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Originally Posted by Surrendered19 
Hope you are hanging in there Val. Been thinking about you and wishing you health and recovery.
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Originally Posted by ValThistle
thank you, Surrendered19! I am on day 13 today. Feeling good. I was having some trouble logging in these last few days, kept having to reset my password and then it still wouldnt work... started to panic a little when I realized that I couldnt participate. Thankfully I just got it to work.
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Hi Val
I just wanted to reach out to you and say I used to feel exactly the same way about myself.
I hated myself and I hated drinking too.
I hated myself all day every day when I was drinking.
I got 'it' by coming here, and doing a bit of AA.
I have not done the 12 steps, but mainly because I am a single mum and I work full time.
For me a couple of statements really made sense to me about drinking.
I think its what AA calls slogans?
1. I have never not regretted not drinking. There have been many, many, many times I have regretted choosing drinking. I have NEVER regretted choosing not to drink.
2. If you stay away from the first drink, you cannot get drunk. Its not the 8th, 9th or 10th drink that makes you drunk, it is the first drink.
For me I would try regulate my drinking or be disciplined.
Especially at events like weddings, parties and work do's.
I would set a deal with myself and say 4 drinks, no more.
Of course 4 became 5, became 6, became 7.
Because as soon as I took that drink, the dragon was awake.
I never said that's it and I am never ever drinking again ever.
I just aimed for 24 hours.
If someone said will you be drinking at my 40th party, I would answer I didn't know and I would cross that bridge when I got there.
It worked for me.
Those 24 hours will became 8 years in Feb 2020.
You can do it.
It takes effort at first, but it will become 2nd nature not to drink in time.
I wish you the best xx
I just wanted to reach out to you and say I used to feel exactly the same way about myself.
I hated myself and I hated drinking too.
I hated myself all day every day when I was drinking.
I got 'it' by coming here, and doing a bit of AA.
I have not done the 12 steps, but mainly because I am a single mum and I work full time.
For me a couple of statements really made sense to me about drinking.
I think its what AA calls slogans?
1. I have never not regretted not drinking. There have been many, many, many times I have regretted choosing drinking. I have NEVER regretted choosing not to drink.
2. If you stay away from the first drink, you cannot get drunk. Its not the 8th, 9th or 10th drink that makes you drunk, it is the first drink.
For me I would try regulate my drinking or be disciplined.
Especially at events like weddings, parties and work do's.
I would set a deal with myself and say 4 drinks, no more.
Of course 4 became 5, became 6, became 7.
Because as soon as I took that drink, the dragon was awake.
I never said that's it and I am never ever drinking again ever.
I just aimed for 24 hours.
If someone said will you be drinking at my 40th party, I would answer I didn't know and I would cross that bridge when I got there.
It worked for me.
Those 24 hours will became 8 years in Feb 2020.
You can do it.
It takes effort at first, but it will become 2nd nature not to drink in time.
I wish you the best xx
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Yeah, it is just a mess if we drink again. I am living in Day 59 here and every time my nag-headed AV starts to talk, I just play the tape. I've been remembering some things about drinking too. The maniacal rush that was the fun part of drinking was so brief. An hour at most. After that the hours that I drank made me feel progressively ashamed, afraid, exhausted, sick. Then the next morning - pure misery and suffering. We don't drink anymore Val.
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Originally Posted by Sasha4
Hi Val
I just wanted to reach out to you and say I used to feel exactly the same way about myself.
I hated myself and I hated drinking too.
I hated myself all day every day when I was drinking.
I got 'it' by coming here, and doing a bit of AA.
I have not done the 12 steps, but mainly because I am a single mum and I work full time.
For me a couple of statements really made sense to me about drinking.
I think its what AA calls slogans?
1. I have never not regretted not drinking. There have been many, many, many times I have regretted choosing drinking. I have NEVER regretted choosing not to drink.
2. If you stay away from the first drink, you cannot get drunk. Its not the 8th, 9th or 10th drink that makes you drunk, it is the first drink.
For me I would try regulate my drinking or be disciplined.
Especially at events like weddings, parties and work do's.
I would set a deal with myself and say 4 drinks, no more.
Of course 4 became 5, became 6, became 7.
Because as soon as I took that drink, the dragon was awake.
I never said that's it and I am never ever drinking again ever.
I just aimed for 24 hours.
If someone said will you be drinking at my 40th party, I would answer I didn't know and I would cross that bridge when I got there.
It worked for me.
Those 24 hours will became 8 years in Feb 2020.
You can do it.
It takes effort at first, but it will become 2nd nature not to drink in time.
I wish you the best xx
I just wanted to reach out to you and say I used to feel exactly the same way about myself.
I hated myself and I hated drinking too.
I hated myself all day every day when I was drinking.
I got 'it' by coming here, and doing a bit of AA.
I have not done the 12 steps, but mainly because I am a single mum and I work full time.
For me a couple of statements really made sense to me about drinking.
I think its what AA calls slogans?
1. I have never not regretted not drinking. There have been many, many, many times I have regretted choosing drinking. I have NEVER regretted choosing not to drink.
2. If you stay away from the first drink, you cannot get drunk. Its not the 8th, 9th or 10th drink that makes you drunk, it is the first drink.
For me I would try regulate my drinking or be disciplined.
Especially at events like weddings, parties and work do's.
I would set a deal with myself and say 4 drinks, no more.
Of course 4 became 5, became 6, became 7.
Because as soon as I took that drink, the dragon was awake.
I never said that's it and I am never ever drinking again ever.
I just aimed for 24 hours.
If someone said will you be drinking at my 40th party, I would answer I didn't know and I would cross that bridge when I got there.
It worked for me.
Those 24 hours will became 8 years in Feb 2020.
You can do it.
It takes effort at first, but it will become 2nd nature not to drink in time.
I wish you the best xx
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