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My mum Hi I’m new here, i just wanted an outlet, my mum is an alcoholic and she doesn’t think she is, she doesn’t want help, I’m pretty sure she’s alcohol dependent now. It breaks my heart this isn’t my mum, it reached an all time low today when she urinated in the kitchen because she couldn’t get to the toilet. I’m at the end of my tether |
I'm really sorry for what brings you here Naz, but this is a place of great support and understanding. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? D |
I'm so sorry Naz. Us addicts can spread so much misery. I never did what your poor Mum did, but I did a million other versions of that because of my drinking. I don't know if you can get away from the situation. Find some way to keep yourself sane. If you are old enough, just get away from it because only your Mum can stop the insanity. |
I'm sorry for your situation, Naz. Do you live at home with your mother or are you able to leave and get away? |
I'm sorry for what brings you here, but welcome to the SR family. :grouphug: |
Thanks
Originally Posted by Dee74
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I'm really sorry for what brings you here Naz, but this is a place of great support and understanding. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? D |
Originally Posted by Anna
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I'm sorry for your situation, Naz. Do you live at home with your mother or are you able to leave and get away? |
Welcome back Naz - thanks for replying I understand your situation a little better now. is she ok to look after the kids? D |
Originally Posted by Naz88
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I’m trapped I’m a single mother of two and we live in the family home together, I can’t afford to move out, I work full time and she is built in childcare I don’t want to leave her I want my mum back Just know there's nothing you can do about her drinking. She has to be the one to want help |
Hello Naz. So much love. That is so hard....you need your mum and love her, but how do we help our parents when they are ill and can't help themselves? :hug: s Does you mum have a regular doctor, or perhaps do you? That would be my first step...I would call a medical person and get advice. I think there is more help now that is way more readily available. Just a thought. :hug: s xx ❤️ |
Love the addict hate the disease. All you can do is pray for her. Its all on her. ✌ |
Originally Posted by Dee74
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Welcome back Naz - thanks for replying I understand your situation a little better now. is she ok to look after the kids? D |
Originally Posted by DontRemember
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Id be very cautious with leaving my kid(s) in the care of an alcoholic. Just know there's nothing you can do about her drinking. She has to be the one to want help |
Originally Posted by Naz88
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she’s never hurt the kids, she says she’s ok to watch them, she said if I take them away she’ll kill herself This woman should not be watching children. Wish there was a kinder, softer way to say it. You sound like a very sweet person. Shes a manipulative addict. Please dont subject your kids to that unhealthy dynamic. |
Originally Posted by venuscat
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Hello Naz. So much love. That is so hard....you need your mum and love her, but how do we help our parents when they are ill and can't help themselves? :hug: s Does you mum have a regular doctor, or perhaps do you? That would be my first step...I would call a medical person and get advice. I think there is more help now that is way more readily available. Just a thought. :hug: s xx ❤️ |
Originally Posted by ShiftHappens
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This woman should not be watching children. Wish there was a kinder, softer way to say it. You sound like a very sweet person. Shes a manipulative addict. Please dont subject your kids to that unhealthy dynamic. I can’t afford child care, I’d have to quit my job 😪 |
We need to accept that that is no longer the current medical point of view.....that unless she is willing there is nothing you can do. But I hear you. xx |
Even though she's your mum, I wouldn't be leaving children alone with her. It must be having some impact on them. I grew up with an alcoholic parent. It's impossible to fix them. They make promises to change and break them. I would try to get children out of that situation. |
Originally Posted by Mary88
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Even though she's your mum, I wouldn't be leaving children alone with her. It must be having some impact on them. I grew up with an alcoholic parent. It's impossible to fix them. They make promises to change and break them. I would try to get children out of that situation. |
But you could talk to a doctor who has the power to help and maybe intervene. I know it's horrendously hard, but I feel that reaching out is a way forward for you here. :hug: s |
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