind of importance in your life
again.
Allow time to mourn the loss of alcohol then bury
it for good and begin the healing process moving
towards a more meaningful, useful, peaceful,
serene life ahead of you.
we drop alcohol or drugs from our system(body)
and everyday life.
We will be sad, upset, aggravated, restless, irritable,
discontent, loneliness, having pity parties, the poor
me's, angry, etc.
We will have to learn how to let go of these feelings.
We will have to learn how to bury alcohol from our
lives. To say goodbye to it.
As angry as we may feel about letting it go, as sad
as we have it leave our lives, we have to let it go for good.
Maybe sit and write a goodbye note or letter to
alcohol and your addiction to it, all your feelings
you've had for it or what it has done to you and in
your life, then, burn it. bury it deep.
Then, learn how to replace alcohol with healthy
tools, routines, knowledge so that alcohol will
never have any kind of importance in your life
again.
Allow time to mourn the loss of alcohol then bury
it for good and begin the healing process moving
towards a more meaningful, useful, peaceful,
serene life ahead of you.
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Originally Posted by Obladi
Good morning, Mary.
I think it's helped me a lot to see early sobriety as a time of... slow unveiling. Almost every day it seems there is something new to notice, to consider, to feel, to "process." For me, this is a rather chaotic and difficult thing, but I also am finding it to be highly rewarding. I've learned to use the wisdom and counsel of my resources to help me through - SR, my sponsor, the Big Book, my therapist, contemplation, and my friends.
My best advice is to be patient with yourself, pay attention to how you feel, and keep talking.
O
I think it's helped me a lot to see early sobriety as a time of... slow unveiling. Almost every day it seems there is something new to notice, to consider, to feel, to "process." For me, this is a rather chaotic and difficult thing, but I also am finding it to be highly rewarding. I've learned to use the wisdom and counsel of my resources to help me through - SR, my sponsor, the Big Book, my therapist, contemplation, and my friends.
My best advice is to be patient with yourself, pay attention to how you feel, and keep talking.
O
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Originally Posted by Sammy1980
I have the same amount of days as you Mary. Funny you mentioned that feeling. I felt the same way yesterday afternoon. It was a strange feeling of emptiness I just went to bed early so let see what today brings.
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Originally Posted by aasharon90
There is gonna be different feelings emerge after
we drop alcohol or drugs from our system(body)
and everyday life.
We will be sad, upset, aggravated, restless, irritable,
discontent, loneliness, having pity parties, the poor
me's, angry, etc.
We will have to learn how to let go of these feelings.
We will have to learn how to bury alcohol from our
lives. To say goodbye to it.
As angry as we may feel about letting it go, as sad
as we have it leave our lives, we have to let it go for good.
Maybe sit and write a goodbye note or letter to
alcohol and your addiction to it, all your feelings
you've had for it or what it has done to you and in
your life, then, burn it. bury it deep.
Then, learn how to replace alcohol with healthy
tools, routines, knowledge so that alcohol will
never have any kind of importance in your life
again.
Allow time to mourn the loss of alcohol then bury
it for good and begin the healing process moving
towards a more meaningful, useful, peaceful,
serene life ahead of you.
we drop alcohol or drugs from our system(body)
and everyday life.
We will be sad, upset, aggravated, restless, irritable,
discontent, loneliness, having pity parties, the poor
me's, angry, etc.
We will have to learn how to let go of these feelings.
We will have to learn how to bury alcohol from our
lives. To say goodbye to it.
As angry as we may feel about letting it go, as sad
as we have it leave our lives, we have to let it go for good.
Maybe sit and write a goodbye note or letter to
alcohol and your addiction to it, all your feelings
you've had for it or what it has done to you and in
your life, then, burn it. bury it deep.
Then, learn how to replace alcohol with healthy
tools, routines, knowledge so that alcohol will
never have any kind of importance in your life
again.
Allow time to mourn the loss of alcohol then bury
it for good and begin the healing process moving
towards a more meaningful, useful, peaceful,
serene life ahead of you.
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